has anyone ever smoked up after losing a family member?
sorry... i cant imagine it.. how would being high coincide with greiving a loved one.. does it soothe the pain.. or make things worse?
thanks
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has anyone ever smoked up after losing a family member?
sorry... i cant imagine it.. how would being high coincide with greiving a loved one.. does it soothe the pain.. or make things worse?
thanks
Kinda let's you be a little more upbeat about the situation, but I mean don't smoke it to forget. Just to calm the nerves. . .
Right after getting the news that my Mother finally suicided (she had tried many times before), a speed freak acquaintance came by to sell me a bag of Columbian. She took one look at me and handed me the baggie saying, "Pay me when you can" and left (hey, that's showing great compassion for a speed freak). The pot didn't stop me crying, but it eased the pain a bit. It helped get me through the worst of it.
thanks guys.. im going through a bit of a shit time right now..
i know drinking and smoking to forget makes things worse..
so im just hopin i can take a few dances with mary jane and just purify my thoughts.. for want of a better phrase
Hang in there! What ever it is, it WILL pass. - Granny:hippy:
No I haven't. And if I did smoke after I heard that some one in the family passed I wouldn't smoke in dedication to that person unless I used to smoke with them lol.
One of my boys was in a car accident a few weeks back and was left with some pretty serious injuries that he has yet to recover from..
We smoked up for him that weekend..
i had pretty bad reactions smoking after my dad died recently.. i found it better to chill out on bud for a while.. fine when i smoke now though
well, when my grandmother died back in '05, i remember wanting a joint every minute of every day for the next 1-1/2 or 2 months, but i was never in the mood for it, if that makes sense.
i see weed as a pleasure-giver, not something to help me cope with shit or to calm me down or chill me out.
idk, it's hard to explain, but the main point is that if i'm going to be sad, i'd rather just let my mind feel the sadness and get through it on its own, instead of trying to keep myself from feeling it. i believe that it's not very healthy to interrupt psychological processes, like the grieving cycle, or w/e its called.
no, it really doesn't. :pimp:Quote:
i remember wanting a joint every minute of every day for the next 1-1/2 or 2 months, but i was never in the mood for it, if that makes sense.
yeah, it's hard to explain. idk. i'm weird :p
I understand what you mean. Like you didn't really have any urges to smoke, but you just wanted to smoke to pass time and just forget about it. I don't know if I really explained it that well either, but I know what you mean I've had that feeling before.Quote:
Originally Posted by slpntrx5
I have lost, I find I need to stay sober and clear the situation, such as if there was fowl play, I usualy do smoke with some family members but only to remember not forget. And only when everyone(who smokes) is ready usuly while we fill the hole or right after. In my family it is tradition to burry our own, the women usuly handle the makeup, food, hosting, and the men usulay handel the digging, Pallbering, masses, burryal, notifying. I usualy have an uneasy stomach, quick or short fuse and other weird symtoms for about a week or two after everything is done, sometimes smoking helps sometimes it makes it worse.:pimp:
Well, my dad died, a little over a year before I started smoking. He died of lung cancer, so I felt guilty when I started smoking cigarettes a few months after his death.
I actually started smoking weed when I came home, looked outside for my cat that was missing for a few days, and then saw his body in my neighbors fenced in yard, their dogs killed my cat. I was a wreck, until my friend came over, and said getting high would make me feel better. It did. It was better than living in depression everyday, I never looked back and a week later I was a daily smoker.
my grandma is in the hospital right now and tomarrow i have about 4 or 5 gs maybe that and i was ganna smoke but i dunno if i want to anymore i probly will unless she pass's wish i could see her so i could say goodbye but shes pretty old so i think she maybe happier. then i wont so i can be clear headed to calm my mom down. I felt like shit being high and told she was in the hospital.
Man that sounds so incredibly and disfunctionally unhealthy...Quote:
Originally Posted by horror business
But to each his own I suppose.
Well dude, I pretty much smoke all the time. I'm pretty sure that if someone died, and I DIDN'T keep smoking, then I'd just be having to deal with those bitchy side-effects right at the time I really don't need to.
I don't think I'd necessarily smoke more, but I'd maintain the status quo.
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Originally Posted by Polymirize
Easy there Dr. Phil...cannabis helps alot with depression. I know that if I had a close family member die, I would toke up when nobody was around.
Whenever I have a hard day at school or on the job, I always toke up, and everything bad seems to go away...:rasta: For that guy, it would benefit more psychologically(sp) if he had a little enjoyment and forgot about what happened for a couple of hours than if he just stayed home all day and just pondered about the two deaths that had just happened.
As long as he knows that doing anything to alter your state of mind is not going to bring those ppl. you lost back, and you've accepted that your loved ones are history, smoking weed is fine.....
Just my .02:thumbsup:
Your two cents? And what came before was mine. Why deal with your problems when you can just smoke them away huh? Again, to each their own I suppose.Quote:
Originally Posted by UTD Toker
But I agree, smoking weed is fine. Tell me, are you familiar at all with the concept of "responsible use"?
That's hard because maybe you'll feel guilty about being happy at such a sad time. However, how long can we stay depressed? We know we must eventually move on, so why not the sooner the better. I really don't know what i'd do, i know i definately wouldn't run and pack a bong but maybe later that day to releive stress. Agh, what a buzz kill =/