harder to stay friends with someone if they dont blaze?

i lost one friend bc they thought i was a 'drug addict' and i always thought that was stupid because so what about what i do it's not like i force it upon anyone, and i always thought i woudl stay friends with all of my non-stoner friends until this past week. This one girl who smokes maybe once a month and me have really drifted bc well my intrisit is smoking and doing other shit, but always being high while i do that other shit. And i just relized that one of my childhood firneds who doesnt smoke i havent spoken to in like a month and thats apparently bc she didnt want to be around me wen i was smoking, becuase she thinks that she will get caught. This is upsetting. Can't people just accept it? i think if you dont go around sticking L's in peoples mouths they shouldn't end a friendship because of it. Sorry i just needed to get that off my chest. It's so upsetting loosing friends.

so what i am saying is do u think you should change just to keep friends or should you just accept that they don't accept you? Becuase im sorry im not going to not smoke bc someone doesnt want me to.

Whatever is more important to you. If I was in your situation I would lay off the herb. In the end, you'll probably be happier having not lost good friends. If all of your friends are worried, you might evaluate your own life and see if they are perhaps justified. Just a thought.

i know what your saying
but if they dont accept that you smoke weed, then they arent really true friends are they?
alot of my friends dont smoke, but they accept that i do and dont mind that i do
its hard loosing friends, but if you stop smokin weed it wont be you anymore, so they arent really friends with you. theyre friends with somebody else
if you understand

Smoking weed isn't worth losing anything over, especially friends.

It's pretty easy to see why people wouldn't accept it...and they shouldn't have to. That doesn't mean they aren't true friends...most people just believe what they hear...it's not really their fault, so you can't really blame them.

this is confusing because all of you are right ... pot is not worth loosing things over ... but smoking is a big part of my lifestyl it makes me who i am, i would not be the same person with out it ... but i stay friends with people who have flaws, so why can't they stay friends with me if my 'flaw' is smoking herb?

Well, you are right. It's a rather difficult issue...because there are multiple perspectives you must see. I guess I'll just have to say that this one is up to you. Try having an educated, serious conversation or something...tell them how you really feel, how you want to continue friendship, but also want to continue your hobby. They'll never know how you feel or what you're thinking without good, quality communication.

No...not UNLESS they strongly appose it...
I lost a friendship that way...It's okay I didn't like the square much anyways...He was against my drinking.

I understand what you're saying. My friend Ash thinks I'm addicted to smoking and keeps trying to "help" me. I'm like, you really need not worry about me smoking. I'm no drug addict, but I respect how you want to "help" me. So at least I got people to back me up if I start doing coke again lawl.

/agreed omegagodly

i'm the same way, i haven't lost friends, i actually strengthened my friendships with people i've known my entire life so far.

so with ur situation gabee, i would talk to your friend, say you like smoking, it's something you like to do, if you still want to be friends level with them. if they want you hang out with you sober, do it. that way everyone is happy.

and all this drug addict shit, this is pissing me off. i'm watching Lou Dobbs on cnn, and they insist that marijuana smokers are addicts. it seems that way because people gotta smuggle it, keep it off the radar. i've started smoking the past year, i smoked a lot, but i'm on a week of soberness. this isn't the first time, i'm not having withdraw, i don't feel different thant i did 2 years ago when i did nothing. the only thing that weed has done is have me spend my money for it. it's an added comodity to life. a pretty expensive one at that.

coke, heroin, acid, that shit will fuck up your day. fuck up your life. those are addictive drugs. people need to get things straight. jeeezz

Coke yes, Heroin very, acid sets you on a different mind set, but it's better than coke.

Edit for how unaddictive acid and weed is.

Just be quiet about it, that's what I do. I don't talk to my friends about it unless they ask. It's my choice not theirs, though I must say at least 3 / 4 of my friends either smoke or are OK with it.

