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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Long story short, together 4.5 years, engaged, close, girl says she fell out of love a week after new years, been bad last couple months I guess with fighting and all. How long does it usually take to get over somthing like this?? im 25, and this was my most serious relationship honestly and was never planning on getting back into the "dating" game...
Post up some opinions!!!
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Took me a year to get over a 5 month relationship..and while i've moved on I'm still not COMPLETELY over it.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Its been 3 years im still not over her,
I knew her for about 6 years, we dated for 5, she was lovely...
GOD DAM FLUFFY WHY DID U DRINK AND DRIVE!!!
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
It can take years, sometimes even a life time, but it's important to remember to keep moving foward even though your mind still gets stuck in the past. The past is never waiting to be discovered, so don't look for it for too long.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Thanks for the advice. The hard part is she keeps saying how she wants to remain friends, but I am finding it extremely hard. Just stupid shit like seeing her myspace status as "single" and taking everything about me out of it.. Its like I dont want to be soem pathetic guy and let her walk all over me but she keeps tellin and calling me saying she still wants to be friends and stuff. The hardest thing is shes from Jersey right over the bridge and We goto a ton of the same concerts so its going to be almost impossible to avoid seeing her.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
in my experience, i've never gotten over any of the girls i've loved. im single at the moment and there have been two girls that i have been in serious relationships with. i've moved on and i dont think about either of them that often, but every once in awhile something will come up that reminds me of one of them, and i'm reminded that i still care deeply for both. i read a line in a book once that i think is relavant. "lost love is still love, it just takes another form."
the first girl that i was serious with, i honestly thought i was going to marry. when we parted ways i was crushed for a long time. i eventually moved on, but i don't think i'll ever get over her....but then i think to myself, at least i shared something special with her. i see so many people in my day to day experiences and i never get to share so much as a happy moment with 99% of them. but to have been able to share so much with that girl is great, i may not share these things with her the rest of my life, but at least i got the chance to for a little while. 'don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened'
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
I dont think you can every really get over a break up, no matter what, you will always think about that person, and even compare them to others you consider dating. Even if you hate them, your still thinking of them
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If I break up with the girl....However long it takes me to pack a bowl and crack a beer.
If she breaks up with me....Depends on the reason but usually a bowl and some sleep.
I'm sorry if that sounds callous but I just hate moping around and sulking. Too many wonderful ladies in this world!
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Originally Posted by robert42
Its been 3 years im still not over her,
I knew her for about 6 years, we dated for 5, she was lovely...
GOD DAM FLUFFY WHY DID U DRINK AND DRIVE!!!
lol that pic still makes me laught
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
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Originally Posted by higher4hockey
in my experience, i've never gotten over any of the girls i've loved. ......
i've moved on and i dont think about either of them that often, but every once in awhile something will come up that reminds me of one of them, and i'm reminded that i still care deeply for both. i read a line in a book once that i think is relavant. "lost love is still love, it just takes another form."
..... 'don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened'
True words of wisdom from H4H.
To me, getting over a relationship is mostly about getting past the hurt to be able to look back and see the good stuff again, but as part of your history, not something you are trying unsuccessfully to re-live.
I still care about some of my exes...and yeah, it took a while to stop feeling hurt by the way things ended... but it's not like I'm pining away wishing we were still together; I think of the relationships as part of what has made me who I am now, and with every relationship that doesn't work out, you are that much closer to finding what you really need in a partner.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
ive found that its easiest to just cut them out for a few months, and then if you want to be friends restart a friendship. but jumping from relationship to friendship is tough.
good luck and remember the world has billions and billions of women.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
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Originally Posted by higher4hockey
in my experience, i've never gotten over any of the girls i've loved. im single at the moment and there have been two girls that i have been in serious relationships with. i've moved on and i dont think about either of them that often, but every once in awhile something will come up that reminds me of one of them, and i'm reminded that i still care deeply for both. i read a line in a book once that i think is relavant. "lost love is still love, it just takes another form."
the first girl that i was serious with, i honestly thought i was going to marry. when we parted ways i was crushed for a long time. i eventually moved on, but i don't think i'll ever get over her....but then i think to myself, at least i shared something special with her. i see so many people in my day to day experiences and i never get to share so much as a happy moment with 99% of them. but to have been able to share so much with that girl is great, i may not share these things with her the rest of my life, but at least i got the chance to for a little while. 'don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened'
amazing responce... what book did that come from?
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Like physical wounds, if serious enough the scars could last a lifetime.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
yeh taht what im gooing through...lol...im listneing to tripppy wmusic....crazzzyyy as helllllllll...im tellin ya;ll...what the fuck....omgah......heheee...lol...ok so b ye and peace.!.......bleeepppppooppp*
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Tell her the friend talk shit has got to stop...
