why do girls play hard to get?

Hey i dont know if any of you remember a post i had a while ago about asking out a girl, but this is kinda a follow up.
heres the old post http://boards.cannabis.com/showthread.php?t=6297

anyway i just decided not to try and hookup with her for a while and see how things went. i found out pretty much everything i needed to know about her. i know for sure that she likes me now by how she acts. its good that i didnt ask her out at the time because she would have probably said no. lets just say that she caught all her prev. bf's cheating on her and she is very skeptical about going out again. i pretty much showed her that im not looking to get into her pants cause thats not what kind of guy i am and eventually asked her out. she said yes, but we havent gone out yet. she is playin the hard to get thing. she wont give me her number, although she is always leading me on. for example, the first time i asked for her #, she wrote it down on a piece of paper with all sorts of diff. color hearts, then she wouldnt give it to me and would laugh about it. back to my original question, why do girls play hard to get? because they want to see how much you like them...........probably.......or mabe its because they like making you go crazy. ive never really been in that much of a relationship, but how long have girls played this game with you guys before they gave in?

why not?

because we like that attention u guys give us when we do it :D

u make it to easy so we play along ;)

In other words girls like to mind fuck us, in which case you should be a dick and never talk to them again. J/k girls are much to complex for guys to understand so we have no choice but to play their little games. It works out alright for us when we get them in the sack anyway. (I don't mean to sound like an ass, I got love for all the girls)

yeah. if you could put this game into a picture, i would think it looks like a person playing with a string puppet. with the person obviously being a girl, and the puppet being the guy. i dont know why i see it like that.

Because when they play hard to get we get them additional attention and we treat them way better then we will in the future once we're positive they love us too much to leave us.

:D TEK....try another approach and you play hard to get, and if you show no interrest in her she will soon change her tune....


BTW...how old is she? :confused:

i love it when a chick plays hard to get! when theyre all flirty but wont give it up til i work for it :p

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Originally Posted by GHoSToKeR

i love it when a chick plays hard to get! when theyre all flirty but wont give it up til i work for it :p

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well i can just about imagine u doin that too :p




mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Ghost!! :eek:

she is 21 with a kinda playful side if you know what i mean.............actually a good way to describe that would be if you ever watched the last cast of the real world and saw how Cameron would act torward Brad like the little girl with a crush, not really sexual at all.

I don't play games......dumb

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Originally Posted by GooseBear

I don't play games......dumb

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Me neither...but the only reason is because it's been so long since I've been in the "game" that I've forgotten how to play! :(
















Just kidding, I'm thankful every day that my dating days are over...that was hell.

Bah@relationships
Too many variables and baggage...stay single, I say...but then I would, 'cos I don't trust anyone anymore.
"Once bitten...", lol..I've been bitten so many times, I look like a teething-ring!

I love women, but they have usually been fucked over by some asshole in the past, and so they are of the mind that 'all guys are the same'.
It's why I like coming here - no sexual tension=good relationship.
Once you put sex into the equation, all sensibility goes out the window.
Sure, I will flirt with the best of them, but as for anything more...been there, done that...fuck the tee-shirt.

Do I sound bitter? :rolleyes:
lol

i like the way guys think there all honourable and have you noticed how every guy "is not like other guys"

LoL STFU you aint kidding no one ......zzzzz

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Bah@relationships
Too many variables and baggage...stay single, I say...but then I would, 'cos I don't trust anyone anymore.
"Once bitten...", lol..I've been bitten so many times, I look like a teething-ring!

I love women, but they have usually been fucked over by some asshole in the past, and so they are of the mind that 'all guys are the same'.
It's why I like coming here - no sexual tension=good relationship.
Once you put sex into the equation, all sensibility goes out the window.
Sure, I will flirt with the best of them, but as for anything more...been there, done that...fuck the tee-shirt.