I used to get caught up doing nothing but geting high with other stoners. Ruined my relationships with alot of friends I coulda still had. Made some bad decisions but over all I still would smoke on the regular but maintain My life style. Looking back not all it was bad made alot of new friends, opened up alot more partying. Guess I could say it was a learining experience. I still like to get down all the time im just more focused and in control of my situations now. And If your down and out theres nothing wrong with a lil lifting. Peace -get high.

I believe that If you are loosing friends over such a trivial thing such as MJ, you should think about giving it up.
And no, MJ doesn't define who you are, at least it shouldn't.

that sucks that they don't want to chill as much because you blaze

i'm just happy all my friends smoke weed, or have smoked weed before and don't give a shit.
also almost everyone in my family are potheads or were potheads:jointsmile: :jointsmile:

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...coke, heroin, acid, that shit will fuck up your day. fuck up your life. those are addictive drugs. people need to get things straight. jeeezz

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Coke and Heroin, absolutely, but acid... no, not even a little. Not even in the tiniest hypothetical way.

Man, if they can't see past their own ignorance, their own lack of knowledge, and not to mention the fact that you do not force it upon them, IMO, they aren't truly your friends. My friends accept who I am, and the decisions I make, without questioning me. At least without doubting me.

Not to mention, your probably in high school? Eventually, with age, they will become more open-minded. People make their own decisions, you just have to accept it.

Peace, :rastasmoke:

Reavalueate your friends and your relationships with them. Nobody wants friends who critisize, use, steal, and talk shit. hell Id renovate your mind right now and go get high and make new ones. But thats just me, maybe you can just keep your blaze on the dl. No friends is better then fake ones.

Yea I always hate it when I come across as a "drug addict" because I am baked in just about every moment possible in life... Ive lost some friends because of it and I say thats fine... I accept every ones life style but if I smoke a few joints a day I am doing no harm and no one should harrase me about it and I shouldent have to stop if I dont want it and smoking weed is a such a peaceful thing to do... plus now that I look back I have 100 times more fun with other weed smokers than I do with anti pot people IMO.... but usually I try not to mention smoking weed to "strait ppl" because it causes some tensions but I usually bring the subject up anyway lol

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I believe that If you are loosing friends over such a trivial thing such as MJ, you should think about giving it up.
And no, MJ doesn't define who you are, at least it shouldn't.

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MJ doesn't define who you are?! How could it not? I think thats why we all gravitate to this site, we need to connect with other people who are like us on a very deep and important level.

i had some old childhood friends... they suck

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MJ doesn't define who you are?! How could it not? I think thats why we all gravitate to this site, we need to connect with other people who are like us on a very deep and important level.

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This may come as a shock, but quite a few of us have a life outside of this site and the internet at large. Some of us even have a life that extends beyond mj... Not that mj isn't welcomed to be a part.

Seriously, do you really think ganj defines you?

it doesnt define you

but its something that you enjoy doing, and if you quit then it will make you different. weed does define a certain part of you, but not all of you. if i was to quit weed then i would act differently and people would notice

i think you just need to talk to your friends, have a serious talk
tell them how you feel, that you want to stay friends with them, but weed is something you do

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...weed does define a certain part of you, but not all of you. if i was to quit weed then i would act differently and people would notice

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Yeah, that's how I feel about it as well. It doesn't define me wholly, but to say it isn't a big part of who I am, and how I define myself would be an understatement to say the least. That's just how I personally feel about it. For others it may just be a simple hobby, pass time, or whatever else.

Well yea, MJ is part of who I am, but just as how watching cartoons was part of me when I was 5.
For me, MJ is a hobby, something I love doing. But just like a hobby, I don't make it a top priority in my life.

Damn...that sucks. I just lost 2 friends about an hour ago. My best friend....and his gf (who i hooked him up with). All because he didnt want to pay what he owes to me. I wasnt asking for all of the money...just 25 dollars to replace my pipe which he broke today. ive lent him money and weed on many ocassions...and he doesnt want to pay me back. oh well. u lose friends u make friends

Friends>Pot

dont change for other people. if you keep changing your life to suit other people youll always be unhappy. instead find some open minded friends who will accept you for who you are. people who put conditions on friendship arent worth your time.