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
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Originally Posted by RobPA
Thanks for the advice. The hard part is she keeps saying how she wants to remain friends, but I am finding it extremely hard. Just stupid shit like seeing her myspace status as "single" and taking everything about me out of it.. Its like I dont want to be soem pathetic guy and let her walk all over me but she keeps tellin and calling me saying she still wants to be friends and stuff. The hardest thing is shes from Jersey right over the bridge and We goto a ton of the same concerts so its going to be almost impossible to avoid seeing her.
ohhh man..oh man. after reading that i gotta say my hearts going out to you, my girlfriend is/was pulling the same thing although it really is my fault and its enough to go crazy over, i think my girls gonna come around soon enough but if you dont get that lucky then theres always someone better out there i suppose, if she can "fall out of love" like that obviously she isnt the right one. its such a ridiculous proposal, you cant just love someone and go right back to friends! its like seeing and then losing your sight or losing your arms in an accident because you just cant function like normal after it. its kind of insulting to me also, i cant put my finger on the exact emotion but its something like embarrasment/hopelessnes/shame, fuck it. dont feel pathetic, or anything bad about yourself, its not your fault..and the most i can offer is whenever you start feeling upset, sit in a dark room and clear your mind as best you can. its what i do and it really helps with the lonieness and the longing. you need to take care of yourself before you take care of other things right now, so give yourself that time and try not to beat yourself up over it. its a bad situation, i know right now all you want is her, and honestly the only thing you can do about it is learn to move on, find someone else or take up a hobby and release the feelings through that.
hope i helped,
:baggy: herbs!
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
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Originally Posted by RobPA
Long story short, together 4.5 years, engaged, close, girl says she fell out of love a week after new years, been bad last couple months I guess with fighting and all. How long does it usually take to get over somthing like this?? im 25, and this was my most serious relationship honestly and was never planning on getting back into the "dating" game...
Post up some opinions!!!
I totally know what ya mean..My wife, and I just broke up almost 2 months ago (I know sometimes thats all i talk about, sorry) and I'm finding it really hard to get over and to move on, but then again I don't want anyone right now, I need to focus on my life, and rebuild it in a sense. I personally say just focus on yourself first and forget about the dating game for now. I've allways found that true meaningfull relationships happen when you least expect them. But yeah it takes a long time to get over someone you have been with for a long period of time...and the whole stayin friend's thing can be difficult as well. Amazingly me and my now x wife are being able to be civil towards each other, hell I've somehow managed to stay living here since we broke up,(money issues) but I'll be out in May 1st. but yeah anyway, wish ya luck, and hope you can get through your break-up, and be able to move on.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
was woth a girl for near six years and was dumped with hardly an explanation, am with a girl now for 3 years and never knew what I seen in the last girlfriend, the first few months are tough but you gotta get up brush yourself down and get on with it (even if you dont feel like it) trust me mate, their is always a light at the end of that tunnel.
See that just wanna be friends shit, it dosent work imo and it will never work, its just her way of allieviating some of the guilt she feel, out of sight, out of mind.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
its been 3 years i still miss her,we was together for 15 years,ive got custody of our kids had loads of other girls but no one matches her but life goes on and you have to make the most of it,i dont think we ever get over someone we truly love we just deal with it,keep your head up dude:thumbsup:
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
It might take longer to get over a short relationship than a longer one. Of course it really depends on how much was done for each other, how much you loved and truly cared for each other. Not being able to get those things in return is a horrible feeling, but you have to know when to say enough is enough. No matter who it is, you have to remain true to your convictions. Above all, make things very clear from the start. Communication can be tough sometimes because you're not sure how the other will respond, and many times things go unsaid and that will always cause problems down the road. The thing is you both will learn, and hopefully not make the same mistakes that you did again.
The whole "staying friends" thing can be good in most cases, depending of course on how things ended. Though if you say you would like to remain friends, it should also be made clear that you will require space for a while (if you need it). If the other doesn't seem to respect that, wants things to be "friend" status right away and gives up on the friendship right away if you say you need the space for a while, they are playing with you. Bad news.
Basically, don't let yourself get pushed around (no matter how strikingly amazing they are), and don't push others around. Karma is huge in relationships. Just keep it real. :hippy:
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
I broke up with the only person i've ever truely loved in august 2005 - and i'm still not over her - and in ways i dont want to be over her - i still love her un conditionally.
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Originally Posted by robert42
lol that pic still makes me laught
quoting urself eh m8? good to see the ol british humor is still on these boards. lol u probably dont remember me but i used to hang around here a lot once upon a time. peace
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
It can take a really long time to get over someone you really love, you may never completely get over them. It's hard and its going to hurt, but at least you found out now rather than later down the road. Tell her to stop calling for a few months. Being friends with her right now will just be a constant reminder of the hurt and you need time to heal. Good luck. You're still young and there really are lots of girls out there, even if you don't think you want any of them right now.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
As a young man, I met my ex wife when we both about 14 years old. We lived together for 7 years then got married, had 2 kids, and lived somewhat happy for the next 17 years.
I worked all over the US, back then, and somewhere in the mid 90's, different clothes started to show up in my closet. Always denined.
I moved out in 96, and for 6 months licked my wounds, drank like an alcoholic, got a DUI, and went to the most violent bars I could find in whatever city I might be in. Got arrested, in a huge barroom fight, and sitting in jail, got singled out by BUBBA, and beat that fuck almost to death...in jail!
