HI, how ya been?

I've been gone for a bit.

Had a g/f I cared very dearly about, one that didn't want me smoking or drinking. Which those were things I used to always do. I tried to do my best to change for her, but somehow I kept smoking weed periododically and found myself lying to her about it. Of course she found out and that complicated things. Lately we were having HUGE trust issues and I think this is finally it. Even though I lied to her about weed she htinks that means I don't love her or care for her. But I swear up and down I do and I would like to say I would do anything for her but why didn't I stop smoking?

I couldn't help but think smoking recreationaly was such a big deal if I just did it with a friend or two and never brought it up again. And I even quit for quite a bit recently for her but she wouldn't believe me and I think were done for good tonight.

Sorry for the rant. Has anyone else had like deep relationships where they felt they had to change to keep another person happy and weren't succesful? Anyone gone through some shitty break ups? I need some advice I feel horible right now.

Anyway I'm not sure if I'll be smoking anymore still, without her. I finally got a job, and am really starting to get my shit straight.

How are you?

i was in that exact same situation, like, EXACT. now its all great though, we smoke and everything. you just have to educate her on it, obviously shes misinformed and you'd be doing her a great favor by showing her the truth on it. theres nothing wrong with smoking, but theres definitely something wrong with anyone trying to stop you from making an informed choice on it, and that includes the government, your parent and even her. so talk to her about it, be totally open to how you feel, and make sure you really connect with her and shell know it.

plus, how can you stand lying to her? i just couldnt take it anymore, its like she thought i was a different person then i really was. you have to be totally open and things should turn out much nicer.

anyone who demands you change for them isn't worth worrying about. smoke a bowl, find a pretty little stoner woman and count your blessings.

no she used to do it and she despises it..or something.

I quit for less...

You are your only pilot and you chose weed??? you need to be be alone for a while to understand a soul mate is worth more than weed...
the first rule in any lasting relationship it trust,,,you broke it,,, you would of been a whole lot better off if you laid it on the line... She may of left you but you could of realized in time she was worth more than weed and you would be standing on better ground right now...

get off your ass and make a decision...

i understand what you mean.

it hurts to say maybe it was a waste of time because of how different we were..but i'd like to think we tried making it work out of curiosity for our love for one another..if that makes any sense. but i don't think it worked.

anyway she might be moving soon and i'll be off to college to pursue my goals or whatever.

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Originally Posted by VoidLivesOn

i understand what you mean.

it hurts to say maybe it was a waste of time because of how different we were..but i'd like to think we tried making it work out of curiosity for our love for one another..if that makes any sense. but i don't think it worked.

anyway she might be moving soon and i'll be off to college to pursue my goals or whatever.

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Well it looks to me you 2 might not of been meant for each other... You learned a valuable lesson though...

One thing I have to say ,,,if the right one comes along you probably will never get another shot as life is just that way,,,thats why people settle...

If you truely believe in marijuana, and she doesn't, then she's probably not the one. If you smoke just for fun, then quit, if she's worth it.

hm, well I cant smoke, so,

have fun with your decision

Void... where is your JFA avatar?

i took it off cause i was ganna try something different but i never got around to resizing a new picture.

I believe that if you have to change any aspect of who you are to make a relationship work, then it was never meant to be. Your significant other should love and accept you for who you are, and that includes the stoner in you.