Update, one looks as though it wants to just roll over and die. It fell over and I had to resoil and used some of the original soil(not the organic I tried to switch it to).

I am still using water with 10-15-10 food in it but am wondering if I can use Food for Roses at 15-30-15? I am also wondering if I can do the "Fimming" thing to the healthy one?

How soon till I know if it's a boy and ditch it?
Oh and I am now usiing 2 23watt CFL's do I really need much more at this stage, especially if I let the one die would 2 23's be enough for 1 plant?

Thanks in advance.