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Im in quite a situation, I had sex with my neighbor and it was her first time now she is getting a littly clingy and like really weird. I go to her house every morning to wait for the bus and I dont really want a relationship. She wants one though and its kinda aquard talking to her and its not like i can avoid her and im not mean enough to just say "I know we fucked but, I dont want a relationship." is there any nicer way to say it or any ideas on what i should do?
~Russ~
I dont know what to tell you for your current situation, I dont know if theres anything nice you can say. I hope you learned a lesson that you shouldnt sleep with girls you arent interested in relationships with, esp. when you see them everyday.
Try something like, "You're a great person, and an attractive woman. You should get yourself out there and find someone who's interested in a relationship." (Implication: Not Me!)
If she says something like, "Well, how about you?"
You can say, "I'm just not in a place right now where I'm looking for that. But if I were, I'd be a lucky guy to have such a nice offer."
you shoulda known what was gonna happen when you fucked a virgin.... damn even men who haven't had sex, know what's going to entail later on...
i'm not trying to be an ass or nothing, but congratulations, you've just broken the girls heart... and she's never going ot forget it either... virgins NEVER forget the person they first did it with...
btw, you have said you don't want a relationship, so just becuase she isn't heart broken yet, doens't mean it's not coming... i promise you, it is coming, when just depends on when she finally figures out the truth (or you tell her)
be a man dude, tell her flat out now, before she keeps getting drug along with hope and it becomes harder...
I wish I could forget my first time... yuck...
I agree with slip, you should have known how it would turn out. You certainly need to man up and tell her how you feel before she get more attached.
Keep tappin' that until she decides to break it off.
never mind i'm not even gonna go there.....Quote:
Originally Posted by ReUp
why would you take a girl's virginity, and expect anything else to happen? of course she's going to cling on you, and think she's in love! You shouldn't have had just sex with her if she was a virgin! she's going to proably expect more...LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by russ-bob
yea im thinking tomorow im just gonna flat out tell her just get it over with.:(Quote:
Originally Posted by slipknotpsycho
btw she was the one that wanted to have sex lol. It was funny but the other thing im worried about is called statutory rape i kinda knew she wasent 18 yet (she is almost 17 O.o) and i dont want her getting angry and some one finding out then im in big shit. All in all i think i made a really bad decision, but its the past and i cant chnage it i just have to deal with it.
Wish me luck tomorow
~Russ~
while it is the past and you can't change, i atleast hope you learn a lesson for the future...
use your brain a little more next time, and don't just seek personal gratification... you know... just think lol... cuz if you just let things happen that give you gratification, well i can promise you will find yourself in alot of messes...
how much older than her are you?
that doesn't really matter unfortunately =/ if he's 18+ and she isn't 17 (and even then it might cause a problem) then there's grounds for possible legal implications.
Man. Dude. I had this problem once too, luckily, I lost her when I moved. She was hot and nice and all, but not very smart, and totally fucking clingy. In the end I ended up hating her, and even now that I think back I STILL hate her. Too bad.
How old are you?
What state are you in?
Check on the legal age of consent in your state man.
you DO (and everyone else) realize age of consent goes straight out the window when someone is under 18 and someone is over 18 right?????Quote:
Originally Posted by Pipe Dreams
age of consent is referring to two people under 18....
cuz if you're even say 15, and a girl is 13, and that happens to be under the age of consent in your state.. YOU can be prosecuted....
Nope, there is a link in one of the posts about the stat rape laws of each state. I posted the link in one of the threads about maybe dating someone a few years younger.
Depending on his state it may have been fine.
I know in texas for example a 18 year old can have sex with a 16 y/o, but it would be lilligal for a 19 y/o to have sex with that same girl. A two year age difference doesn't matter there. It depends state to state.
trust me jagged, i'm the last person to go causing waves, especially with someone i consider cool... but that's not right.. once you're 18, you can get anally raped by the state if you had sex with anyone under 18..Quote:
Originally Posted by JaggedEdge
in texas is what i'm talking about too.. i don't know how other states handle situations like this, but i know how my state does.... if you have sexual relations wiht anyone under 18 when you're over 18, you might as well invest in getting a doctor to implant kneepads, cuz you're going to be spending alot of your time on your knees infront of some dude named bubba...
