Girl help

ok, so theres this girl that i really like...like i cant stop thinking about her...but i dont know if she likes me and just the thought of her saying no scares the shit out of me, so im asking you guys what you think

shes been my best girlfriend for about 2 years now, but for like the past year ive really liked her. i always just told myself to get over it, but since the beginning of this school year i think she may have started liking me back.

basically she mite be the hottest girl in my grade, so guys are always hitting on her in my school and shes very flirtatious back, but i know that she really would never touch any of them. we spend a lot of time together in school and we spend every saturday night together. a lot of ppl think like we are about to go out with eachother bc they always see us together, but im really not that sure. when we are together sometimes she will be very affectionate and hold my hand all the time and hug me all the time, but then there are other times when she wont even let me hug her. whenever someone brings up us going out she always just like laughs and says to the person your so weird. my bestfriend says he thinks she likes me, but my bestfriend isnt so close with her so he can never really know besides from what he sees. everyday after school she usually texts me at least once and calls a lot also and will always im me (i try not to text im her or call her bc i dont want to seem like i have a huge crush on her). I really like her, so what do you guys think i should do?

well from a girls perspective, it is generally very flattering when a guy asks us out. i think you should just go for it, and ask her out. worst thing that could happen is she says no- but you two sound so close that i don't think she would freak out or run for the hills if you ask her.

and it does sound to me like she is into you. all that affection and attention she gives you sounds hopeful... although you do need to ask yourself if she treats everyone that way, or just you.

Get it over with dude. If she says yes, great! If she says no, tell her that this doesn't change anything you had with her before that. Easy-Peasy-Lemon-Squeezy!

yea thats the part that confuses me bc i think that she does treat every1 that way if it was just me id know she for sure likes me, but its not. the thing is she definitely does it to me the most also, like were always together...a lot of times she asks me to eat lunch with her(just her) in school, which is kinda weird bc every1 usually just eats together. i think i mite just be scared to ask her out, but there is defintely a chance she will say no, idk, i guess im just being a pussy lol

seriously dude just ask her, if you like her a lot then there shouldnt be a problem with it.. and if she says no then you will know that it just wasnt meant to be and you can still be really good friends.. and just have some confidence in yourself bro..

u guys are all right, any suggestions on how to ask, i dont want to fuck this up...wow i sound really gay right now lol

just say what you feel about her, be honest with her and tell her how you really feel and what not

yea, hopefully i will ask her out this week and not pussy out, thanks for the help though...ill deff let u guys know how it goes

NOOOO,, do not do it, i did that once, only once tho, cuz i think its best to just be freinds if the girl is a really close freind, i dont know tho its just me,
i asked a girl out that was my freind for a couple of years and she said yeh and it was all cool but she thought it would ruin our freindship cuz relationships tend to do that with people, sometimes

^what you say is valid, however no one likes to live their life regretting something. what would happen if purple haze didnt ask her out, but then 3 years later when he has a diff gf, she comes up to him and is like "btw i had this hugggge crush on you back in...." that has happened to me many times and it sucks.

2 years and nothing....you are stuck in the friend zone. Give her a kiss and see what happens but I think that it is too late.

yea dutchlover im with u, and i dont really think itll ruin our friendship itll just b awkward for like a 2 weeks, if i wasnt scared i would 4sure have asked her out already...it just seems like its never the right time tho

well good luck with whatever it is you decide to do, and keep me/us posted:)

deff will thanks a lot

fakeboobs...i didnt see ur post, that is a possibility, but i think its 50/50 on whether or not she likes me and i just need to ask so i can get over her if she doesnt like me back

Honestly, in my experiences, the best way to do it is to just spill your guts out...

Just ask her if she wants to go out on a 'date'. That way, your not asking her to be your girlfriend, but its the first step. If she says yes, she likes you just as much as you like her. If she makes excuses you know your just very good mates.

treat her real nice, (you probably already do) boil up some confidence, and at the right time look her straight in the eyes and ask her out... you should get an honest response...

rejection isnt so bad, lol i remember i asked some girl i really liked to go out with me on valentines day (thinking she liked me too) and she said no.. but i was glad i asked and afterwards she did become more friendly towards me... lol it took some balls too...:)

good luck man... its all on you...

