see, you can get away with saying such things to her MJM. you yourself are a woman (right? thats what I thought) and as such you are safe from the 'you think I look fat?' situations us men have to deal with. but seriously, she's not likely to be comfortable in the tight clothing, right? I sure as hell wouldn't be...simply suggest that she might not be so constricted in clothing that fits properly. and she also wouldn't look quite so fat...I much prefer my wife telling me before we go out that I have an hole in the ass of my pants big enough to escape from, rather than find out as I take my seat at the symphony and cause the old lady behind me to faint.