I think this is from an aids charity site. So I'm not positive how credible it is, but the states are at the bottom.
A table of worldwide ages of consent, including US states
yeah, but as i said above, that applies when both participants are under 18... once you're 18, you're an adult, and it's considered taking advantage of a minor if you have sex with someone under 18...
technically i don't agree with the law... i mean on some points it's good.. but you can (and probably will atleast in my state) be prosecuted if you're partner is 17 1/2 and you're offically 18... i really don't understand how 6 extra months all the sudden could make it legal (other then that is the law written) i mean the quarrel, is 'kids' don't know what they're actually doing... but at 17 1/2.. you're not going to learn awhole lot more by the time you're 18....
but that is the law.
You may be right, I'm not positive. I remember reading up on it when I had reason too. And what I read was that most states have laws like a minor can have sex with another minor 3 years younger than him and some one over 18 can have sex with a minor 2 years younger than him.
Depending on the state. If you are seeing people on the news getting charged for that, than I can't argue with you. I only know what I have read, and they laws may have changed. Or the sites could have been wrong.
just trust me ;) i know exactly what i'm talking about on this matter... alot of law shit i have no idea what i'm talking about, but on this.. i do...
just promise you won't find out i was right the hard way :p
No worries. I'm not young enough to be in the it may be alright catagory. I think once you hit 20 you need to stick to 18 plus.
slipknot - your completely incorrect
well u can do 2 things, go out with her, mabye she actually is a nice person and clingy just means she wont cheat on u :P also u can just go up to her face and tell her shes ugly and clingy and u dont date fat chicks. problem solved, lol just man up and tell her to gtfo
Statutory Rape laws vary widely from state to state. You need to know the Age of Concent in your state, and, in some states (e.g. PA, NC, FL) there are "age gap" qualifiers as well.
For example, here in NC:
A defendant is guilty of a Class B1 felony if the defendant engages in a sexual act with someone who is 13 -15 years old and the defendant is at least six years older than the person.
A defendant is guilty of a Class C felony if the defendant engages in a sexual act with someone who is 13, 14, or 15 years old and the defendant is more than four but less than six years older than the person.
Check your state's laws here: Statutory Rape Laws by State
And don't be such a sleaze, eh?
lol you got a class 9 clinger on your hands
haha...actually this sounds a lot like me. the girl im seeing "was" a virgin lol. shes not very clingy to me, but its still early. i think it depends on the type of girl. the one im with is very laid back and relaxed. the chick you "popped" was probly a clinger to begin with.
have fun
like about a yearQuote:
Originally Posted by napolitana869
ok so i checked the Statutory Rape Laws by State site thatks for posting it and im 18 and she is 17 so it looks like im good
also i flat out told her... that i dident like her as a girlfriend and that i wasent in a situation where i was enotionaly stable enough to have a gf she was kinda pissed about it and ran off crying :( but then later she called me and said she understood. now i have a new question for all of you when she called and said she undestood she said that if we still wanted to "experiment" she was fine with it (i was like hell ya) what do you guys think should i take the offer or stay again?
btw im in New York state
Thanks
~Russ~
ummm its your call, but sounds like this girl will get more attatached to you the more you sleep with her, she may say experiment now, but later on experiment will turn into Commitment! lol
personally i think she's just saying that to get you to get with her.. so if you still had no plans on getting with her, i'd say no... cuz it's just gonna hurt her when the question is actually offically popped and you say no...
but that's just me....
ok so heres what happened it keeps getting weirder but her parents where getting home late tonight and she invited me over. I fidgure when i get there i will say no and be like your nice and all but i cant be with you. But she is whering like a amazingly sexy outfit (i swear im not making this up lol) and so i drilled the shit out of her (i couldent resist it) and then we talked about how we couldent be together(kinda a mood killer) and so now we have an "agrement" that we cant be together and whatever meh its ok i guess but i think this escapade is finaly over.
~Russ~
I agree, the more you do it the more she'll love you. Just break the whole thing off. You'll only hurt her more.Quote:
Originally Posted by potsmokingnome
Yea i think its over now only thing that I am sort'of worried about is i see her every morning at the bus stop...