thanks for the quick reply and advice. first off i dont ever pressure her into it unless she gives me a sign that she wants to. thats why we have only had sex 3 times in the last 2 months. i try my very very best to make her the happiest girls ever, i do anything and everything to make her happy and she tells me i make her happier than she has ever been. and i have thought about this over many a bowls and long nights and the only 2 things i can think of is: her body, and my trust issues. the part about her body she has gained 10-15 pounds during the winter and she thinks she looks fat, as all girls think, but shes not fat at all. the other part is my last gf cheated on me for 7 months b4 i found out so im kinda paranoid. now i do trust my gf when shes sober but when shes drunk she flirts A LOT with everyone, doesnt matter if im there or not so i dont like her going to parties alone which i think is natural for most guys or girls. but she gets drunk almost every nite, shes border line alchy.
another possible problem is that since we have been dating she has stopped hanging out with her friends as much and more with me and now she feels that she doesnt have any friends. and this might be the problem because most of her friends are guys and most of them are real real shady and not trust worthy at all. when she sees them at a party she runs over and give them a big ol' hug and kiss on the cheek. which doesnt bother me too too much but the part that does bother me is the way they look at her when shes around. they give her a look that makes me want to get up and fucking break their fucking cocaine coated nose. and its not that i dont like any guys around her but i get a vibe from certain ones for right reasons like on holloween she said goodbye to an old friend of hers and he hugged her and kissed her on the cheek. then the fucker had the nerve to start licking on her ear with me on the other side of the room watching. then she doesnt push him away right away until she herd me push a couple people outta the way to try to get to them and break the fuckers jaw until she stoped me saying it was nothing and that he was drunk. and she doesnt understand why i was so upset about it.
but your proble right that the problem isnt the sex its something deeper and proble my fault because everything is.

P.S. sorry for another long post

Thanks,
JC