My hubby and I went on two dates then he moved in. (We had known each other two weeks at the time) Within two months we were engaged. Married at the nine month anniversary. If anyone else I knew ever did that I'd tell them I couldn't believe how stupid they are. This year is our fourteenth and I wouldn't change a single thing. Keep in mind I was in my 30's at the time and this was my first (and only) marriage.

Pre-marital counseling was the answer for me. It set the tone for our future relationship....I know that I for one would never have been able to negotiate a marraige without it. I discovered that not only was I going about things completely wrong but that I also wasn't being realisitic about my future.

Pockets I don't have any fears for you regarding whether or not the child is yours.....your heart is plenty big and that part will not matter. What will matter.....later.....is when you discover that loving someone and saving them are not the same thing.