I like what Kd had to say there except I'll take exception to one statement. He think this woman doesn't know she's controlling the relationship. I say she knows exactly what she is doing and it's certainly working so far isnt it?

Pockets you need to decide where your line is. You can't be changing it around because her friends are there or she gives you the blinky eyes or whatever....yeah yeah she had a good reason because.....blah blah. That is ALL part of the control game and it's standard operating procedure.

From what you have said I certainly am not getting any sense that she is interested in making the relationship work...remember what I said about wanting to change? Doesn't sound to me like she's got her sights set that way in any form. I'm a person who will give someone a few chances and thats it. Anyone can have a bad day or make a mistake. But stop listening to her words and start looking at her actions. That's where you will see the truth.....words can mean zero especially at the hands of someone who likes to use them as a means to an end.

Now...I will make clear that I feel the same way as everyone else here.....you are better off without her. Are you packed yet? I didn't think so so here we are and that's why we're talking about it.

You know my pre-marital counselor said an excellent statement to me way back when. "The rocks in your head fit the holes in mine." It takes two--she's not going to get anywhere unless you are letting her.

Pick a line. Stick by it. If she can't or won't...bye bye. Simple but not easy.

I sound fierce here and I don't mean it that way so don't take it personally.

PS...have not gotten any e-mail....if you can rep now rep me w/your e-mail address.