I'm a 22 year old virgin

[cannabis campbell]

I know its hard but dont be self conscious and just be yourself dont worry about it

[mrdevious]

Just be up front and be yourself and if you get on then ask her to come out for a coffee or lunch or something. Don't even have to call it a date, just get friendly and if it's gonna lead somewhere then it most likely will...

You're absolutely right man, I've always wanted to do it in a way something like that. Now if only that girl will come along...

damn dude that sucks but to get what u want u simply have too stop worrying IT WILL GET U NOWHERE just calm down and u have to think all she can say is no dont doubt urself girls can tell shyness a mile away thinking negative will only scare u away from confrontation with them

Yeah, I get what you mean. As I understand it, women seem to be attracted to confidence. I think I may be more frightend of the prospect of her knowing I'm basically a cripple. Would anybody really want to be with a cripple? I don't know, I hope so.

Samwhore is very correct my friend.

Treat women as if its totally possible that you COULD have sex, and as if your totally NOT interested in them at all, at the same time. (basically speak confident)

That is, above all, the attitude that you should wake up with every morning... the mojo that you should incorporate into every day.

Im not saying change yourself, just your attitude...

If your as cool as you say you are, you should have no problem getting a nice girl to appreciate you, because you are one of few my friend. As for that attitude, that is what'll eventually get you laid.

Good luck bro

Ah yes, the old confidence issue again. You're all right about that, I need to emote confidence. At least I'm a lot more confident after trying E a couple weeks ago. The experience was not my cup of tea actually, but once I socialized with total comfort I definately learned how to relax. I'm not cured or anything, but I can at least talk to people now whereas before I would hide in a corner and avoid socialization at all costs. That drug really should only be used as a tool, not a high, in my opinion.

Honestly though I wouldn't/couldn't "act" confident, only work to make myself such. My whole life I've refused to put on a face for anybody, and I'm sticking to that. I think I'll meditate on confidence, and see what I can find.

Positive thoughts, and not unemotional disenfranchised thoughts are needed in your life.
do the following for 60 days.
Tell yourself a few things like the following before bed each night:
everday is a new day.
i experience great things everyday.
Everday, I try to talk and/or interact with my beautiful surroundings,
including the women I see.
Talking to women comes naturally, and they love me.

Every Morning say the following:
Everyday is different and exciting in its own way.
I intend to make the most of my day and feel the bliss in all the interactions I make.
Everyday I am grateful for the special women I see, and when I see them, I will ask them out.

it works!

You may have something there. I've actually managed to get myself out of pain by telling myself that I'm havin an endorphine rush over and over and over.... and it seems to happen, or at least my brain thinks it is. The mind is a remarkably powerful thing. I think I'll meditate on this as well, and reafirm certain messages like the one you mentioned. Thanks man.

And thanks everyone.

[rebgirl420]

meet someone on line?

[Coelho]

Dont worry about your age. Im 24 and still virgin. In my case its by my own choice, i only want have sex with a woman i want to spend all my life togheter. My ex-gf was one of those woman... but she left me before we did sex...
Anyways, my advice is much the same of the above ones. Last time i make out with a girl (and almost fucked her), we didnt knew each other, she was visiting my city and sleeping in my grandpa's house. So we talked a lot, and i noticed she was interested in me. As i wasnt interested in her, i could act very normally, completly cool, cause i didnt expected nothing to happen, so i had not why become anxious. But, as i kept noticing she seemed to really be interested, i started to act warmer and warmer towards her (easy when the mind is cool), and then we make out, then went to my granpa's home and i could have fucked her if i wished. She was really willing. I know many people will call me fool but i dont care. For me sex is more than just grinding and banging.
So, the important is to keep your head cool. Try to talk with a girl you dont find very attractive, so you can train your talking/flirting skills without anxiety. Doing it will improve also your self-confidence, and it helps a lot.
And good luck! It always helps! :thumbsup:

[JamaicanHerbMan]

Dont start off by looking for a GF look for a freind and let the relationship build. She's get to understand your situation more and you'll feel more comfortable around her. Just take it slow and steady, thats what wins the race.

[Bodom Children Of]

this thread made me laugh but i would probably be in your position if I didn't get lucky. :jointsmile: But like they said just don't think about it, it will happen just a matter of when. thats how i think about it anyway. Don't worry about it that much. There's a good line in the movie hostel that relates to "pussy" as in women but i can't quite remember it. sorry, just a high ramble

[pabloescobar209]

It's all about confidence. If I had the confidence in high school that I do now, I would have asked out every girl I saw.

[jaGerbom]

^^ yeah, im a nice guy too and some girls love that, but most, not so much. If you want a real relationship, be yourself, if you want some poon, be as cocky as u can be and youll atract the girls....and mayb shave ur nips? oh and never ask a girl if shes ok or if somethings wrong. like u can ask that but not repeatedly over and over, that seems to turn them right the fuck off.

[napolitana869]

I dont know how open you are to this idea but you could always try an online dating site. A lot of people dont like them, but you can meet some nice girls that way. My brother is a nice guy with a good job but he just didnt have the confidence to pick up girls. He has a really nice girlfriend now and he met her off one of those sites. Even if you don't find the girl of your dreams this way, you could get the experience and confidence needed to ask out someone you may already know and be attracted to. Good luck.

[crazyape]

doN,t want to hurt you but it's normal not to have any girlfriend when you don,t go outside a lot or have a normal activity like school or job... that's key, because after you have made you friends, you meet their friends and friends of their friends and blablabla... and there's always a girls for you in ths bunch of peps ;p