Quote Originally Posted by 420marijuana420
The other thing is, Fenzgi when I tell girls this (obviously not the ones I'm trying to get with but the ones who are my friends) they just don't want to hear it. "He's different" or "It's not like that this time" but IT ALWAYS IS. So if she can't even except that from her peers, what would make her want to hear it from dad?
Good point, and one that I've thought of too. But that's not really the approach I plan on taking. I'm not as concerned about her not having sex as I am concerned that, if she does, her head is in the right place.

I think the big mistake a lot of parents make is that they tell their daughters that sex is some incredible special thing that should be shared only with someone you truly love, that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with. The girls get this notion that sex is some holy treasure and then when the guy dumps her she's crushed.

I went to a Catholic High School for my freshman and sophmore years and found that those girls were far easier to get into bed than the other girls I knew. Why? My guess was that is was because the church put sex up on this high pedestal that was fobidden. That just made it all the more tempting. Like some shiny treasure that just beckoned to be grabbed.

So, I want my daughter to know that sex isn't forbidden, it isn't some holy treasure. Not make such a big deal of it. But I will stress the dangers; std's and pregnancy, as well as dangers to her reputation. Hopefully this will lead her to make wise choices.