no father

[timothylearyisdead]

My dad was cool as shit but I only got to see him once every 6 months maybe from when I was born to when he died when I was 10, so I kinda got the same situation too. I don't let it get me down too much though.

[BabyFacedAbortion]

My brother graduated before me. He asked my dad if he wanted tickets to his graduation, he actually bought extra ones just for him and his wife. My dad said he already got them, which is impossible as he doesn't live in the same town as us and they don't just sell tickets to random people, you have to fill out a form. So my brother, wanting to stay hopeful left it at that. Me, doubting my asshole wanna be dad, searched up and down every row of parents for my daddy's smiling face and he wasn't there. He lied to my brother and my brother still doesn't know, he just (says) he assumes he left early.

My dad left when I was 10. I wish he left when I was younger, 'cause I got a taste of a great dad who morphed into a peice of shit. I've never wished death upon anyone but him. He began taking steroids when I was 8, which none of us knew about..we only knew about his obsession with working out. He wasted tons of money on a home gym in our basement, got a membership to a gym about 4 towns over and then eventually began working there to help our money problems (which were caused by him). After two years of working there, one night he just didn't come home. He didn't call or visit my family for three days, and when he finally did he broke the news. A year later he got a "room mate"..her name was Liz. Eventually he told my mom he was cheating on her for two years and met Liz at the gym. A few years later, when I was 14 or 15 he got married to her and invited all of his half of the family but not me. He didn't even tell me about it until on one of our very few visits, I saw a wedding ring.

I haven't talked to my father in two years. He doesn't call, send birthday or holiday cards, he doesn't even realize my existance.

I feel you bro.

[Matt the Funk]

I was never close with my dad until the past year or so. He use to be pretty mean to me and my mom, but he matured. He is still really odd though. He didn't have a father,and his mom work pretty much 24/7, and early in life he went down a bad path and fucked up his brain. Atleast you made good descisions without a father. My mom also didn't have a dad, or mom. But she had her grandparents, who I think are good enough as parents.And until I was about 9 I only saw my parents around an hour total a day, sometimes less. So in a way I know where you are coming from, but I don't really. My mom shows resentment towards her father, and my dads didn't really have a way to live.

[orangeman]

I had my dad until my teen years. Home problems started when I was younger though. At first it pained me and drove me mad but honestly as I got older I realized that the guy was such a fuckin home wrecker I was relieved to see him leave. Now that he isn't around as much my depression problem really seems to have stopped. And I haven't even been smoking weed and still no depression. I guess that means when I finally start back I can enjoy my high even more since I'm not escaping from anything .

[get_bent_pay_rent]

personally i feel their are over-rated, my father left me and mom before my first birthday. had to learn a whole lotta shit on my own but i turned out fine.
whether or not my life would of turned out the same i dont know, never will but i'm cool with that.

[smoke it]

wow. sorry dude. my dad was pretty much always there, except for a couple years when he was depressed. i can only imagine what it feels like.

[Storm Crow]

We've all got our stories- Mine is a VERY bi-polar mother and a usually absent father (Navy- on subs for 6 month stretches). Life with Mom was sometimes a lot of fun, sometimes pure hell. The thing to remember is that we should not make the mistakes our parents made. They screwed us over and we survived in spite of them! We are stronger than they were/are and it is time to "break the chain" of abuse! Scarred as we are, WE CAN DO THAT!!! We can stop the abuse and choose not to hurt our kids. Don't pass on the madness and pain to your kids! Let go of your past and start living "here, now". It isn't easy, but it can be done! My love to all my fellow survivors- Granny:hippy:

[originalblu]

you can have one of mine

i got 2 dads, my mom divorsed my blood father and he lives with me in the basement, my mom just divorsed my seconed dad and he still lives with her on the second floor,, my bother and his girl friend also live in the same house,, its fuckin weird all livin togeather

[OpJ]

Bud,
My parent's divorced early when I was 6. I now, just at 35, realize how it has effected me over the years. You can't expect a deep relationship with an another individual who never learned how to reseprocate love. Day by day another day we wish was different but we have to learn to accept reality. Life is a journey and sometimes hard, and sometimes beautiful in fantastic ways. I now just wish that my kids had a grandfather who was part of there lives, and they do, just on my wifes side of the family not mine.

Its the knowing that things could be different that is hard. I even now and after counseling still have an irresistable urge to try and change things. You can't. Just try to do the best you can. Your not alone.

[timothylearyisdead]

People that have to learn stuff on their own turn out to be better people. I know a bunch of college kids that had the "perfect upbringing" and now they're completely lost in life. Me and my real friends, the people I can actually relate to, seem to be doing a HELL of a lot better at this point than those people.