Sweet BFA, I want it to work out the way it's supposed to for you, too, hun. I have thought and thought about you this weekend, and I was thinking about you during my volunteer time yesterday afternoon.

Vileox's recommendation to be careful? That's really good advice. If and when the time does come that you make a break--and I'm not saying that that's what necessarily needs to happen, I'm just saying to keep this in mind--be aware that in intimate relationships when one person struggles with addiction and/or control issues, the time surrounding the breakup/separation is the time when the other party (who's most often the woman) is the most vulnerable to violence. I don't think your bf is likely to act in that way, but you never know. Just be prepared to look out for yourself. At the center where I volunteer, we recommend that ladies keep their cell phones on hand at all times and, for instance, never get in a physical position where you're apart from your car keys or where he's standing between you and an exit. May sound overly cautious but it's practical advice if the control issues kick in and the "abuser" is feeling threatened because his partner is exerting her independence.