I think Mattks1 is exactly right. Most people, in my experience, don't suck. It's just that the ones who do are the ones we remember more easily. My impression is that most people are pretty cool in at least some way. It's a matter of uncovering the coolness. I've learned that lesson here better than anywhere else, but it seems to extend to other parts of life and give me a nice sense of peace about people's differences.