Do I sound bitter? :rolleyes:
lol

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hey my slag used too live in somerset :P

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Originally Posted by newbiesmok3r

i like the way guys think there all honourable and have you noticed how every guy "is not like other guys"

LoL STFU you aint kidding no one ......zzzzz

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I rest my case :)

lol girls love attention as many of u said, give her loads of attention then stop n she`l be wondering why u aint giving her much attention then she`l start giving it u, worked with me hmmmm touch wood ;)

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Originally Posted by maryjanemama

I'm thankful every day that my dating days are over...that was hell.

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oh snap! well the satan come get me, and take me back to hell !! :D

What makes me laugh, is that you become attracted to someone, and they to you - but as soon as a relationship happens, one (or both) parties want to change that other into something other than that which they first became attracted to :mad:

Kinda defeats the object of infactuation, doesn't it?

Like, I never tried to be anything other than what I am - and yet, my ex was continually trying to destroy that which she (obviously) found attractive in me - ie, "stop being so stupid and acting the fool!"...subsequently, that side of my personality was so berated and frowned upon, that I lost touch with it.
It is very difficult to regain that quality, so much so that it seems like I am acting 'out of character' now...when in fact, it is how I have always been.
Proabably didn't explain that too well, but it is a case of being subjudgated into something that one is not - and soon, you begin to believe it.

Think of "Tommy"....

girls play games because guys want the pussy. plain and simple. but there is nothing saying you can't play games back, now is there? just don't do anything hurtful or disrespectful, it'll always bite you in the ass later on.

my best tip would be to make buddy-buddy with her friends, and be incredibly interested in her...if her friends tell her how interested you are, she'll believe them. then you proceed to get all shy and stuff, try to avoid her (while simultaneously making it obvious you are still interested). when she confronts you aboot it, confess that you're way too nervous to be talking to such a pretty girl, I know its corny as hell but chances are it'll work.

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Originally Posted by Ammie

oh snap! well the satan come get me, and take me back to hell !! :D

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Haha, you go, girl! :p I'm just saying that at this point in time I have no idea how dating goes. I just remember: elation, waiting for the other shoe to drop, getting hurt, huge dissappointment, vowing to nerver do it again, repeat. I'll stay married.:)

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Originally Posted by DrGonzo

girls play games because guys want the pussy. plain and simple.

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Umm. not for me. The girls on here dont believe me that i dont "just" want to get her into bed. Shit i still havent slept with any girls ever so i dont know what its like to get pussy. Besides she even told me that she hasnt had sex before and isnt going to give it up for any boyfriend. I believe that because of her personality although a lot of girls would tell you they are still virgins. Im actually the one outta a hundred guys that dont really get into relationships to mess around with girls. I just like the idea of having someone there cause.............uhhh......i guess im kinda overly sensitive. its really sucks cause there are things that get me down that shouldnt. oh well i cant change the way i am.

bc we love the attention...
playing hard to get
keeps you guessing...


FUNFUN!

so when do they decide that this game is over?

Smoke some dope dude.

Go out, meet a girl who digs you for who you are, and you'll be ok, stick your neck out, take a couple hits then land a good one. And STAY, because thier are only so many people who can be your soulmate.

Now if i can follow my own advice i think i'll be set.

The C

I don't want to cause any trouble. And I really don't want any of the girls on here to get pissed at me but what I think is that all women are schizophrenic. They want guys to like them, but then turn around and get uncomfortable from the attention. My favorite is when they dress or act a certain way to get men to look at them then tell their girlfriends "Why can't guys just leave me alone. I am not a slut or anything. HEHE!" Don't get me wrong ladies, guys are not perfect. We're actually pretty stupid. We do things to impress girls when we know we have no chance with them, or say things to piss them off like it will increase our chances somehow. Maybe it's just me but I think the entire human race is a raving pack of retards. Sorry for that, I am an idiot (at least that's what my g/f says). Man, I need some reef.

