why does this system do this to people like me

i went to school today with a tin of my weed in my bag. just like any other day. i wasnt harming anyone or anything. i get called down to the offic after 2nd period.. the assistant principal says someone said i have weed on me. she searched my bag. she finds it. she looks deepr and find two knives that ive just completley forgotten about. now i am so fucked
my dad has freaked out at me. my mom is going to be so angry. everything is gone to hell. EVERYTHING IS. I'm suspended for 6-10 days, i have to talk with the principal, i've got a court date for december 13th.. i have to pay a big fine and might be put on probation.

If it were me living alone in an appartment, i would be horribly pissed at the situation, but i would be able to handel it and get myself through this

but with my parents involved.. its so fucking bad. i think i've got enough punishment, with my fine and suspension and parole and all the imbarrasment, but they are just going to pile on the punishments. great. I am NOT looking foreword to the conversation that im going to have to have with both my parents when they get home. i want to tell them this "it was a huge mistake that i will never take again, but what i have to do is just get through it. im going to pay the fine, and im just going to do everything i have to, and then this mess will be over."

but i know when i say that theyre going to be telling me how horrible it was for me to do, how i have to stop doing it, how i have to do beter in school and not skip and steer clear of hard drugs and all taht. but the thing is, none of that applys to what the whole conversation is supposed to be about. i just want them to know that im going to try and deal with this as smoothly and maturely as possible. but they wont take that. they wont listen to what i have to say becuase thats how it ALLLWAYS is with them.

they want to make it worse than it is, which to me seems pointless

when i told my dad about my plan for how to deal with all this, he said "its weird how you seem to think its so simple" in an angry tone, as if he thought im not taking this seriousley.
the thing is, i AM trying to make this simple. what the fuck is wrong with that?? its a hell of a lot better than making it complicated and difficult

rahhhhhhhh WHAT A BAD DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

p.s please dont critisize me or tell me i shouldnt have had that in my bag(becuase i think ive thought about that enough by now haha) as i have had one of the shittyest days ive ever expirenced and im only typing this to you guys so that i can vent out to people who understand

it's a life lesson,,,turn it into a positive experience and learn... I got popped in school with a snubnose 38 and I made it through...

ee damn. yea i really am looking at it like that already. its just the suspension of my mom coming home is whats killing me right now.

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ee damn. yea i really am looking at it like that already. its just the suspension of my mom coming home is whats killing me right now.

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If you are looking at it like,,,a lesson,,,explain that to your mom tell her you screwed up and you are going to work on changing...Just don't tell here that you are going to continue smoking weed if she is closed minded to it...

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rahhhhhhhh WHAT A BAD DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Always remember..........things could be worse.

Have a good one!:thumbsup:

Good luck man. Sounds like you're in a pickle. I'd give advice, but the only time I was suspended was for fighting and calling my princepal a dickhead to his face. :p If I did get caught with cannabis at school, they'd just like, "don't bring it to school. You're there to learn. Smoke pot after you've done the work."

Cannabis is okay with my folks. They smoked it back in the 70's but don't care much for it now, so it's always been accepted as a safe thing to do if I never stole anything for it, or start selling my possesions.

Good luck.

yea see i know i brought it all onmyself and i honestly havnt felt much shittier than this ever about myself. but im so fucking scared because this feeling is nothing compared to how i feel when my moms done with me. im about to see my mom more furuious/ashamed than ive ever seen her.

They can be as furious as they want, but remeber that this mistake doesn't mean they don't still care and love you. :) That's how I see it anyways. Mistakes are part of human nature. You'll get through it, but try to have a mature discussion about what happened. If they start yelling and screaming, cursing, then tell them, "I'll have this talk when you feel like talking, not yelling. I made a mistake, I feel awful about it, and I won't bring cannabis to school anymore," or something like that. Admit the mistake and you might be surprised of how they react.

Some loosers once set me up and I ended up getting busted by my principal for having a switchblade at school. After he opened it on his hand, he got mad, told me never to bring it to school again or hes calling the cops, He gave it back and that was the end of it.

Good luck boss. Atleast you know you fucked up, and youre attempting to fix the problem. That definitely shows maturity.

Damn...back when I was in high school...everyone had weed or coke on them in school all the time. And its not a bad school at all. Everything you needed was at school haha. No one ever got caught really...cuz snitches are bitches...and we don't like bitches.

I'm not gonna give you shit for bringing pot to school (I've done that myself, when I was in school). What I have to wonder about though is, how did the assistant principal KNOW you had pot on you? Assuming she's not capable of reading minds, then someone must have told her. I'd want to know who that was. Not necessarily to beat their ass, but to know who to avoid, so they don't ever see you do anything you don't want the authorities to know about.

