a letter to a old friend

[invision]

i wanted to get this off my chest, its botherd me for years thinking about it and im unsure if i should send it or am i beating the dead horse with this one.

its long but good..................

you know jon it still to this day amazes me why you dont ever talk to me or audrey, it has now been about 3yrs and we still to this day dont speak, i realized along time ago are friendship would never be the same, or will it ever be the same.

i do not want to be your friend, this is not meant to try to mend anything between us because i no longer feel a friendship would ever work out, but do not take this as a bashing letter.

we always did end up bumping heads, we would always argue and fight over the stupidest of shit, i just dont think we made good friends when it came to certain things in life.

i did not try to step on you in any way, i never meant to hurt you, and it was never my intention of us not being friends, nor did i ever try back stab you in anyway.

though you may think differently of everything and im sure you do i have never hated you for it, infact i sometimes wished things were much different for us sometimes, you really were the only person i could really try and share music and games with, for some reason i felt you never accepted me, i could never live up to craigs standards as a friend and i never tried too, its a pity we couldnt more get along as we used to.

when you came back from living in louisiana you came back a changed person for life, you were no longer you and for what ever reasons you became someone else, i want you to remember that it was me and audrey who helped you out in the end of all that mess and we didnt say much of anything about it. we cared more of your safety than anything else and having you back home was a great thing except you somehow didnt feel quite the same about it.

now on the subject of me and audrey.....

i cant help i liked audrey and i never planned on getting together with her behind your back, i know this was the biggest dent in our friendship, after me and audrey started dating you didnt even want to hang out with us after time went on, you kept claiming you felt like the third wheel and im sorry you felt that way but that was your hang up and we tried not to make you feel any less of a friend to us.

we tried for the longest time to get you to come out but you choose to stay home and be by yourself playing with the computer and xbox rather spend time with us, that to me was really lame of you and im sorry if you took this offensive but we dont want to stay indoors and waste life away when there is so much to be had elsewhere.

when me and audrey found out we were having a baby our friendship was basically to its brittle end and when you ignored the fact that we sent you pictures of our baby and you couldnt even write us back a "hey fuck you" or anything and just acted like we didnt even exist, thats when i told myself i dont need friends like that.

i wish it could be diffrent but i lived to face the fact that we dont make the best of friends and im ok with that, i just want you to know i still think about us, and i hold no regret for what has happened, you made a great friend, but we lost it.

its ok to say hi to me if we ever meet again as i hold no grudge against you,

your old friend

invision Reviewed by invision on 04-09-2007. a letter to a old friend i wanted to get this off my chest, its botherd me for years thinking about it and im unsure if i should send it or am i beating the dead horse with this one. its long but good.................. you know jon it still to this day amazes me why you dont ever talk to me or audrey, it has now been about 3yrs and we still to this day dont speak, i realized along time ago are friendship would never be the same, or will it ever be the same. i do not want to be your friend, this is not meant to Rating: 5

[Inferius]

Please don't send that letter.
You'd only be wasting someones time,
and most likely their emotional response.
Keep it to yourself, be proud of your emotional honesty, but there is absolutely no good to come of it, and if I was this kid receiving this letter i'd be pretty fucking annoyed at you.

[rebgirl420]

wow...you seem like such a dick

[Scarlet Sky]

wow...you seem like such a dick

wow, that was blatant...

invision, i like you babe; i think you are a great guy; but i think you are also a little self absorbed...

you see, people go different ways in life. sometimes a bond between freinds can last a lifetime, some times only a few hours in a crucial bind. but, it's not the parting that we should obsess over, it's the times that make the relationship truely valuable. so he's not your blood bro now, i'm sure that at one time you had a great time together...

don't send the letter. live and let die.

imo...

[rebgirl420]

hahah scarlet, yeah it came out very blunt. But I dont like to "beat around the bush".

[Scarlet Sky]

hmmm, i noticed...

sometimes though, imo, a little tact is better.

[rebgirl420]

I suppose haha

[Scarlet Sky]

last word....

[slipknotpsycho]

i dunno i think the three of you are judging it fast....

fi we're to offer any feed back, we need thw whole story.. from friendship to the obvious seperation..

but i have to agree, nothing good could realy come of the letter.. it seems more like an attack, but with phrases that make it seem like you're trying ot make it NOT seem like an attack, although it still is.. i dunno if that makes sense...?

i'm not sure what happened, but i definately think you guys need to work it out... not work it out as become friends again, but things ended on bad terms are never good for any party...

you obviously have alot of feelings, as i'm sure he does (if you guys were best friends, there's of course alot of feelings involved) and i don't think i'd be wrong ot assume she probably has some feeling in it as well...

w/e action you take, if you don't 'solve' or hash this shit out now, i can promise you'll regret it years down the line, no matter how bad you think you 'hate' him now.. eventually it'll wear down on your conscience.. and by then it may be too late to say the things you so obviously want to say right now.

oh yeah, just some advice in this type of situation shoudl you decide to deal with it all... there's going to be alot fo listening and not a whole lot of talking.. well, atelast how it seems to you... it's only natural to have like 100 things to say to the 'offensive' person's 1... but you have to stay civil and patient...

nothing ever gets worked out by yelling over the other, or dismissing what he says... stay calm, let him speak his peace, keep it civil, no need for insults or 'well yeah you do XXXX' crap... if he interupts you, still be kind and say something along the liens of "i've let you speak your peice, may i speak mine"...

btw, my rules obviously tie into live contact... personally, the more personal, the better... if you're both 'there' you can see the experessions of the other, and see how geniunely it's affected them...

these are just my tips of course... you can still chooose to send that letter, but i promise you, after a few years, you're gonna wish you didn't and even more so, took my advice..

[ericwt]

Nothing positive can come out of this letter.

It is good you expressed yourself and all but the letter will not generate anything but hostility.
I would just let it go.