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Originally Posted by 420purpHAZE420

ok, so theres this girl that i really like...like i cant stop thinking about her...but i dont know if she likes me and just the thought of her saying no scares the shit out of me, so im asking you guys what you think

shes been my best girlfriend for about 2 years now, but for like the past year ive really liked her. i always just told myself to get over it, but since the beginning of this school year i think she may have started liking me back.

basically she mite be the hottest girl in my grade, so guys are always hitting on her in my school and shes very flirtatious back, but i know that she really would never touch any of them. we spend a lot of time together in school and we spend every saturday night together. a lot of ppl think like we are about to go out with eachother bc they always see us together, but im really not that sure. when we are together sometimes she will be very affectionate and hold my hand all the time and hug me all the time, but then there are other times when she wont even let me hug her. whenever someone brings up us going out she always just like laughs and says to the person your so weird. my bestfriend says he thinks she likes me, but my bestfriend isnt so close with her so he can never really know besides from what he sees. everyday after school she usually texts me at least once and calls a lot also and will always im me (i try not to text im her or call her bc i dont want to seem like i have a huge crush on her). I really like her, so what do you guys think i should do?

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I can see this ending horribly. That's what happened to me when i tried to go back out with my ex g/f, we were so close, like i've never been closer with any other girl then her. I was so certain that she would say yes that i didn't prepare myself enough for rejection. After she rejected me and i left her house i broke down in tears, that's the first time i've cried in so long. Look man, i really hope she does like you back but once you're in that friends zone it's SO hard to turn it around. My advice is to move on, find another girl, this will potentially make her jealous and then you may get what you want anyway.

you could jokingly say something like "stop sending me mixed messages haha" or something like that just to see what she says. Kind of feel her out on it.

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Originally Posted by WeedyBoyWonder

Just ask her if she wants to go out on a 'date'. That way, your not asking her to be your girlfriend, but its the first step. If she says yes, she likes you just as much as you like her. If she makes excuses you know your just very good mates.

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Just do this, seriously. That way you dont get rejected from asking her to be your girlfriend, and you get to know if she likes you to. If you do go on a date, tell her you really like her then.

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Originally Posted by FakeBoobsRule

2 years and nothing....you are stuck in the friend zone. Give her a kiss and see what happens but I think that it is too late.

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Y E S.

Reading this is honestly creeping me out. I was drowning in the deep end of the friend zone back in high school, with a girl that, from your description, is the EXACT same person.

She was afraid of losing what we had, and for that reason, nothing ever came of it. Luckily I didn't keep my hopes up, but still, if you don't take a shot, you'll never know. That girl is still a close friend of mine to this day, actually.

I think I mentioned something like "what are we?" to her one day, and that was enough for her to get what was going on.

Speaking from a person that was in your SAME shoes a few years ago, if you feel something, don't hold it back. Just be careful how you tell her, ya know? Don't spook her and don't act like you don't care about your friendship.

I missed my chance back in high school, lol, b/c my eyes apparently weren't open. But now they are open, and seeing this, it seems to me that she's waiting for you to make a move, one way or the other. So do just that. ~

Get off the bus at 5th street and wack it dude,,,guessing is about as good as thinking...

thanks guys, as of now im just waiting for the right moment when i have her alone...but i would like to add the fact that she calls me her boyfriend all the time, i dont kno wat that means exactly, is that a good sign or a friendzone type of thing?

Well, for starters, next time she throws out the "B" word, ask her what that's all about? I know I'd be a bit curious why she'd be calling me that.

And I know you think you're trying to wait for "the right time," but in all actuality, the "right time" is when you finally bring it up. Over-analyzing something like this sometimes causes you to continuously put "that" moment off, and before you know it, you blew your chance. Case in point: me, lol.

Just GO with it, don't think too much, and I'm sure she'll be yours. ~

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Originally Posted by Its a Plant

Just GO with it, don't think too much,

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do this always. :)

Good Luck!

im gunna force myself to do it by winter vacation (dec. 21st), i figure if i dont find the rite moment by then i can just tell her i really need 2 talk 2 her b4 we leave 4 vacation, then i can ask her out

whatever you do, dont ask her out over msn or the like. do it in person. good luck!

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Originally Posted by 420purpHAZE420

yea thats the part that confuses me bc i think that she does treat every1 that way if it was just me id know she for sure likes me, but its not. the thing is she definitely does it to me the most also, like were always together...a lot of times she asks me to eat lunch with her(just her) in school, which is kinda weird bc every1 usually just eats together. i think i mite just be scared to ask her out, but there is defintely a chance she will say no, idk, i guess im just being a pussy lol

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i believe so :) no but really if you are such close friends, her saying no shouldnt bring too much between you.

Go for it... I'm asking a girl out from the dorms this week when she comes to see me, and quite frankly I'm expecting rejection... but I refuse to live my life regretting not having balls.