I know this seems like a horrible thing to happen to you, but I promise you, this will eventually seem like such stupid BS that you will someday wonder why you were so freaked out over this. Accept your various punishments and move on. You're a good kid, and if I can tell that, some stranger you'll likely never meet at all, then your parents know it too.

One thing that always got me through hard times was saying to myself that the finest swords are forged in the hottest of fires. Every tough and trying time I've ever endured, and there have been many, has made me a better person in one way or another, and at the end of this, you'll be a better person too, watch and see. ;)

Exactly what happened to me, minus the knives, and I got arrested at school.

Prepare for a shitty year ;) It's been six months, and life still sucks.

^are you on parole?

hey thanks for the responses jamstigator and everyone else. ive had alot of time to be thinking up here in my room and now pretty much my only fear is when my mom gets here. she's still not.

well, shit happens. it does piss me off that your getting fucked for trying to make things more simple, but whatever. good luck dude

oops i meant to ask "are you on probation?"

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^are you on parole?

hey thanks for the responses jamstigator and everyone else. ive had alot of time to be thinking up here in my room and now pretty much my only fear is when my mom gets here. she's still not.

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man that sucks bad.....

but i must say (and with all the knowledgable faces in here, im suprised it hasnt already been brought up yet)

whats the first rule of growing!!!!!!!
Dont Tell Anyone Anything

i may be wrong, and if i am please correct me

but you were ratted out because someone else knew about it.........
and that was because you told someone....

im just like everyone else in the sense that, i feel bad for you (its only human to talk about shit like that) and the asshole who ratted you prolly needs a broke nose and such...

but you live and learn......
if its illegal and you can do time for it
never tell anybody, at anytime..... unless your giving/selling to them or it pertains directly to them, remember the WW2 saying "loose lips, sink ships"

Later:thumbsup:
Jell-o

atleast you didnt have a hand gun, and alot of acid on you/./.

yeah, I don't tell anybody who doesn't need to know and I don't take it to school unless I need to (like going right to a friends house) and even then I hide it in secret pockets and such. Thats serious stuff. I've allready got busted and got lucky and got out of it, I don't have any more chances.

Honestly, I did learn from my experience, thankfully though it wasn't as serious and I realized my mistakes.

wow, that sounds almost exactly what happened to me when i was in school-except i did not have weed on me, i was holding a friends pipe. my parents are really strict also and believe that weed is the worst thing i could ever do, but you will get through it. when it happened to me i thought that my life was over. i got arrested while at school, i was on house arrest, had to go to court, and was on probation for a year. it all seemed like it would never end, and that my parents were going to be on my ass forever, but it did end, and they eased up on me eventually. now my parents and i are really close, i live right next door to them and talk to them everyday. although they still think that i quite smoking years ago.

good luck with everything.

That sucks...Shit happens - unfortunately a lot of unfair shit just sometimes happens...You'll get through it...sounds like lame advice but when I was in high school I got in a lot of trouble, but nothing was as bad as dealing with my parents....I totally understand....you have to be "good" for a while at least "pretend" to be good around your parents....

Listen bud, I was thirteen when I first got arrested. I was caught buying ritalin and was ratted out by the bitch who sold em to me. I spent the next few days in and our of police offices. Luckily, I didn't get charged. Until, that is, a year later. Then I had about a million court dates and was put on probation for a year. I was 14. I delt with it and my parents got over it and your's will too. Now I'm off probo. and have learned a lotta street smarts since then and know how to get outta shit. Remember, the school can not legally search your bag without your consent, even though they're acting as your gaurdian for the 6-8 hours you spend in school. There's a lot of tricks too, like starting a scene. Start going psycho. Flip out about it being unconstitutional and about your rights as a human being. Start saying they're being prejudice. Say something. Basically, if you sit there and comply while you know you've got even a seed in your bag, you're gonna get fucked. Atleast that's what I've learned. But anyway, keep your head up and the most you'll probably get is probation for a year and 100 hours community service and a shitload of fines.

Man you're fucked...

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p.s please dont critisize me or tell me i shouldnt have had that in my bag(becuase i think ive thought about that enough by now haha) as i have had one of the shittyest days ive ever expirenced and im only typing this to you guys so that i can vent out to people who understand

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ok, I won't state the obvious. But I will tell you how to deal with the situation you got yourself into.

Accept full responsibility for your actions. Apologize to your parents. Don't bitch and moan to them about whatever punishments and lectures they put on you. Suck it up and roll with the punches, until the episode has passed and life goes back to "normal."

