i know it ain't what you wanna hear.. but i think it's pretty much evident of what needs to be done (especially cuz you say more than once if you're going to tell me to break up with him just don't post) but that's pretty much all there IS to do....

i doubt highly he's going to give up what he's doing.... and honestly, i wouldn't ask anyone to quit anything if i was with them.... i don't believe in trying to change people..... i've been on the inside of 'bad people' and i look at the facts... no one changes unless they want to... if friends/family wants someone to stop said thing, all it does is make them get more secretive/defensive over said thing....

a change can only come from within, and that's all there is to it.

the only thing short of ending it, would be to make him understand what this is doing to you, what it means to you, what HE means to you.... that you don't want to partake in this type of life, and if he wants to control you, he's also gotta let you be in control of somethings, such as cooking crack...

even tho it's not exactly hypocritical, i still think it's highly hypocritical he tells you not to have guys over, or not to wear certain clothes, but he's blatantly ignoring what you've asked him not to do (dxm, cooking crack)

i'm sorry to say it and don't hate me, you know i'm not just some idiot telling you shit you don't want to hear, just to aggervate you...

but at this point, it's almost inevitable.... the chances of him chaning are extremely slim.... so basicly your two choices are: 1. end the relationship, 2. deal with what he does and just accept it....

personally i'd go with the first...