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Originally Posted by 420purpHAZE420

fakeboobs...i didnt see ur post, that is a possibility, but i think its 50/50 on whether or not she likes me and i just need to ask so i can get over her if she doesnt like me back

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Don't ask or get all feely feely and spill your guts out. You have known her for 2 years, make a move and kiss her. If she feels the same way about you she is probably wondering if you do too and if she does feel the same way, she will kiss you back. This is the best way to find out. Also, if she doesn't then you can just be like I don't know what got into me instead of spilling your guts and having a huge awkward moment instead of a small one. The kiss is the best and quickest way to find out if someone likes you.

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Originally Posted by FakeBoobsRule

Don't ask or get all feely feely and spill your guts out. You have known her for 2 years, make a move and kiss her. If she feels the same way about you she is probably wondering if you do too and if she does feel the same way, she will kiss you back. This is the best way to find out. Also, if she doesn't then you can just be like I don't know what got into me instead of spilling your guts and having a huge awkward moment instead of a small one. The kiss is the best and quickest way to find out if someone likes you.

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dont do that. if she doesnt feel the same way and you make a move rather than ask i think you would be risking your relationship as it stands right now. if there was more like a 75% chance she felt the same way then this would be an option you might want to consider, but for what you think the odds are now it might be taking too much of a chance.

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Originally Posted by napolitana869

dont do that. if she doesnt feel the same way and you make a move rather than ask i think you would be risking your relationship as it stands right now. if there was more like a 75% chance she felt the same way then this would be an option you might want to consider, but for what you think the odds are now it might be taking too much of a chance.

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What do you want him to do, do nothing or talk it out. That is the perfect way of telling the girl that he is a take charge manly man, by asking her if she feels the same way because he can't tell.:rolleyes: He needs to take charge and show a little bit of fire, that he isn't some weak male but a manly man who knows what he wants and takes care of business. If he is wrong and he goes through this long talk about how he has feelings for her and blah blah blah and she says no how is he going to unopen that can of worms. "Oh, I was just kidding." If she doesn't feel the same way that talk will send her running. Maybe you want him to call Maury Povich and go on one of those "I have a secret crush shows" :rolleyes: A small kiss that goes unreturned after they smoked can be brushed off more easily than a talk that he obviously has to come up with over time or had to think about for a while before he told her. Since he is in the dangerous friend zone, the kiss will show her some passion and fire. It is just a fucking kiss, but if she feels the same it will be so much more.

It sounds like you are already going out. Do you just want the friendship with benefits? I've found if you want something long enough and keep doing little things to get it the planets will align and good things will happen.

yea we really are basically going out minus the sexual part, and i dont think the kiss thing is a good idea

and freezland dont worry i dont care if u steal the thread, but keep us updated tho bc it really sounds like were talking about the same exact thing

Just ask her "so what are we?" and see what she says.
You should try to give us a better picture of this girls personality. She sounds like one of those girls that likes to get a lot of attention. Find out what her friends think. It's not a matter of you being a pussy, it's a matter of knowing exactly where you stand and knowing how into you she is. If you know shes really into you than asking her out wont be a problem.

shes kinda like free spirited, doesnt care wat ppl think, but shes pretty hot and i dont think she really knows it, i dont really kno wat ur looking for but if u ask questions i will anser

i agree with its a plant and weedboywonder???:stoned:

just ask her on a date, its like sayin "hey do you want to go there"(in relationship terms) without goin to far...

if you kiss her and she really doesnt like you like that ,it will...
1. make you look bad
2. embarrassed like hell(no one wants a kiss rejected)
3cross the boundries
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but hey if she calls you her b/f, she obvisoly diggin you (or shes just weird):p :p j/k

so just ask her on a date and when she implies on (do you mean like together just say yes and start it from there

it sounds to me like your cool and doing the right thing

good luck,
Ron

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Originally Posted by FakeBoobsRule

What do you want him to do, do nothing or talk it out. That is the perfect way of telling the girl that he is a take charge manly man, by asking her if she feels the same way because he can't tell.:rolleyes: He needs to take charge and show a little bit of fire, that he isn't some weak male but a manly man who knows what he wants and takes care of business. If he is wrong and he goes through this long talk about how he has feelings for her and blah blah blah and she says no how is he going to unopen that can of worms. "Oh, I was just kidding." If she doesn't feel the same way that talk will send her running. Maybe you want him to call Maury Povich and go on one of those "I have a secret crush shows" :rolleyes: A small kiss that goes unreturned after they smoked can be brushed off more easily than a talk that he obviously has to come up with over time or had to think about for a while before he told her. Since he is in the dangerous friend zone, the kiss will show her some passion and fire. It is just a fucking kiss, but if she feels the same it will be so much more.

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If he wasnt such good friends with her already I think that he should go with what you're saying. I just got he impression that he didnt want to risk the friendship as it stands now. If she really just wants to be freinds a kiss would cause more damage than just talking to her. I think your way would work well for the other guy who was in a similar situation though.