Before you smoke make sure you're already thinking that everbody has a life outside you and that they have their own lives to live and they cant be focused on you all the time... and if they do focus on you all the time, take it as they dont have a life outside of you and because it seems that you are one of the most important things in their life i'd be flattered if that was the case and it is the case because dont spend time or effort on someone who doesnt matter. right?