Quote Originally Posted by mrdevious
I just wanted to ask anybody else in chronic pain, or anybody with some knowledge on the psychology of the matter, if they experience or know of this. I know it's not really logical, but I'm finding lately in social situations that I feel really embarrased when I have to admit I'm in a lot of pain.

I'll just be sitting with my friends hanging out, smoking a joint, whatever. Sometimes we have some people with us that are more aquaintances and that makes it even more akward. And suddenly I'm finding that I'm in excrutiating pain (it just comes and goes randomly). So there I am, in a social situation with lots of people and lots of involved conversation, and all of a sudden I either have to admit I'm in pain all the time, or limp off to another room which makes it look obvious; what with the limping.

I'm not even sure why I find it so embarrasing, not exactly anyways. I think I'm just getting tired of having to bring it with me so much. It's like every time me and my friends are hanging out I have to constantly remind them. Even though they're always completely understanding, I have this overwhelming feeling that when it comes up they stop seeing "me" and start seeing a cripple. It's so humiliating to feel like I'm just "that cripple" in people's eyes.

Ugh, I don't know, is this really heard of? I mean does this normally happen to people in similar situations? Is there a way to get myself out of this mindset? But then again maybe it's justified, maybe they do see me that way now.

I can partially relate...I wash dishes in a restaurant right now and it doesn't require much physical work really but I do have to bend over quite a bit, if I catch a pain I usually find myself making a grunt or pausing and holding my back for a moment or so, and it makes me feel weird to see someone notice me doing so..

I do get the feeling though that some people think something like 'if you're hurting that bad then what the fuck are you doing here' but to be honest, I don't care what it is, if I'm capable of working, I'm still going to work, even if it can get uncomfortable at times.

Don't know that I've contributed anything, but don't worry man, I'm sure that people understand, especially if they're your friends. :thumbsup:
Markass Reviewed by Markass on . Chronic pain....embarrasement? WTF? I just wanted to ask anybody else in chronic pain, or anybody with some knowledge on the psychology of the matter, if they experience or know of this. I know it's not really logical, but I'm finding lately in social situations that I feel really embarrased when I have to admit I'm in a lot of pain. I'll just be sitting with my friends hanging out, smoking a joint, whatever. Sometimes we have some people with us that are more aquaintances and that makes it even more akward. And suddenly I'm Rating: 5