An important "How to"?(sanity)

[crazyape]

Hi buddies!
it's been a while i didn't post anything, but eh neway...
This is a bit important to me. I tell you the shit that's going on.
In the last months, i met a girl who's 20 and i'm 18... she haves a one year old boy and her fiancée is still in the portrait, but I KNOW and she knows too, that she really doesn't love him anymore, since she gave birth one year and a half before now.So we hooked as friend... and we had the big fun together, after a while then, she becames my best friend and we told EVERYTHING WE THINK about life in general, society and love and what they mean. After that, our relation became really really fucking deep, like i've never seen anywhere else, neither in my friends, familly, stories or movies. But the fact is, we didn't "love" each other like b/f and g/f but more like "soulmates" and we had difficult to split our feelings into love or "deep-liking".
To make long story short (even if it's big enough :abduct: ), with the beginning of the next session for college, she became more distance so instead of talking to her every day, i talk to her one time for a month she's very very very distance, when i talk to her now is like pretty different from the past. and to be even more cruel, she told me that she has returned with the father of her son, even if i know she really don't love him, wtf????
Why would a person who love you and that you love you would do that to you?
OK sorry for all this little details, but my main question is there a "how to forget old relation?" do you have any technik cause i'm a bit confused now and some friends told me to go see a psy because it's been like 2 months and i can't get over all this shit... so if you have any advice or god things to say to me, this would be freakin awesome
P.S. Don't tell me to go see a psy and if you have any question about ths foggy situation go ahead and ask

crazyape Reviewed by crazyape on 04-25-2007. An important "How to"?(sanity) Hi buddies! it's been a while i didn't post anything, but eh neway... This is a bit important to me. I tell you the shit that's going on. In the last months, i met a girl who's 20 and i'm 18... she haves a one year old boy and her fiancée is still in the portrait, but I KNOW and she knows too, that she really doesn't love him anymore, since she gave birth one year and a half before now.So we hooked as friend... and we had the big fun together, after a while then, she becames my best friend Rating: 5

[rebgirl420]

hmm well hun you pretty much have to wait it out. There is no special cure for forgetting about someone you have feelings for.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

Honestly bud, you gotta think of this way..maybe she's doing what she thinks is best for her child and not herself, or you.

[40oz]

My first bit of advice to you is to remind you that there are plenty of fish in the sea....some people forget that.

My second is that some people have a hard time getting over serious relationships. A lot of people do actually. If this girl had a kid with that guy, they must have some pretty deep roots. She may be just as confused as you but she doesn't know what to do so she got back with the guy she had, what she felt, was the deepest connection to her. It is hard to win a girl over when she is in that state, especially if you don't completley understand the situation.

On the other hand, she may have never really loved you the same way you loved her and she's moving on. You have to be aware of that. The greatest thing you can do for anything you love is to set it free.

[rebgirl420]

^^^^ Reps for that. You took the words from my mouth

[crazyape]

yeah promps to all you guys you're all right, but the problem is that there's a lot and a lot of things that remind her... like when i listen to music that reminds me her ( i know it's a classic, but after a while this shouldn't be gone, this pain while listenning?) and like other stuffs that i don't remind right now but l tought this kinda things should have gone earlier but i didn't pass over it wtf... it's like more powerful than me, like she was in everythings i do in my life... i tought a blue would pass after maximum one month not 2 or 3 wtf is wrong with me!? And i'm not like hum Yeah i'm always at home doing nothing but listening to music drawing and being vedgy. Nop, i go clubbing with friends, there's actually this girl i very apreciate i think i'm falling in love, but this doesn't affect the fact that i still feel what i told you...
But i know why she returned with john(that his name XD) that's because she doesn't want to be alone with her son and no cash and etc...
when you really look deeply into someone's eyes, you know her, you kown she feels, what she thinks, and if this person is lying to you i can told you one thing, she never had sex since she gave birth... and i was the one who gave again the desire to have sex... i smelt it... sorry for this detail, i had to put it so you could understand me and i'm not under-estimate myself cause i know a lotta guys do that but this time, it's true
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