You're going through huge changes, hun. Grief. Loss. Life changes like moving and uprooting yourself. Getting a divorce. That's big stuff. If your new ladyfriend doesn't have radar to tell herself that might not be an ideal time to dive into intimacy with someone, at least you do. I don't say that because I think it's wrong; I think you need to be happy and want you to feel the love you've been missing all this time. I just say that because of all the stuff that's going on in your life. It'd be a lot more surprising if you said you felt on top of the world and were ready to embark on a new relationship. You haven't even moved out of your house yet, for goodness sakes!

You're very good at expressing what's going on and identifying it. This is going to be a roller coaster time. Change always puts us through that. Try talking to the new lady and just explaining that it might be wise to postpone the physical part of that till you've had time to get your emotional breath, so to speak. If she's worthy of you, she'll understand. If she's not--and if she doesn't want a relationship with a guy who's emotionally ready to be with her--she'll keep pressing the issue. I know the sex wouild feel good. But you're after more than that, from what you've told us here, especially after where you've just been. (I'll admit, though, that all the guys I've ever known who've gotten divorced also needed some quick rebound sex for an immediate boost, and I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing.)

Go easy on yourself and give yourself a break. Take those hikes and nature walks. Feel and express those emotions. That's totally cool that you let some of that out last night. The roller coaster's going to continue for a while. You don't have to know exactly what to do and have it all sorted out. It'll work out the way it's supposed to. I wish I could give you a big hug right now!! Much love to you, Geonagual. I think you're very brave to seek the happiness you know you deserve. A lot of people subsist in miserable lives just because they think that's what they're supposed to do. You're one of the exceptions who's got the courage to find something better. XOX