Listen to the "C". Besides if we understood women thre'd be no fun. Hey Maryjane,want to step back into the dating scene :D and anyways women don't understand us either. so take a break and listen to the "C".

sometimes girls play games because they actually dont want the guy at all, they just want the attention.

now if we had to give a straight answer to, "do you want to go out with me?" and we said no - then the other party would be hurt and the fun would be over.

but if we dance around the answer, the party still has hope and the flirting can continue.

this is lesson 1 on how to avoid commitment.

lol.

ps: guys do it, too so dont let them fucking fool you.

hell, i learned most of the things i know from guys who have tried to use it on me. what you have to do when someone fucks you over is, instead of adding all of this depressing baggage to yourself, "oh woe is me im alone they hurt me i'll never trust anyoen again." learn what game they used, why, and how.. so then you know what to look out for in the future - and if you need to, you can use it for yourself (but thats bad and we wouldnt ever want to do that now would we?)

lol Bogart, you got it girl!

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Originally Posted by BOgart.bitch

sometimes girls play games because they actually dont want the guy at all, they just want the attention.

now if we had to give a straight answer to, "do you want to go out with me?" and we said no - then the other party would be hurt and the fun would be over.

but if we dance around the answer, the party still has hope and the flirting can continue.

this is lesson 1 on how to avoid commitment.

lol.

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That's very true..some girls just don't want to be mean and reject you but they are hoping you'll get the message. Maybe she's just not interested.

I think it makes the girl even hotter when they play hard to get sometimes. But their can be times where enough is enough and you just have to walk away and say your not worth my time if you are going to be like that. But I still like the challange.

the "game" actually comes from our instincts...when you see animals during mating season, they do the same thing...the girl is trying to lead you on, and in the end, see what guy will fight for her most...like how bucks fight with their antlers...in the end, its all about primal instincts...your trying to get the best female, and theyre trying to get the best male..only its the males that gotta try to get them, the females just gotta lead the most males on...

theres a lot more instincts in us then we believe...you can see it when driving on a long highway or freeway...you wont see anyone else driving for miles, and then a bunch of people....the herding instinct...

wow really old post

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Originally Posted by RESiNATE

Like, I never tried to be anything other than what I am - and yet, my ex was continually trying to destroy that which she (obviously) found attractive in me - ie, "stop being so stupid and acting the fool!"...subsequently, that side of my personality was so berated and frowned upon, that I lost touch with it.
It is very difficult to regain that quality, so much so that it seems like I am acting 'out of character' now...when in fact, it is how I have always been.
Proabably didn't explain that too well, but it is a case of being subjudgated into something that one is not - and soon, you begin to believe it.

Think of "Tommy"....

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You hit the nail on the head, I can relate to you on so many levels with that. My
first girlfriend was so immature, I think she brought me down. I had a way different sense of humour than her, and she was always making stupid jokes or something, and I would be like what are you talking about, and she would say your no fun or something. So I learned to laugh at her goofy comments. And it pissed me off for so long, till I just said fuck it, you're so stupid! (well not that mean.)

Probably doesn't make any sense to you but it really made me fill that same feeling.

leave it to a cannabis.com newbie to dig a post a year old up and bring it back to life. *claps*

I didn't read the thread, but don't show a girl any more attention than she deserves. Chances are you're not the only one giving her any. They revel in it. You've dropped the signals/game/whatever, so my advice is stop the attention, and if she misses it, she'll seek it out from ya. Don't want to be just another guy hitting on her, do ya? ;)

Otherwise move on.

A: because they can
B: because we men are idiots that too often think with the head that has no brain.

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Originally Posted by kiwi

:D TEK....try another approach and you play hard to get, and if you show no interrest in her she will soon change her tune....


BTW...how old is she? :confused:

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reverse psychcology...

:thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by teknodppr

she is 21 with a kinda playful side if you know what i mean.............actually a good way to describe that would be if you ever watched the last cast of the real world and saw how Cameron would act torward Brad like the little girl with a crush, not really sexual at all.

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ewwwwwwww why the fuck do you watch that show?