Found out why my buddies havent called me

Apparently they've taken the short and norrow And are sobor as a judge. They had a long chat with me about how they cared about me and shit and that they want no part in my drug actives, Both are former pot smokers. They say i'm a risk because I always have dope or I'm always drunk. They are the types that can smoke the plant and than not get caught up into...

Long story sort they said pick are friendship or the drugs, These are my two best buddies from grade school. They both reached a age where they lost interset in getting high and drunk. Saying they have a funner time doing stuff sobor.

Both smoke cigs though, And send lots of money at strip clubs.

Has anyone done this too you before?

my ex wanted me to quit weed, told her i did, but i didnt

your mates sound harsh as fuck, they should come round after a while
if they dont like you bein high or drunk
they are twats

that does suck

but ur know what ur probly better off without them

unless there right and u really are pot head drunk bastard... its possible i dont know u from adam..

but if u aint then u dont need fake friends like that who dumped u probly becos u have bad breathe or something then make up a fake excuse...

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Originally Posted by LazySmoking420

Apparently they've taken the short and norrow And are sobor as a judge. They had a long chat with me about how they cared about me and shit and that they want no part in my drug actives, Both are former pot smokers. They say i'm a risk because I always have dope or I'm always drunk. They are the types that can smoke the plant and than not get caught up into...

Long story sort they said pick are friendship or the drugs, These are my two best buddies from grade school. They both reached a age where they lost interset in getting high and drunk. Saying they have a funner time doing stuff sobor.

Both smoke cigs though, And send lots of money at strip clubs.

Has anyone done this too you before?

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if they were your friends it wouldnt matter what u did as long as it made u happy......tell em that hopefully it might help

All my friends I went to junior high with and became really good friends with all stopped calling me when I decided to quit drinking. It was kind of sad to find out the only thing holding together a friendship was partying, so I said fuck them. Plus whenever I'd call them, they'd either have to drink at someones place, or drink when we went out.

Friends come and friends go. There are a million more people out there to meet. Just remeber you'll be the one tokin reefer when you're 60 while they're dying of lung cancer, now who is really stupid here. Certainly not you.

Lol they smoke cigs but they don't want to hang out with you because you get high and drink? Well I can understand the drinking part. I don't hang out with people who drink period. But being high from weed...I mean I don't see how they could do that lol. Please understand me..I just don't like the way most drunk people act, especially when they are drunk as hell. Trust me I have enough hard drinkers in my family, and at every family reunion or family cook I have to deal with them.. Even my wanna-be drug free dad used to and tries to hide it and make excuses for it. But yeah that's why I can understand the drinkin part lol.

When you're not a drinker you really see how pathetic drunk people act hey orangeman? That's how I see it now. Last time I went to a bar some drunkass spilled his beer all over me. I was annoyed, but if I was still a drinker, I wouldn't care and would probably do a shot with them. :p

Drunk people are annoying! They spit, slur their words, one eye is bigger than the other, they piss themselves, they stumble, and get violent. Blah!

Well the sad fact is for many people smoking weed is just a phase in their lives.

However if they cant accept you for who you are they are not worth having as friends.

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Originally Posted by chisme

if they were your friends it wouldnt matter what u did as long as it made u happy......tell em that hopefully it might help

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You see that's not really true, a friendship is based on liking someone and having common interests. From what the OP has stated his friends have been around him in his sober days and drunken/high days. They obviously met him in his sober days and that's where the friendship started where they had a lot in common. But now he is constantly drunk and high (so his friends say) he isn't the same guy anymore. That's why they gave him the option, cos' they do care and want him back. If I were the OP I'd tell them I won't smoke as much and not when we go out to do stuff.


Of course all of what I said could e wrong.....Of Course!!

I've lost friends in the past with my weed smoking, it's your lifestyle choice and not theirs. Don't let them pressure you into anything, make the descision for yourself - if pot smoking is the way you wanna go, drop the friends that wont accept you as a friend for who you are.

I also wouldn't call stopping smoking weed "coming clean", especially when theyre smoking cigs lol

man, its just getting high, who the hell cares? they are idiots if they want to stop you from doing something you like, its not going to hurt you. just be like, 'i appreciate your friendship and everything but im still going to get high, its something i like to do although you dont. you should accept that and if you really dont want to be friends then i feel sorry for you'. that should probably work.

that is, if you choose not to stop :)
edt: if you decide to stop, make them quit cigarettes too. its only fair :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou

When you're not a drinker you really see how pathetic drunk people act hey orangeman? That's how I see it now. Last time I went to a bar some drunkass spilled his beer all over me. I was annoyed, but if I was still a drinker, I wouldn't care and would probably do a shot with them. :p

Drunk people are annoying! They spit, slur their words, one eye is bigger than the other, they piss themselves, they stumble, and get violent. Blah!

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Lol I'm behind this post 100%.

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Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou

When you're not a drinker you really see how pathetic drunk people act hey orangeman? That's how I see it now. Last time I went to a bar some drunkass spilled his beer all over me. I was annoyed, but if I was still a drinker, I wouldn't care and would probably do a shot with them. :p

Drunk people are annoying! They spit, slur their words, one eye is bigger than the other, they piss themselves, they stumble, and get violent. Blah!

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i'd like u to give a speech durin my sons barmitzfa.

I know drunks r lame. Nochowder-u forgot to add they wreck cars.

