woohoo!

[rebgirl420]

I definitely know what you are saying about putting your life in perspective. You realize some things you thought were important really aren't. Before I got cancer, I was such an arrogant bastard, at times I thought I was superman, and nothing could stop me. I definitely think I am a better person now than before, more positive, and optimistic.

That's rough tho, my chemo cycle was to do it for 1 week than take a 2 week break. You had it much worse than I, and I can see the strength within you.

thanks hun, you too are very very strong for beating it too. But yeah, at the time before they said i was a level 3 I was involved in the juvenile detention system and in and out of group homes and lock down facilities...not anymore, havent been in trouble since

[thcbongman]

hey, I'm a stage III too!

Before I found out I had cancer, I got arrested in OC for possession of 2 substances, neither of which I was in possession of, just because no one would admit it was theirs. They dropped the charges largely because they had compassion I have cancer.

This is pretty ironic. lol.

[rebgirl420]

haha yeah I use the cancer card sometimes but usually I hate how people always do the whole, 'awww poor you with your cancer, your sickly" kind of crap. it just pisses me off. i hate when my family brings it up.

[thcbongman]

I rarely use the cancer card, I'm one of those people that if you can't do it, I'll do it. I don't have the patience to wait around for others, so if you wanna do it, do it, otherwise I'm fine! The other thing I'm glad is you realize who you're real friends are. There's a couple of jackasses I once called friends who I realized looked down upon me once I had cancer. I'm glad they are out of my life, they brought me nothing but trouble.

[rebgirl420]

i know! My brothers (ages 31 and 35) refused to talk to me at all when i had cancer! So did most of the family. They acted like it was contagious! Friends too, about half of my friends just bolted, its like they were waiting for me to die or something. But now I have a significant other who didnt even flinch. He stayed with me through everything, even when they thought I had it again. Weve been engaged on and off and I sware, i cant wait to marry that man. THATS a keeper!

[Reefer Rogue]

Wow dude, congrats.

[smoke it]

nice dude.

[Skink]

Good deal!!! Shows the there are still some good and decent people in this world...

Live long and prosper,,, both of you!!!

[birdgirl73]

Live well and be happy. That's all that matters. Not surface stuff. Not material things. Having people to love and valuing every day is what matters. And it matters to be kind. I'm convinced of that.

I've not had cancer personally, but most everyone here knows I watched my older sister lose her battle with ovarian cancer back in November. It has changed my attitudes about everything. We had friends--these are friends who are in the medical community, mind you--who were so uncomfortable with the Big C and the fact that we had a terminal cancer patient in the house that they stopped coming around socially. They didn't know what to say. It made them feel funny, I guess. These were doctors and nurses, lots of them. I find that hard to get past. I've not been in a hurry to try and reconnect with any of them, and I hate it when I hear that other people have experienced the same thing with their supposed "friends."

Much love to you both, THCBongman and Rebgirl, and to everyone else who survives cancer or helps someone through it. It takes a lot of courage.