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I just got busted. What am i going to do...
This has been the most fucked up day of my life.
I rang up my mum to talk to her (I live in a boarding school) and she said she found my bag in my room. I was like "oh no..." because this bag had my bong, my cigs, my weed, my papers and my roaches... allong with a bunch of other things i can't remember.
Welllll..... she is majorly pissed off that i lied to her for so long.... and she thinks i am a drug addict and that i am causing my self serious mental damage.
I am now only allowed to go out to parties once every 5 weeks, i am not allowed to come home untill the holidays (which is 7 weeks away.... my schools only 45 minutes drive from home btw which i catch a bus)
So this means im stuck in this boarding house for a 7 weeks, not allowed to go out, im fucking stuck.
It's going to be incredibly hard to ever smoke anymore. So i think i have to say farewall to mary jane, untill i leave school anyway.
I feel like crying at the moment, but im trying to be strong.
What can i do?
I can't compromise with mother, because she doesnt beleive anything i say anymore. AND she is very ignorant and narrow minded, so i cant convince her weed isnt a bad thing... she wouldnt beleive me even if i showed scientifical evidence.
So what can i do.....
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First off take a deep breath... you have the internet so that's cool... dude just sleep on it and don't draw any quick conclusion or jump to anything you might regret...
You will be asked so I will... Why was your shit at home where she could find it???
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thats fucked up dude,the 7 weeks your at school buckle down work really hard then when you get home try and regain her trust bee good show her that mary not the devil and even if you cant smoke for a while you have got to get moms on your side goodluck dude:)
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You've just reached a point most stoners have to reach where your parents become aware. My mother is the most conservative woman you could imagine to meet, she looks deep into your eyes and makes you knees shake. She reminds me a lot of the mother from Malcom in the Middle. She drug tested me weekly for a year, grounding me, taking away my car, what have you, ever time I failed. The I only passed one, and it was after a tremendous effort. Eventually she accepted it wasn't going to stop and talked with me about it. I was able to make her say out loud that "alcohol is a lot more dangerous that marijuana", and she meant it. It's pretty much don't ask, don't tell now. My father though has shown me a side I never knew he had, but probably should have. He's given me weed a few times, and when we take this road trip to Seattle in March, I'm going to smoke him out. It's funny, we never really bonded until I moved out. :stoned:
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Originally Posted by Skink
First off take a deep breath... you have the internet so that's cool... dude just sleep on it and don't draw any quick conclusion or jump to anything you might regret...
You will be asked so I will... Why was your shit at home where she could find it???
I have taken so many deep breaths in the last half hour.
And im not jumping to any conclusions. My mum is crazy and she only listens to her self. My last year of school is going to be so bad..... it really sucks too because the past 6 months has been the best time of my life, because i had made so many friends, i had a great social life and i balanced it hugely with my work.... now all i have left is my work and i feel so lonely.
I left my shit in my cupboard under a bunch of clothes and stuff.... because i came home on monday to get some books, i smoked that night and forgot to hide my stuff outside. So i left it in my cupboard and i was gonna come home today and hide it.... but she found it this morning. Stupid move by my part i know.
I'm just going to have to work my fucking ass off and try to make her happy. Maybe she will be more leniant in a few months.
I seriously dont know what to think or say.
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This isn't fair...
I'm a nice person, i dont have any enemies, i try my best to work hard, i see things through other peoples perspectives, i think about other people when most people think about themselves, i love humanity, i love people, i hate seeing pain, i love peace.
Is this justified :( I dont see how i deserve this.
I dont want to look like a whinging bitch... but i dont know how else to express what im feeling.
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some good advice up there^^^^^
the truth is the best road,,,nothing worse than getting in deeper... you got 7 weeks to make a difference and the good advice is to work at it... don't offer anything right away but by the same token don't hide it if she wants and asks for it...
I always think this way... things happen for a reason and there is always a positive side to everything,,,so if your feeling like shit look for something positive in it...
Edit: I posted this before I read your last post...
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The real prob here is society is driving home that pot is the devil and like above it took a long time for his mom to come around... Don't look at it as I don't deserve this... pity will not help,,,planning your next move will... Like I said get some sleep and think clearly,,,you really can't now cause your all kinds of emotions now...
