Fighting W/ Fiacee...

[pocketsrstillEmT]

I may be over reacting, or even childish for this, but it bothers the hell out of me...so I am gonna vent here. (You all are the lucky ones!)

Ok, I wake up this morning in a great mood, right...I got a phone call this morning telling me that I will be recieving a settlement in two weeks, and I am getting quite a bit of money-life was good. Then SHE gets chirped on her two way. I dont here the conversation, because I am talking to my uncle on the phone.

Then, she comes out of the bedroom, dressed and looking nice, with her purse. I look outside and a car is pulling in...by now I am like, "What the fuck is going on around here?"

Anyway, she says "I'm going with a couple of friends for a while...bye." I guess she could see this upset me because she asked me if I was mad. I said no, and kissed her goodbye, and she kinda joged to the car, giggling......

Then the car gets to the end of the driveway and speeds off....GGrrrr Damn it this heats me. Now, not only am I mad, but I think she is making fun of me too. I dont think I trust her too much, or something, cause this is really getting to me-and it shouldnt.

The reason I am pissed is that she didnt even talk to me first. I dont know, maybe I am way off here, but if I would have just jumped out of bed, got dressed and THEN tell her where I was going only moments before the ride pulled in the driveway...it would be a whole new ball of wax. I think I have a right, as her fiancee, to at the least know where shes going and whom with. I also think she should have talked to me FIRST, before she even told this person to come over...she didnt even ask how I felt about it.

Am I over reacting, or being a dick?

Thanks-Pockets

pocketsrstillEmT Reviewed by pocketsrstillEmT on 05-10-2007. Fighting W/ Fiacee... I may be over reacting, or even childish for this, but it bothers the hell out of me...so I am gonna vent here. (You all are the lucky ones!) Ok, I wake up this morning in a great mood, right...I got a phone call this morning telling me that I will be recieving a settlement in two weeks, and I am getting quite a bit of money-life was good. Then SHE gets chirped on her two way. I dont here the conversation, because I am talking to my uncle on the phone. Then, she comes out of the Rating: 5

[rebgirl420]

Your not over reacting. My guy wold shit a brick if I just left. He's ALWAYS with me as it is. He's like my best friend so were always side by side. We never leave without telling each other, hell he tells me where he's going when he's going outside to smoke a cig. I think that the proper thing for her to do would have been to tell you and/or ask if you would like to come also. I know its weird but I don't think ive been alone since we started dating 2 years ago (except for one or two rare times)

[stinkyattic]

I think you shouldn't even be in that situation to begin with.

But that's just me.

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[Psycho4Bud]

The reason I am pissed is that she didnt even talk to me first. I dont know, maybe I am way off here, but if I would have just jumped out of bed, got dressed and THEN tell her where I was going only moments before the ride pulled in the driveway...it would be a whole new ball of wax. I think I have a right, as her fiancee, to at the least know where shes going and whom with. I also think she should have talked to me FIRST, before she even told this person to come over...she didnt even ask how I felt about it.

Am I over reacting, or being a dick?

Thanks-Pockets

Common courtesy would state that she'd keep ya a bit informed BUT you never know.....maybe it's some type of suprise. Marriage is built on trust, IF you don't have that now I'd reconsider the fiancee thing or at least wait until it's there.

As for the "right to know".........she's an adult, your not adopting a child. Good luck to ya!:thumbsup:

Have a good one!

[Psycho4Bud]

We never leave without telling each other, hell he tells me where he's going when he's going outside to smoke a cig.

To each his/her own but that seems a bit restrictive. It sounds more like a BDSM relationship.........no offense!!

What works for some may not for others I guess.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[da dubs]

mmmmmmmmmmm....nasty one

dependind on how well yis are at communicating with one another,i reckon yis need to sit down and have a heart 2 heart..

tell her what you were thinking about what she did,without anger in your voice..
ask her would she like you doing the same,,and take it from there..


best of luck..:hippy: :smokin:

[rebgirl420]

To each his/her own but that seems a bit restrictive. It sounds more like a BDSM relationship.........no offense!!

What works for some may not for others I guess.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

Yeah its weird to some people but because were both extremely jealous and territorial people it works out fine haha

[make it legal]

It is a bit strange. She should have said at least what she was doing.

Good luck with this one.

[Hardcore Newbie]

I think you're overreacting, but hey, I've lost two prior girlfriends on account of the fact that I don't get jealous.

BUT, she asked if you were mad and you said "No". You had a chance to talk about it with her and you chose not to, so you essentially gave her permission to not even discuss it with you.

[pocketsrstillEmT]

ok, Im back online. I said I wasnt mad because she put me on the spot, while her friends were watching...I felt threatened.

As for communication, and asking her what she would do if it were flipped...well, I already had this chat with her once. To be perfectly honest, I think she did this on purpose-she KNOWS how I feel when it comes to this particular point.

rebgirl...we used to be the same way...

I think this is going to be a fall out-especially if she dont come back till the wee-hours again.