Dry, I'm hoping you were a bit heavy into the green when you responded to me, too, because you certainly interpreted what I said about grownup men who are past their peak hormonal urges making more desirable lovers/partners/parents in a very extreme manner. That wasn't what I said or meant at all.

You'll have to trust me that I've not only discussed this very subject with my husband, father, and grandfather but that I also have proof in books and labs all over the country that men's testosterone levels decrease as they age. That doesn't mean guys don't continue to have sexual thoughts 9 times more often than we do. Y'all still do that. You're guys. But that slight dip in the hormonal drive to literally jump anyone with a vagina does occur. It's when that happens and guys aren't as on prowl anymore that I believe they truly come into their own as men instead of boys. They can concentrate on all sorts of things in addition to their own sexual urges. Like being a lover who's concerned about his partner's pleasure in addition to his own. About emotional intimacy. About children, if they're in the picture. This doesn't happen when men are old and wrinkly and saggy. That's an insult to grownup men, frankly. It generally begins to happen in the early 30s, sometimes before, and the testosterone levels decline slowly and steadily over time. This doesn't in any way render guys incapable sexually or from an erectile standpoint. It doesn't make them saggy or old. It just means their androgen (male hormone) levels change, which affects their brains and urges.

If you want some tips about how to stave off that dip as long as possible and remain a virile, Viagra-free horn-dog well into your 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond, we'll see if we can't get Dave Byrd, our resident circulatory expert, back on here to address this topic. He's living proof that that can be done, and he's just turned 50 and has never been sexier.