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if your mom's like my radical conservative parents, you'll only get on her good side by agreeing with everything she says, and doing everything she asks. I feel ya when you say that she won't digest the logical arguments in favor of cannabis. I smoked off and on from age 12 to 17, then quit for 5 years, and now I've been tokin again for 2 or 3 years. I'm real glad I had the sabbatical; it proved that I saw the world through fully sober eyes and still in solemn moral conscience chose to smoke again. So I say be glad you have an opportunity to prove to yourself and the world that you can be sober and functional and still choose to smoke and be just as functional later on. Oh, the reason I stopped for 5 years is cuz cops busted me and my homie and brought me home to tell my 'rents at 3 am.
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meh littlewing i dunno what to tell you man, i like you so i hate to hear this shit....
and i know it's not what you want to hear.. but damnit you really only have two options.. quit and deal with it, or try to get through her thick head with some cold hard facts...
there's not too many things you can do.. pick up and move on, or stand up for what you feel is right/what you feel is right for you...
well technicallly you can run from it all, and never talk to her again.. but that's not going to do too much good...
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That's why you dont have stinking roaches and used pipes in your room.
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Originally Posted by Billionfold
How old are you?
Im 17...
18 in 6 months.
Thank you guys for helping me out... all of you, seriously... helped me a lot.
I think i can deal with this a lot easier now.
I just have to earn my trust back, and make things right again.
There is no way i can change my mums mind, so i am just agreeing with her. There is nothing left to do except to do everything she says, put my social life in a bottle untill after school is finished (:() and focus on my studies and try to make her happy.... even if it makes me unhappy...very unhappy.
I seriously think i have matured considerably today....
Thank you guys so much.... I'd love to tell my mum that i got such great advice on a cannabis forum.... but haha....obviously that wouldn't go to well.
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Get over it. Time heals MOST wounds. I'm a mother. I'd probably be just as narrow minded even though I no what weed is. I dread the day my kids become teenagers.
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Your mom is just like my dad. Just people you can't convince that there is nothing wrong with weed and they are too close minded and though they won't admit it, they are also scared to just try it to see how it is. Just don't worry about that anymore, everyone except for my peers look down on marijuana use and me, even though my mom is one of those people that use it she still acts like she just has a whole different thing going on. It's all BS. If I were you if I wanted to keep smoking, that's what I'd do.
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YOU are your own man. Your as good as an adult now. Your not some silly kid. You've done your own research and you enjoy what you do. You have the RIGHT to do what you do.
Dont listen to her. Do everything like normal, and keep smoking. If she catches you again, tell her. She's your mother, yes, but that doesnt mean she can tell you what you can and cant do, especially when she doesnt know what shes talking about, and even more so when she wont even accept scientifically proven fact.
Dont give up for her, only give up if YOU want to.
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Originally Posted by orangeman
Your mom is just like my dad. Just people you can't convince that there is nothing wrong with weed and they are too close minded and though they won't admit it, they are also scared to just try it to see how it is. Just don't worry about that anymore, everyone except for my peers look down on marijuana use and me, even though my mom is one of those people that use it she still acts like she just has a whole different thing going on. It's all BS. If I were you if I wanted to keep smoking, that's what I'd do.
Mmmm yeah.... except my mum is a hypocrite who used to smoke weed untill she had me.
And i wish i could keep smoking, but i just cant. Im stuck at boarding school 99% of the time now, and when im here i cant smoke or keep weed in the school, i really cant afford to get suspended or expelled. My life would be ruined.
The only time i can smoke now is when i get to go to a friends place or a party once every 5 weeks. And most of the time i wont be able to smoke when i go out either.
Ah well.... nothing i can do about it except make things right.
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Originally Posted by LIP
YOU are your own man. Your as good as an adult now. Your not some silly kid. You've done your own research and you enjoy what you do. You have the RIGHT to do what you do.
