I rarely use the cancer card, I'm one of those people that if you can't do it, I'll do it. I don't have the patience to wait around for others, so if you wanna do it, do it, otherwise I'm fine! The other thing I'm glad is you realize who you're real friends are. There's a couple of jackasses I once called friends who I realized looked down upon me once I had cancer. I'm glad they are out of my life, they brought me nothing but trouble.