hurt about a boy

so im 20 years old and i know im too old to cry about this, but there was this super intelligent, polite, kind cute guy i liked, and he started to like me back and we talked on the phone a lot, even when i went home for thanksgiving break. we made out twice but never had sex because i wanted him to be my boyfriend not just some other guy. but whatever, after break he never returned my calls or anything so i was like hm i guess he's over me, but i had that hope that maybe he was just busy or something. well i see him today and this girl comes out of her dorm and gives him a hug and i knew it was like a close hug and so i start to walk away (he was coming over cuz i was giving him some stuff back) and so then we sit and talk for awhile, then i see him tonight and im like what are u doin and hes like "talkin' to jessica (name changed)" and he said it all happy and i was lilke okay so then i was gonna sit by him cuz this girl was gone and then she came out of the door and sat by him and i just walked away.

so then i called him tonight and he said he had just got back from hanging out with her and i was like so are u guys just friends or goin out or what and he was like well not goin out but i dunno, i just have so much in common with her, more than any other girl i've ever met and she thinks deep like me and i was like well ill let you go write your paper now.

im so sad. this really sucks because i think im a smart female that is attractive but im always the friend or the girl they just fool around with or smoke with or the one they get homework help from and bitch about their girl problems and i never have a boyfriend. i always get passed over. im crying about this and i dont even know why. this girl is a super good girl that doesnt smoke or drink or anything. i hate it. im sad and i just wanted to vent. sorry.

Aww, don't feel bad. If he couldn't see you for you, then he probably wasn't worth the time.

I know a girl that's kind of like you, too. She's always either a buddy to someone or just an ear to lend. Only I think she chooses to be like that for fear of getting hurt...something like that anyways. But I do feel for you b/c it can't be easy never gettin' any LOVE.

All I can suggest is that you surround yourself with new faces so you're not still just a smoking buddy to all your other friends. Time will do its thing and heal your heart, so keep your head up and move on down the road. Forget about him.

The sea is large, and there are PLENTY of fish. Some fishermen(and women) wait years and years before they land the catch of the year. PATIENCE.

Much love. ~

judging from your profile picture and your general attitude in the post....that guy is a fucktard and doesnt know a good thing when it is in front of his face..if all else fails, come smoke a blunt with me and have a good time :thumbsup:

you'll find someone someday

His loss. I know it probably hurts alot and nothing can heal pain better than a few drinks, lots of good food and time.
You can't control how he feels, that hurts, I know.
You're a great girl, you have to know it too. Its too bad he doesnt see it in you, that doesn't mean its not true.
I'm going to say it again, totally his loss. You did all you could do but in the end it was his choice, a bad choice I must say.
I hope you feel better and don't let this getyou down too much alright?

Why are you wearing your iPod earphones in you profile picture? And is it that bright inside your house that you have to wear sunglasses? Think about these questions young grasshopper, and you will find the answer to all of your guy problems.

It's okay, keep your head up.

There will be plenty more and you know it...

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Originally Posted by fikusroot

Why are you wearing your iPod earphones in you profile picture? And is it that bright inside your house that you have to wear sunglasses? Think about these questions young grasshopper, and you will find the answer to all of your guy problems.

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oh so thats why ive only had one boyfriend ever, who treated me like crap anyway, lol time to ditch the ipod and sunglasses and let the boys roll in lol

sweetheart, u sound like a wonderful woman...not to mention the fact that your gorgeous in your profile pic

lets go out sometime?

too bad.. if it makes you feel better you can smoke with me anytime! then ill prob just ditch you though, na jk we could fool around first.

Its just some guy. It doesn't really sound like he's as into you as you are to him. I would say find another man.

Are you guys close friends??
Somtimes friendship is better than dating...

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Originally Posted by PdoubleOTY

judging from your profile picture and your general attitude in the post....that guy is a fucktard and doesnt know a good thing when it is in front of his face..if all else fails, come smoke a blunt with me and have a good time :thumbsup:

you'll find someone someday

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DAMN STRAIGHT!!!!

Back when I was 20 I would have loved to know a girl that was as pretty and intelligent as you, and smoked weed to boot. I probably would have married her.

Usually people don't know what they have until it's gone so go out and have fun with other friends and maybe he'll come to his senses.

I think you should give yourself a fighting chance. Don't give up so easily. :) You are obviously attractive and intelligent, perhaps the guy is oblivious to the way you feel about him.

Otherwise, you have suitors wooing you at cannabis.com haha.

remember how you feel so when guys that like you
and you dont like them the same you can be nicer
sometimes ,most of the time things dont work out
just be yourself

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Originally Posted by bentleygtgirl

im so sad. this really sucks because i think im a smart female that is attractive but im always the friend or the girl they just fool around with or smoke with or the one they get homework help from and bitch about their girl problems and i never have a boyfriend. i always get passed over.

