Quote Originally Posted by birdgirl73
You might want to look more closely at the original thread, Cannabis=Freedom, because you're the one who made that assumption, not me. Jimbo's not out having casual sex. At least not that he mentioned. In the story he related to us, the girl is. I'm afraid you put your own double standard on that, my friend.

If Jimbo had said he was out getting his jollies plowing as many girls as he could--or simply racking up serial BJs--I'd have said the same thing to him. Folks of either gender who're looking for validation from emotionally unconnected sex with people they don't know frequently have issues. Talk to anyone who works with people with sex addictions and you'll find this out, too, although I'm convinced the behavior doesn't have to have deteriorated to the point of sex addiction before it reflects less-than-ideal esteem. Guys may not think this is the case because there are an awful lot of guys out there who think they're supposed to behave in this fashion, but it's equally true for them, too. The distorted thinking is that they can bolster their masculinity with conquests. It's the same sort of thought pattern that motivates behavior in which someone tries to fulfill some internal need with external "stuff" like cars or clothes. In the end it doesn't work, and the compulsion to keep buying stuff or nailing strange women just continues infinitely because the intrinsic validation isn't occurring.

So in case I wasn't clear enough, it's very much a two-way street. There will be some macho, nail-as-many-as-you-can-get types who'll argue this. But I don't buy it at all. Neither does anyone with a brain or basic insight into psychology.
I absolutely agree with everything you said. I was unaware that you were referring to people of both genders, and I thought you were only referring to women. Thanks for clearing that up.