daZenfmeister has a great point there. Your kids will want to come back to visit you because of the fun they have with their pa, not because of the cool stuff he gets them. ever wonder how grandmothers do it? 'spoiling them rotten' isn't even necessary. a kind word, maybe a cookie that you baked with them, and they will start to realize how different you and your ex really are. and your children will appreciate those differences.