Your friends sound like the folks in the bible belt (no offense to anyone who may live in that area.) :D

I'm sorry your friends turned out to be pricks. It honestly sounds like they are just trying to fit in with a different group. The group of people where the most pure are the most popular or some shit... I'm really f-ing high and this is really not making much sense to me anymore.

I don't really agree with quiting though. Since they are being so extreme with this, it makes it sound like you will be better off with out them.

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Originally Posted by orangeman

Lol I'm behind this post 100%.

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OM,,,I read like 4 of your posts today and i did not even know it was you... Strange avy for you...

if the go to titty bars and smoke ciggs then it's just an excuse what they said to you... they just are not your friends...

ok so i dont 100% agree with any of you if it got to the point where pot was destroying my relations with my best friends id have to say fuck it I'm out. Call me weak or whatever but chillin high w/o my best friends just dosnt measure up to the times chillin with my best friends. So on the priority chain Friends > Pot. Try to talk it over with them though maybe you can come to some sort of an agreement. ( my best friends dont smoke pot to clarify that) just my .02 cents on this topic

unless your completely over the top stoned all day and drunk all night, then your friends are messed up

yea thats kindof fukt up how they used to do it an now that they have a religious experience and finally 'see the light' their sayin quit or fuck off, fuck em man, i mean u can respect it and just not blaze in front of them or whatnot but if their tellin u to quit cause they did then fuck that live your own life.

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Originally Posted by chisme

if they were your friends it wouldnt matter what u did as long as it made u happy......tell em that hopefully it might help

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real talk, its not like your smoking crack...

i have friends that do and dont, my best friend hates that i do it, but he sticks by me even though i do, he just chooses not to, real friends will always be there

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ok so i dont 100% agree with any of you if it got to the point where pot was destroying my relations with my best friends id have to say fuck it I'm out. Call me weak or whatever but chillin high w/o my best friends just dosnt measure up to the times chillin with my best friends. So on the priority chain Friends > Pot. Try to talk it over with them though maybe you can come to some sort of an agreement. ( my best friends dont smoke pot to clarify that) just my .02 cents on this topic

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His friends are out of line. Friends are special, why waste your time with people like that. They can quit if they like, but there is no reason for them to give him a choice between the two.

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It's not that hard to make new friends. x

It is most probably about the drinking....who knows. Time to find some new friends I guess.

Good friends will just let you be yourself. If they are making you choose, then thats probably the first sign to ditch them.

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Originally Posted by robert42

that does suck

but ur know what ur probly better off without them

unless there right and u really are pot head drunk bastard... its possible i dont know u from adam..

but if u aint then u dont need fake friends like that who dumped u probly becos u have bad breathe or something then make up a fake excuse...

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LMAO :D :D

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Originally Posted by sam44

Good friends will just let you be yourself. If they are making you choose, then thats probably the first sign to ditch them.

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Yes that's the way I see it too. Friends accept you for who you are. They are deciding what they is right or wrong for everyone.


It is sad to lose such old friends though. I would sure try to reason with them one more time maybe they are just being jerks and they'll get over it.

I hope it works out (((((sending good vibes)))) :hippy:

Friends are friends its as simple as that i have friends that do cocaine but i dont it doesnt make a difference i dont see why they dont wanna be your friend because you smoke weed?

They dont have to.. its a bit stupid really

you should slap some sense into them seriously lol

Do they have a point?

I mean, I love ganj just as much, if not more than, the next guy, but I still have a life while sober as well. Not everybody handles ganj as well as others, same goes for alcohol, and stripclubs for that matter. Regardless of how hypocritical is may seem for cig smokers who like strippers to tell you that you have a problem, it raises the question...

Are you always high or drunk?

They could really be your friends, or maybe they're just assholes, I don't know. Its so easy to get exactly what you want out of people on the internet, because you just tell them "all the relevant facts".

How is it you think anyone here on cannabis.com is going to know you better than yourself, or your friends for that matter?

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Originally Posted by Big_Smoke

I know drunks r lame. Nochowder-u forgot to add they wreck cars.

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That too! And kill innocent people on the road and get lippy too!

*Ahem* Mel Gibson. ;) He gets drunk and starts calling everyone a sinner. Asshole. :S4:

my wife once tried something similar... i called her bluff... i still smoke and i still got her...

if they really are your friends they won't ditch you just because you refuse to give it up... although if you might have a problem... maybe you should cut down some...

a problem doesn't even mean you don't do it everyday... a problem is when it starts getting in the way of your life.... when you need food or something and spend it on drugs or alcohol, or you steal to supply your habbit.. or keep losing jobs over it ect ect...

shit when i worked i came home to beer every damn day, if not beer and bud... but i was always there at work, early the next day.. i never let drugs/alcohol get in the way of my life... well there was this one time, doing somethign i can't speak of here.... both me and my brother got really into it, but then he quit doign it and i was still doing it every single day... me and him got in a huge ass fight over it... and this isn't soemthing you can do and function, so it was getting in the way of my life... but i was addicted to it and i couldn't see clearly really... i ended up kicking my brother out because of it...

later i finally 'woke up' and saw what it was doing to me... and i stopped and never picked it up again... of course there are times when i still want to, but i won't let myself relapse... haven't touched the shit in over 2 years now...

maybe you should re-evaluate yourself, to make sure their thoughts aren't grounded... maybe you do have a problem but you just can't see it cuz you're not looking for it? only you can really tell you if you have a problem.. other people can just bring it to your attention.