Quote Originally Posted by kdspecial
Has she really reached out to me and stripped down to really try and help me undersatnd the situation and her feelings for US?

Or has she just gotten scared that I really wasn't going to chase after her. like I usually do.
Very interesting wrap up...

Don't know if you got my last email but that chasing bit... yikes. Deja vu.

Either way, the idea of only smoking on weekends isn't a half bad one as a compromise.

If she is serious that the reason she wants to you lay off the stuff is for a healthier lifestyle, don't forget that a lot of pro athletes still smoke... a healthy lifestyle goes much deeper... maybe suggest to her that you join a gym together or a cycling club, because then not only will you have something you can do as a couple, it is also healthy, and the social aspects of cycling clubs are totally great! Of course in my experience there's plenty of toking and beer there too, hahaha, but at least you earned it, right?

And then you are saying that you ended up on antidepressants last time you quit smoking? Well there again you guys have GOT to replace smoking with an activity if you want to really make a change.

Counseling... I hope she does not look at it as you have a drug problem and need help with that; if you are fighting depression or anxiety that's one thing and yea, I have had good luck with both therapy and stony indicas for my own anxiety problems... IMHO they both have a place in its treatment, far more than mainstream pharmaceuticals, which I look at as the least desirable option because of the side effects.

I still think you guys need a change of scenery... what's the chance you can get out of the city this weekend and go enjoy the springtime? If your relationship has become sitting on the sofa and smoking, what do you have left to do but bicker? I think in a successful partnership you have to really make an effort to DO things that keep reinforcing positive experiences and remind you why you like each other.