How do I deal with this!?

[grasshopper420]

NOTE: this is a non BEEPin thread so dont do that

[GHoSToKeR]

I know bro, but it's against her religion, plus she has asthma and ME.. She just won't try it lol

[napolitana869]

I have experience from the other side of the situation. I'm bi polar among other things and I know that I do things like that to the people I'm closest to, but at the time that it's happening it really feels like the whole world is against you and that you have to fight everyone to have anything. It's not until later that I'll realize I over reacted and feel guilty about hurting the people I love. Stress is a major predictor of when I'll have an episode. Does your mom do anything she enjoys? Maybe you could get her to start a hobby like gardening or yoga, and thing that might help calm her down and feel better about herself. It's important for you to vent too. When ever something like that happens, just talk to someone about it. Get all that anger and frustration out.

[SmokeyToker]

Wow. I think you might of just sumed up my life right there in that little post. My mom is the exact same way. See I am diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety. Im the first person in my family to actually be on medicine for those kind of things and seek psychiatric help, my conclusion is that my whole family is crazy and since they never seek help cause they believe it is shameful for them to admit they have a problem, i have to deal with their erratic behavior. The thing Ive learned from suffering from the disease myself is alot of the things that come across to other people as screaming, ranting etc... actually dont register in the persons mind as coming across that way. Alot of the time I just snap, yelling at my family and friends, knowing that I have no reason to be yelling at them and I often think afterwards how bad I feel and apologize, so you must realize it is not always necessaraly your fault and that the reason they are lashing out on you is because there is so much crazyness going on in there body that they will take it out on whom ever is around. Trust me I know dealing with people like this takes a fuck ton of patience, but the best thing Ive learned about is just to do my shit, do what my mom asks me because its a 100% better than having to listen to her bitch. Ive learned to shrug it off and laugh about it, its not something to hold deep resentment and anger against a person, you must realize they are suffering from a disease, and learn to deal with it no matter how frustrating it may seem.

[GHoSToKeR]

napolitina, thanks! Yes, she does, but only on a small scale. I try and get her to come out with me to do all sorts of stuff, even just going for walks.. We live on a beautiful little island and the scenery can cheer anybody up, but of course suffering with M.E. usually prevents her doing that. I've suggested other things, but I think a side-effect of her depression is a lack of motivation (something I can empathise with completely.. lol). She has her religion, and although I'm extremely anti-religion and would call myself an atheist, I'm happy that she has something that brings happiness to her life, and I try to talk to her about it as much as possible. She has said the same things to me that you've just said, and I understand.. But it still hurts sometimes, you know?

SmokeyToker, I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with those things. You're right, sometimes putting up with it is all you can do, but I didn't realise until now how theraputic it can be to just.. talk about it.

[napolitana869]

You sounds like you're a really good son. Always remember that you're not alone in this.

[GHoSToKeR]

Sorry for a second I thought you said "It sounds like you're really god's son".. I was gonna ask how did you know?

Thanks for the compliment. And thank you just in general.

[napolitana869]

I cant disclose my sources.