Oh all right you twisted my arm. My opinion is to talk to her as I said before about your plans. If you listen with new ears you may hear some surprising things and they may be good or they may be bad. She may indeed be a bad seed but who knows? You admit you are not studying this objectively. How can you? You are right in the middle of. I am a firm believer that people can change and improve their lives.

BUT .....golden rule here......NOBODY changes unless first they REALLY want to. Does she? Is she willing to work at it? How hard? Does that fit with what YOU want?

I will be back with soil questions later but will wait a few if you want to flip me off quickly or something.....then going to count seeds.