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it sucks being that girl, ive been that girl all my life. and i recently got passed over by two guys who "loved" me in the past 2 months. it hurt ya know, you think you can be so much more, and you try so hard, but your effort never works and you want to give up. you make your best effort not to let it go but make me want to cry so hard when i see that he's only doing a half ass job in our friendship, knowing that he doesnt want anything more

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Originally Posted by bentleygtgirl

we made out twice but never had sex because i wanted him to be my boyfriend not just some other guy.

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:thumbsup: i completely agree, theres been so many girls that come up to me bawling about that, they cry for hours, telling me how much they regret it

bently that is the story of my life ... what guy wouldn't want to go out with a hot girl that smokes bud? i just don't understand what goes through some guys heads man its annoying

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Originally Posted by gabee42ee

bently that is the story of my life ... what guy wouldn't want to go out with a hot girl that smokes bud? i just don't understand what goes through some guys heads man its annoying

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i know, you just want to hit them in the face and say "WTF, IM HERE COME GET ME"

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Originally Posted by Samwhore

i know, you just want to hit them in the face and say "WTF, IM HERE COME GET ME"

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That's what my ex-wife did to get my attention. We met at a concert, and she was hitting on me the whole time, and I sorta ignored her, even tho I was very attracted to her. She forcefully grabbed me and gave me the most romantic kiss I ever had. I'm glad she did it at the time, because I was totally oblivious to the fact she liked me. Men are stupid (or maybe it's just me) lol.

If you are intelligent maybe you should "like" sound like it???

you need a man not a boy.

Oh I wasn't a whore for him cause I want him,,,did he hear about any one night stands with someone else???

If he can't see you for the intelligent good looking woman you are, fuhgetaboutit. Keep his phone # in your cell if you still have it, who knows maybe he'll wake up and come calling. Otherwise, college is full of guys, just as insecure about finding a good woman, as women are about finding men.

And nobody says the guy of your dreams is at your college, dont feel like you gotta settle down early (christ i did and 7 years later im divorced). If you wanna chat sometime, pm me and we'll exchange IM's :)

Stop putting so much of your time and energy into guys. Have you considered dating girls?

your one fine piece of ass ,fuck that dude move on.I doubt that you would really have trouble finding a good guy to take his place.:pimp:

If that's an accurate picture of you, theres a 90% chance you have some sort of bad reputation that guys are avoiding...

Listen hon, between my last boyfriend and my current boyfriend I was basically exactly how you were. I've had a few guys to fool around with in between but basically all they told me when I asked them if they wanted to actually date was that I was more like a sister then a girlfriend. I know EXACTLY how you feel, but after almost 7 months of being single and just yanno, shopping around (LOL) I found the most amazing guy who loves me to death. It just takes time, you're still very young and you've got so many options around you! Open up your life to new experiences and maybe you'll meet new people who don't have that 'sister' view of you? I dunno, but good luck babe and really, one guy isn't worth much..especially if he doesn't seem to give a shit. (That girl's probably a dumbass too)

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Originally Posted by bentleygtgirl

so im 20 years old and i know im too old to cry about this, but there was this super intelligent, polite, kind cute guy i liked, and he started to like me back and we talked on the phone a lot, even when i went home for thanksgiving break. we made out twice but never had sex because i wanted him to be my boyfriend not just some other guy. but whatever, after break he never returned my calls or anything so i was like hm i guess he's over me, but i had that hope that maybe he was just busy or something. well i see him today and this girl comes out of her dorm and gives him a hug and i knew it was like a close hug and so i start to walk away (he was coming over cuz i was giving him some stuff back) and so then we sit and talk for awhile, then i see him tonight and im like what are u doin and hes like "talkin' to jessica (name changed)" and he said it all happy and i was lilke okay so then i was gonna sit by him cuz this girl was gone and then she came out of the door and sat by him and i just walked away.

so then i called him tonight and he said he had just got back from hanging out with her and i was like so are u guys just friends or goin out or what and he was like well not goin out but i dunno, i just have so much in common with her, more than any other girl i've ever met and she thinks deep like me and i was like well ill let you go write your paper now.

im so sad. this really sucks because i think im a smart female that is attractive but im always the friend or the girl they just fool around with or smoke with or the one they get homework help from and bitch about their girl problems and i never have a boyfriend. i always get passed over. im crying about this and i dont even know why. this girl is a super good girl that doesnt smoke or drink or anything. i hate it. im sad and i just wanted to vent. sorry.

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Don't worry about it. Pretty soon you'll have another boyfriend. Super good girls are boring. Men are stupid.