To any dads out there, or if you're expecting or planning on having kids, etc

[420marijuana420]

The other thing is, Fenzgi when I tell girls this (obviously not the ones I'm trying to get with but the ones who are my friends) they just don't want to hear it. "He's different" or "It's not like that this time" but IT ALWAYS IS. So if she can't even except that from her peers, what would make her want to hear it from dad?

[Fengzi]

The other thing is, Fenzgi when I tell girls this (obviously not the ones I'm trying to get with but the ones who are my friends) they just don't want to hear it. "He's different" or "It's not like that this time" but IT ALWAYS IS. So if she can't even except that from her peers, what would make her want to hear it from dad?

Good point, and one that I've thought of too. But that's not really the approach I plan on taking. I'm not as concerned about her not having sex as I am concerned that, if she does, her head is in the right place.

I think the big mistake a lot of parents make is that they tell their daughters that sex is some incredible special thing that should be shared only with someone you truly love, that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with. The girls get this notion that sex is some holy treasure and then when the guy dumps her she's crushed.

I went to a Catholic High School for my freshman and sophmore years and found that those girls were far easier to get into bed than the other girls I knew. Why? My guess was that is was because the church put sex up on this high pedestal that was fobidden. That just made it all the more tempting. Like some shiny treasure that just beckoned to be grabbed.

So, I want my daughter to know that sex isn't forbidden, it isn't some holy treasure. Not make such a big deal of it. But I will stress the dangers; std's and pregnancy, as well as dangers to her reputation. Hopefully this will lead her to make wise choices.

[420marijuana420]

Ya Catholic school girls definetely aren't any harder to get . But to be fair they really aren't in the dark when it comes to sex, they know just as mch as regular kids. They just choose to ignore what they were taught.

[Psycho4Bud]

Before my daughter could go on a date with the young man he'd have to have a lil' visit with me. I'd take him out to the kitchen, break out a hotdog from the fridge with a butcher knife and explain to him my concerns of my babys well being while doing some dicing........

I'm SURE we'd get along just fine!:thumbsup:

Have a good one!:thumbsup:

[birdgirl73]

My dad had a way of talking to guys and shaking their hands and looking them dead in the eye that I realize now was meant to intimidate. Just slightly. My dad is a fairly civilized type, not prone to violence or threats. But he wanted the boys to know who was boss, and as a college professor, he had this uncanny ability to look people in the eye and practically see into their souls and identify honorable vs. dishonorable intentions. Maybe it was from all the years of lies about homework and college term papers.

These days in the Dallas area, there's a T-Mobile cell phone ad on TV that features a dad talking to his daughter's date, who's come to pick her up, and pointing out that because his picture is next to her boyfriend's on her cell phone, it's as if constantly watching the boyfriend. He says this very threateningly and seriously. My husband said, "That guy on that ad reminds me a lot of your dad, and not in a good way, either."

[420marijuana420]

My dad had a way of talking to guys and shaking their hands and looking them dead in the eye that I realize now was meant to intimidate. Just slightly. My dad is a fairly civilized type, not prone to violence or threats. But he wanted the boys to know who was boss, and as a college professor, he had this uncanny ability to look people in the eye and practically see into their souls and identify honorable vs. dishonorable intentions. Maybe it was from all the years of lies about homework and college term papers.

These days in the Dallas area, there's a T-Mobile cell phone ad on TV that features a dad talking to his daughter's date, who's come to pick her up, and pointing out that because his picture is next to her boyfriend's on her cell phone, it's as if constantly watching the boyfriend. He says this very threateningly and seriously. My husband said, "That guy on that ad reminds me a lot of your dad, and not in a good way, either."

:S2:......................... that's funny

[Bree1978]

That was a very good story. Thank you for sharing!


:jointsmile: Bree

[thecreator]

I think about that sit alot but personally I plan on informing my children so they can properly handle life and its problems. As a man who matured quickly I know that when I was 16 I really tried my best to think with one head not the other and I'd hope my child would think with such celerity.

[slowlickitysplit]

I find this whole thread almost "cute" in it's niativity. I have 2 boys 13 and 12, and a daughter who is 9. I have had the birds and bees talk with all of them more then once so I know of what I speak and here is my view...
Take a look around at all the women in your life...they have all gone through the heart wrenching "romantic" years and come out the other side as normal, well adjusted women. It seems to me that this is a right of passage just like fighting for boys. I am not worried about heartbreak for my daughter. She is strong and will survive. In fact, I worry more about my boys not surviving a bad fight (Yes, they are dumb as bricks, even the high honor one!).
I also wonder, and some of you women may be of help here, but I suspect many women look back at this period of thier lives with longing foe those days when she was "alive", just as many men look back at thier "exciting" days.

- Slow -

[rebgirl420]

John had to ask my dads permission to date me haha