Last preach for the evening....i swear.

First I have never in my life seen somebody leave a relationship because someone else told them to. I'm sure it happens but I have never seen it myself.

Second....Once you decide what you really want......what would REALLY make you happy....then use that razor-sharp new found weapon honesty to help you decide how realistic that is in your present situation.

Third.....It takes two people to make a relationship. It doesn't matter how much you want to make things ok......a full 50% is on her.

I am now done. Sorry for the long-windedness