i dunno i think the three of you are judging it fast....

fi we're to offer any feed back, we need thw whole story.. from friendship to the obvious seperation..

but i have to agree, nothing good could realy come of the letter.. it seems more like an attack, but with phrases that make it seem like you're trying ot make it NOT seem like an attack, although it still is.. i dunno if that makes sense...?

i'm not sure what happened, but i definately think you guys need to work it out... not work it out as become friends again, but things ended on bad terms are never good for any party...

you obviously have alot of feelings, as i'm sure he does (if you guys were best friends, there's of course alot of feelings involved) and i don't think i'd be wrong ot assume she probably has some feeling in it as well...

w/e action you take, if you don't 'solve' or hash this shit out now, i can promise you'll regret it years down the line, no matter how bad you think you 'hate' him now.. eventually it'll wear down on your conscience.. and by then it may be too late to say the things you so obviously want to say right now.

oh yeah, just some advice in this type of situation shoudl you decide to deal with it all... there's going to be alot fo listening and not a whole lot of talking.. well, atelast how it seems to you... it's only natural to have like 100 things to say to the 'offensive' person's 1... but you have to stay civil and patient...

nothing ever gets worked out by yelling over the other, or dismissing what he says... stay calm, let him speak his peace, keep it civil, no need for insults or 'well yeah you do XXXX' crap... if he interupts you, still be kind and say something along the liens of "i've let you speak your peice, may i speak mine"...

btw, my rules obviously tie into live contact... personally, the more personal, the better... if you're both 'there' you can see the experessions of the other, and see how geniunely it's affected them...

these are just my tips of course... you can still chooose to send that letter, but i promise you, after a few years, you're gonna wish you didn't and even more so, took my advice..