Dont listen to her. Do everything like normal, and keep smoking. If she catches you again, tell her. She's your mother, yes, but that doesnt mean she can tell you what you can and cant do, especially when she doesnt know what shes talking about, and even more so when she wont even accept scientifically proven fact.
Dont give up for her, only give up if YOU want to.
I would if i could man, but im not in the situation to do that.
It's her house and her rules, there's nothing i can do about that... and thats beside the point, i cant smoke, because im not allowed to come home anymore unless it's school holidays.
You really would have to know my mum to understand the position im in at the moment...
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you really sound like you have a level head on your shoulders. Most people would be bitching, but you've really proved that you're above all that. Good job. Just try and use this negative situation to your advantage. Work really hard on school work, get a job, start a new hobby, or something else to keep you busy. It's only a year, and you have the rest of your life ahead of you to smoke.
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It's just your mom dude. You're making this way too big of deal I think. Kids aren't suppose to fear from their parents like this. Your mom sounds like a hardass.
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If I was in your situation boarding school is exactly where I'd want to be. My parents know so it's not much of an issue, but if my mother was like that I wouldn't want to be anywhere near her for a while. Plus, everyone I've ever known who went to boarding school had the time of their lives. Smoking and drinking and whatnot. Have fun and do what you want knowing that your mom can't bust you.
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Originally Posted by Nochowderforyou
It's just your mom dude. You're making this way too big of deal I think. Kids aren't suppose to fear from their parents like this. Your mom sounds like a hardass.
straight up man, kids definately shouldn't be scared of thier parents.
grow some balls dude and just smoke in the boarding school
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"Hardass" for trying to protect her offspring from problems like this? You're just lucky it wasn't a real bust and that you were only caught by mom! She is being responsible and doing only what most of the rest of the parents would do if they found contraband in their kids' room.
You're doing all you can do right now...that is giving up toking and concentrating on your classes. You won't be able to change her mind in the short months you have left so just kick back and give in to the house rules for a little while longer. It will be far easier than living under an umbrella of distrust and lies and be all that much more enjoyable when you can toke up without the paranoia.
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find some weed, blaze up at boarding school then sort your shit together,
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Discipline is a character builder,,,so when people say don't listen to your Mum they are not realizing we all need disipline... Going through life with out having a boss at one point or another makes you fell like you can do anything you want,,,you really can't though and you will find yourself on the wrong side with much harsher disiplines...
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idk much about boarding school but why can't you just smoke there?
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Whats stopping you from going to parties and friends houses? Use public transport etc...Dude my parents found out I smoked ganja and I'm still doing it now..Just don't tell her your going to parties or friends. Go straight from school...She can't stop you.
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My belief is that a boarding school is a cross between private school and Juvie... I think maybe Mom chose it as opposed to lockup,,,which if so tells me she is somewhat rational... correct me if i'm wrong...
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from what i hear boarding schools are kind of like...work hard party hard
they are really hard academically but also the kids have CRAZY parties and drug and alcohol use is rampant
of course that i heard that 3rd person, i don't know that to be a fact.
I would just be very discreet about it
can they search where you stay @ the boarding houes?
look over the rules, and if not then just go ahead and toke toke toke!:jointsmile:
if they can, then just don't have anything there and maybe pay friends to smoke you out
or go cold turkey
whatever is good with you
i really wish you luck though
and in the end its better that your parents DO know, especially because you are going to be 18 soon
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why is your social life over? Whos to stop you leaving school on weekends?
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Originally Posted by LittLeWinG
Im 17...
18 in 6 months.
Thank you guys for helping me out... all of you, seriously... helped me a lot.
I think i can deal with this a lot easier now.
I just have to earn my trust back, and make things right again.
There is no way i can change my mums mind, so i am just agreeing with her. There is nothing left to do except to do everything she says, put my social life in a bottle untill after school is finished (:() and focus on my studies and try to make her happy.... even if it makes me unhappy...very unhappy.
I seriously think i have matured considerably today....
Thank you guys so much.... I'd love to tell my mum that i got such great advice on a cannabis forum.... but haha....obviously that wouldn't go to well.