Had to go to ARD shit / anger management an decided enough was enough, I listened to what they had to say.
Went back to my first love...no not the bitch...fishing!! Carried my fishing gear all across the USA, (never went into another bar for alcohol...still dont today)fishing some of the beautiful areas in America/Canada.
In 99, I decided to learn how to use a computer to surf the net...found OverGrow. I also found a wonderful lady, who was single, independent, strong minded. Started my own business, working for myself.
Now I grow, and teach others, and set up gardens, make boxes for folks, and write letters to worthless Gov officials to end the war on drugs, end Federal Reserve, Impeach Bush/Cheney, reopen 911.
My silly point is this, dedicate your self, your mind, your body to other endevors, and forget the past. Stay away from painful contact for a time...cause Time heals all wounds!
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
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Originally Posted by higher4hockey
tuesdays with morrie.
oh damn... i've seen the movie but never read the book... it was a phenominal movie!
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Sometimes never ,
These ppl. -n- experiences mold us and make us who we are later in life .
Crispi :jointsmile:
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
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Originally Posted by xcrispi
Sometimes never ,
These ppl. -n- experiences mold us and make us who we are later in life .
Crispi :jointsmile:
he speaks the TRUTH!
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
It Takes time dude... Its all up to you. I would avoid any contact with her though and Delete the Myspace shit... That will just keep mind fuking you. I had to do that with My Ex,,, MSN Myspace all that stuff.. It was really the best way for me to deal with it. I dropped off all her stuff at her parents house. And never looked back..
I felt sad and upset, But I picked the right times to do so. You control you... Its hard to practice but really If you don't wanna feel sad don't feel sad. Its hard to get cuz its so simple. It took me a good month to fully understand it when I was explained it by the DOCTOR... A few things I took out of those sessions were,,, perscription Drugs weren't the answer...Feeling like somthing was wrong with me wasn't the answer...
I finally understood that.... PERfection does not exsist but there is nothign wrong with striving for it,,,,
and as well If you can live with no Exspectations you can get real far with relationships.. I understand its almost impossible to have no exspectations, But theres alot of things I exspected before from my Lady and when I didn't get it I just felt hurt. I don't do that anymore. I try and not expect things if they happen than its just a bonus.
And when dating again... Cuz you will get there,,, ((((It will happen trust me.. I was 25 as well and 4 years into a relationship almost engaged when it happened to me))) Rember this...
The Hardest part of a broken Heart
Isn't the Ending so much as the Start
The tragity starts from the very first spark
Losing your mind for the sake of your heart
Don't let that happen cuz it wont work out... Have fun chill with some buds again, hit those bars, Go to a rock concert, But most importantly... reflect on yourself and Do some things that you couldn't do while ina relationship.. You know Take that trip to that place that your GF would not dare go to you with or disapprove of you going there.
I started working out like mad when it happened to me I put all my anger into Weights and looking fuking Ripped.. I got in such good shape,,, I made a schedual And I follweed it to a TEee.... Woke up early started swimming before work. After that I wrote ina dairy for 10 mins.,, When I got home from work I lifted weights for a hour,, Then I did whatever till nighttime and Blazed most of the time. and then wrote in the dairy again before I went to bed. I did that for 2 months striaght. It was the most fun I had had in 4 years. Then I started dating again. and the whole cycle began again.
New Gurl serious relationship, Living together taking of Marriage... All that in 2 years after the Big Breakup...
You'll figure it out... You really don't have any other options anyways right?
We all have your back on this one...
kd
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
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Originally Posted by anycraic
quoting urself eh m8? good to see the ol british humor is still on these boards. lol u probably dont remember me but i used to hang around here a lot once upon a time. peace
ha i remember u man nice to see u around ;)
all the best
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
A day, maybe two. There are too many girls out there to live in the past.
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Well this thread couldnt of come at a better time i know how you feel. ive been with my wife for 10yrs or so married for 6yrs the other day she tells me shes not happy. i just bought a house for us and shes not happy. /sigh not to air my trama but the point is at one time we split up around our first year of marrage we split for about 8 months and i shit you not it was the hardest thing i ever had to go through and ive been through alot of shit from cocaine and pill .herion addictions to drinking and so on but loseing my partner in life was the hardest ive never felt so alone and desperate so i tryed to compensate by excessive drug use and drinking ... dont go that route i eventually found someone to spend time with to help keep my mind occupied so i wasnt dwelling on my failed marrage and so on. then eventually i noticed that the hurt .. well it never went away but it got easier to deal with. till she started flaunting new b/f's infront of me and so on but thats a differnt story i say just stay busy and keep your chin up everything will get better with time though i swear when your going through that shit it doesnt feel like it will ever stop hurting goodluck my friend remember theres light at the end of every tunnel you just have to keep moving toward the other side =DD
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How Long did it take you to get over A breakup?
Took me shit still not over it! Hmm I think its been 3 years now and we went out for like two so I think this longing shit is about over.