For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
Anyone else here living with their boyfriend or girlfriend? If so, do your parents forget that your partner has family too. My girlfriend and I both talked to our parents today to see what was going on for thanksgiving and both asked if we would both be going. I told my mom it depends on what her family is doing. She said her mom asked the same thing, and they both sounded a little confused as to why we wouldn't both be there. Do they forget she has parents?
Anyway, I'm wondering how others handle it. Do you each go your seperate way's and meet back up at night, or do you spend a few hours at both dinners? We are just going our seperate way's on this one. Niether of us feel like dealing with the stress of being one place and trying to get to the next an hour 15 mins away. It works out better that way. This way we both get to spend times with our families without feeling rushed. I hate holiday's.
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
If that works for both of you, that's how it should be. If I got along with my boyfriend's family, I would spend time at both places.
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
lol my wife's family (well any of it that would even consider her coming, or making a dinner as far as i know) don't live around here, and my family, well pretty much all of it anyways, doesn't give a flying 2 shits about me, much less who i married... my mom usually tries to get me to go to her house for holidays, but if i can i won't, all that ever happens is she gets drunk (usually with other friends) and causes a bunch of uneeded bullshit, starting screaming matches with anyone who will even think twice about going back at her with it.. it's just all around a miserable fucking time and she tries to guilt trip me into coming, buti have no guilt because she's done this to her self..
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
My girl and I will go to her families dinner one year, then for that occasion the next year we go to mine. That way we don't have to worry about travelling and rushing and all that.
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
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Originally Posted by JaggedEdge
Anyone else here living with their boyfriend or girlfriend? If so, do your parents forget that your partner has family too. My girlfriend and I both talked to our parents today to see what was going on for thanksgiving and both asked if we would both be going. I told my mom it depends on what her family is doing. She said her mom asked the same thing, and they both sounded a little confused as to why we wouldn't both be there. Do they forget she has parents?
Anyway, I'm wondering how others handle it. Do you each go your seperate way's and meet back up at night, or do you spend a few hours at both dinners? We are just going our seperate way's on this one. Niether of us feel like dealing with the stress of being one place and trying to get to the next an hour 15 mins away. It works out better that way. This way we both get to spend times with our families without feeling rushed. I hate holiday's.
My boyfriend and I do not have enough money to celebrate the holidays. So we just aren't going to..which is okay because neither of our families are super uptight about holidays.
It is kind of lame though because I would love to invite his family over for thanksgiving but his family is all SOBER now because of past substance problems..and my family is full of alcoholics.
So pretty much we will never have a Holiday together.
Oh well though, I still love them all!
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
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Originally Posted by TallulahGreen
My boyfriend and I do not have enough money to celebrate the holidays. So we just aren't going to..which is okay because neither of our families are super uptight about holidays.
It is kind of lame though because I would love to invite his family over for thanksgiving but his family is all SOBER now because of past substance problems..and my family is full of alcoholics.
So pretty much we will never have a Holiday together.
Oh well though, I still love them all!
lmao, that could be one hell of a holiday party if both yal's families showed up... i'd pay to watch it :cool:
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
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Originally Posted by TallulahGreen
My boyfriend and I do not have enough money to celebrate the holidays. So we just aren't going to..which is okay because neither of our families are super uptight about holidays.
It is kind of lame though because I would love to invite his family over for thanksgiving but his family is all SOBER now because of past substance problems..and my family is full of alcoholics.
So pretty much we will never have a Holiday together.
Oh well though, I still love them all!
We don't have enough money either, but my family would flip if I didn't appear on Thanksgiving. Your situation sounds a lot like mine, one side loves to drink, the other is the uptight christian type.
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
Yeah, well considering my family live exactly a block down the street from the boyfriend...getting together for Thanksgiving is no problem. I am looking forward to bong rips and stuffing!!!
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
For me it works out pretty well balancing out cause I always alternate every year being that my girlfriend is Native american and her family doesnt celebrate Thanksgiving for obvious reasons. So one year I spend with my family and the other I spend it with hers and they all get together on the reservation and have this big party and have the best bud to smoke which I couldnt do with my family lol.:rasta:
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
We used to have a lot more time balancing both families at holidays when our son was young and everyone was eager to clock holiday time with "the baby." He's my parents' only grandchild and my in-laws' only grandson. It felt challenging to be pulled in both directions. My in-laws live in Houston, and my family is right up here nearby in the Dallas area like we are. We used to switch years for Christmas celebrations--one year in Dallas, then the next in Houston, and Thanksgiving was spent with whoever we weren't going to be spending Christmas with. Fortunately, these days my in-laws can drive or fly up here anytime they want, and now our son can do the same and go see them when he wants. Still, we see more of my family simply because they're closer. These days at Christmastime, we generally combine both sets of parents. The Houston clan comes up here and stays for a bit and we add them to the family gatherings involving my family. It works out fine. They all get along well.
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
This is the first year that my girlfriend and I have been living together, so this is the first time we will have to deal with this issue. We realized we were going to have a problem a couple months ago, and tried to plan in advance. Things actually worked out really well. Both of our familys get along very well, and understood that we needed to spend time with everyone.
We are going to her moms (about 2 hours from our house) on thanksgiving for a lunch-type celebration, then at 4 we are driving 100 miles back towards home for a Thankgiving dinner with my parents. On friday we are driving back towards her moms house again for another thanksgiving dinner with other family. We are going to be full all weekend.
Christmas is even more drivi... Oh I mean fun. Christmas is going to be even more fun! Christmas is on a Monday this year. Her family does more of a Christmas eve dinner. So we are driving out to Las Vegas (over a 6 hour drive) on friday and staying for the weekend. Then we are driving home to my parents on Christmas eve at like 2 in the morning. We should make it there with time to catch at least a couple hours of sleep. Then we are waking up to do Christmas with my family. After that we are driving back to the valley to see more family for a Christmas brunch.
I cant wait til new years..
For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.
I moved 3000 miles away from my own family and will have nothing to do with my wife's family so holidays are easy.
"Family" does nothing for me and always embarrassed me or pissed me off so I forget about them. Life is so much easier without them on my back.:thumbsup:
Besides holidays suck, they just fuck the roads up and make traveling across town a nitemare.
