It is amazing how words used at an exact moment of someones vulnerability can cause so much pain. I as a teenager was also gifted with a very smartarse mouth and considered myself to be smarter than my mother. Now I realise the reason I was "smarter and righter than her" was because my reasoning did not consider her experiences, or things through the eyes of a concerned mother, it only considered my life and my experiences and me twisting things to suit me and no one else.

Your mum probably doesn't talk about it all the next day because when she is angry or upset she vents her feelings as soon as she sees you and maybe just like you after calming down she sees that she may have been hot headed or cruel in her reaction or that she has said all she has to say.

She is bringing you,up on her own (am I right?) she has no partner to help her read warning signs or confer with on how to bring you up or take care of you. All she has is your word and physical presence showing her that you are ok and her own experiences (one of which is the loss of your dad).

Not having a father figure around in your teenage years means that maybe you may forget or lose track of what it means to respect your mum, but from what you have said you do recognise that your behaviour can be hurtful and you are one step ahead of many teenagers in that respect. I can't imagine the pain you and your mum have gone through but remember, friends come and go but family is forever.

Consider things about your mum such as her upbringing, family, life time of relationships, school years, years as a wife and as a parent. The beliefs she has formed of what it is to be a mother and a child are formed through these experiences and everything you do will either help her to confirm or modify these. Her comment about you being inconsiderate may have been hurtful, but maybe it is her way of saying she needs to see that you care for and consider her feelings as much as she does for you.

Mum's like to feel loved and cared for too just like they do for their children (it is one of the biggest rewards of parenting), but also she wants to see that you care enough about yourself and your life too (the other big reward seeing your child all grown up and ok).

Any how you sound like a really normal but sweet teenage son and a proud, thoughtful and intelligent young man. Your mum knows this and just wants you to know it and for you to be the best person you can be.

Anyhow sorry to sound all motherish and preachy on you and I know I don't really know you or the real situation, but I am stoned.

Mrs P
Mrs PotatoHead Reviewed by Mrs PotatoHead on . I've been feeling terrible today Well guys, I have a little story I'd like to tell you. This isn't an easy thing for me to say to people but I think I can trust the people here and their judgement, you are after all, for the most part, very good people. Anyway, lately I've been very upset with regards to my mom. This has possibly began on friday night at around 2 in the morning when I got home. I was at work until 10:30 and then I went to my friend's. It had also snowed a lot that night. Anyway, when I got home, my mom was Rating: 5