Routine makes a huge difference for kids. That alone probably didn't cause the fears you had. My guess would be that the trauma and craziness played a bigger role in creating the irrational fears in your everyday life but that the absence of steadiness and predictability kept you from getting the reassurance you needed to offset the normal fears. The two worked together.

Some of the predictability factor is why it never hurts for new parents to be a little older and more educated before they have their families. If they've finished school and have gotten through the wild days of youth, they're generally better equipped to settle down and provide a steady routine for kids. Their wild oats have already been sewn, so to speak, so it's easier for them to settle down and raise kids through the formative years and endure that drudgery. Don't get me wrong. Kids are amazingly resilient. They can overcome plenty of bumps in the road. But they definitely benefit from steadiness and continuity. It gives them a steady emotional foundation. Emotionally steady parents help a lot with that, too.
birdgirl73 Reviewed by birdgirl73 on . here you go, for those net-doctors figure this one out... cuz no one so far has (a thread reminded me of this, figured i might as well ask... i'm quite curious why myself...) anyways, until i was 18, i had the fear/imaginiation fo a 7 year old... it's embarrasing to admit, but i'm past that point now, and want to know why... now i'm normal... just the usual shit that would scare an 18-21 year old male, scares me, so i'm passed it and want to know what was up with me before.. here's the deal.... i couldn't sleep in my Rating: 5