Littlewing you are very mature- you sound like such a great kid! Your mom is just doing her best to take care of you and protect you until you are an adult. Her ideas about pot aren't necessarily correct, but her desire to keep you from harm's way is understandable. Many peole have mistaken ideas about pot, but in time some come around.
I think you have the right solution, just work hard, and earn back her trust, but you can still have friends and a social life even though it is restricted. And when you are able to smoke again, you will find that the high is extra extra fun, having not done it for awhile!
Stay busy, and try not to focus on what you lack right now- all will be right again in time. BIG HUGS to you!
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Respect her wishes, or your own.
Although she is never going to be ok with Cannabis, your in the long haul on this one.
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I feel so bad for you,
my mom is INSANE.
She is a parole agent, her whole life she's been in some type of authority.
She was a cop, prison guard, prison teacher and now she is a parole agent that works in OAKLAND!!
She is like a drug dog and my weed is so,so,so very carefully and well hidden it takes me 5 minutes to finally grab the camoflauged bottle.
I don't use pipes, I don't smoke joints and I only use improvised disposable pipes.
I don't know what I would do if I ever got caught.
I only smoke when my mom is gone for 3+ hours.
I'm sorry for you.
My mom would absolutely ruin my life if she ever found out.
I'm thinking about putting my stash into the backyard.
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Remember- All things pass. When I'm in shit with my parents, I remember- IT WILL PASS. So what you do now, although important, remember- things pass.
Not an excuse to take it lightly, but the worst you simply have to deal with in the best way possible.
Best of luck <3
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Thanks for all the support guys...
And for those people who think i should just smoke at school, you have to realise, if i get caught (which there would be a very big chance), i wont have a home to go back too. My mum would just never forgive me.
Also, i cant just leave on weekends, the school has to know where i am ALL the time. If i want to go to a friends place for a night, i have to get their parents to ring up the school and confirm it and i have to get my parents to do the same. AND if i want to go to a party, i have to fax a "party form" home so my parents can sign it and what not.
So it's not as easy as you may think.
and yes, they can search my room... last term some friends of mine got suspended for having alcohol in their rooms, which were searched.
and finally, the school is pretty tight assed. Massive work ethic and shit... they are pretty conservative.
(and about the partys, they are cool, but im the only boarder in my year who smokes. I smoke with my friends who live in town)
Tomorrow is the big day, where i have to go home for a night and talk to my parents about my "problems"
I'll post what happens tomorrow or the next day.
Wish me luck,
Littlewing :(
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dude that sux but it happens
It happened to me only she found my plant(poor thing got the scissors)
BUT she will get over it eventualy, just keep on blazin man but dont let her find out, and as far as not being able to go out thats what sneaking is for.
Im going to guess u are eigther really smart or privilaged if ur going to boarding school, but I am from a dirt poor family I dont think there is much of a differnce though just the suroundings. If ur inur last year of school then ur bout my age(17) and in that case at least ull be able to do what u want dude. When my mom found out I thought it was the end of the world too. Just keep doin ur thing and be more careful about it. And of coarse a little ass kissin cant hurt. you sound just like me(I even posted about it to, and if ur a good person what goes around comes around ull get urs its carma baby lol GOOD LUCK
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Wow, im releived.
Things have seemed to work out all right.
Mum wasn't angry at all. She was really calm and understanding. We talked about itfor 5 minutes, and now everythings coooool...
The punishments still apply and everything, but we worked things out in a civil manner, which is a first...
Im just really happy that mum is talking to me and that everythings back to normal. Since mum has been so understanding to me, im gonna try and obey her rules, and not smoke weed when im at home.... or one every month or something.
Thanks guys for all the advice and help. Seriously helped me out somethin savage.
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well thats cool she was cool about it. Sounds like my situation. I got busted twice tho. But youll see you will gain her trust faster than you think. Whenever i got caught the 2nd time, was sad because i thought id never smoke again. But eventually everything return to normal. Thats one thing ive learned to help me cope with period of awkwardness after getting busted.
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If she's really like the mom from Malcom in the Middle,
I'd move the fuck out and maintain a job to keep up with the rent cause that kinda mom scares the shit outta me.
Get a job now and save up cause you're almost 18!