If you can do this, you will be on your way to being a man.

Take it like a man Night , after all you were the one who shot yourself in the foot.

Learn a lesson from it and accept that what you choose to do often if not always has repercussions.

Old saying but apt : Do the crime , do the time.

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i went to school today with a tin of my weed in my bag. just like any other day. i wasnt harming anyone or anything. i get called down to the offic after 2nd period.. the assistant principal says someone said i have weed on me. she searched my bag. she finds it. she looks deepr and find two knives that ive just completley forgotten about. now i am so fucked
my dad has freaked out at me. my mom is going to be so angry. everything is gone to hell. EVERYTHING IS. I'm suspended for 6-10 days, i have to talk with the principal, i've got a court date for december 13th.. i have to pay a big fine and might be put on probation.

If it were me living alone in an appartment, i would be horribly pissed at the situation, but i would be able to handel it and get myself through this

but with my parents involved.. its so fucking bad. i think i've got enough punishment, with my fine and suspension and parole and all the imbarrasment, but they are just going to pile on the punishments. great. I am NOT looking foreword to the conversation that im going to have to have with both my parents when they get home. i want to tell them this "it was a huge mistake that i will never take again, but what i have to do is just get through it. im going to pay the fine, and im just going to do everything i have to, and then this mess will be over."

but i know when i say that theyre going to be telling me how horrible it was for me to do, how i have to stop doing it, how i have to do beter in school and not skip and steer clear of hard drugs and all taht. but the thing is, none of that applys to what the whole conversation is supposed to be about. i just want them to know that im going to try and deal with this as smoothly and maturely as possible. but they wont take that. they wont listen to what i have to say becuase thats how it ALLLWAYS is with them.

they want to make it worse than it is, which to me seems pointless

when i told my dad about my plan for how to deal with all this, he said "its weird how you seem to think its so simple" in an angry tone, as if he thought im not taking this seriousley.
the thing is, i AM trying to make this simple. what the fuck is wrong with that?? its a hell of a lot better than making it complicated and difficult

rahhhhhhhh WHAT A BAD DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

p.s please dont critisize me or tell me i shouldnt have had that in my bag(becuase i think ive thought about that enough by now haha) as i have had one of the shittyest days ive ever expirenced and im only typing this to you guys so that i can vent out to people who understand

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DONT TAKE DRUGS OR WEAPONS TO SCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SPECIALLY EVERY DAY. SPECIALLY DONT LET FOOLS KNOW THAT U DO. BUT I GUESS YOU LEARNED THAT ALREADY.

Wow dude, that realllllyyyy really sucks. Try to hang in there, tomorrow is a new day. Good luck!

my lil bro is in da same shit he got caught smokin in school and they didnt find anything on him but arrested him for public intoxication they found on the other dude the killer and some white. bro got held in juvie for a minute and had to take a piss test and he gotz a court date in a couple weeks. my parents where cool about it my popz smokez so he just told him straight up he dont care that he smokes but cool it down till he finds out what they say in court.

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Smoke some good herb and reflect on your experience. Think, if you want the prospect of the same occurance in future then carry on as you were. If you want to stay a step ahead you must know the game!!

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Yeah I agree with that. And as for your parents you can go about it 2 ways. 1 is suck it up and please them. Then 2 is take a stand and tell them you aren't gonna quit. And that it is something that you rather enjoy. And if they can't except that then that is there problem. I took way 2. I hardly talk to my parents now but hey I stood my ground about my beleifs. If you aren't into the whole arguing with a lot of ppl thing then go with way 1. Other than that enjoy your next 6 months of hell. But you are smarter now so it's not a complete waste.

This is why when or if I bring weed to school no one knows about it and it always stays in my locker. If I need to smoke then I go behind the school where no cameras are at. Most of the time I have no reason to bring weed to school but if I'm going from school directly to some one else's house I don't wanna stop home so I just bring the only thing I'll need with me so I can go as soon as I get out of school.

Yeah man sorry to hear about the shit your in

Im in a situation kinda the same to yours(my parents hating me and dont have anymore trust for me and shit) not weed related but for speeding.

i got caught speeding..83 in a 45.. and my mom has been on my ass for about a week now saying it was wrong, and everyone that knows about it(one of my friends with a big mouth was with me telling me to slow down)
keeps reminding me that it was a stupid act and im fucked.

it just pisses you off when people tell you shit that you already fucking know and you dont want to hear it again anymore.
but anyway back to the point...there is alot of good advice in this thread very usable that im gonna take and i hope you get through all this shit Ok

Peace:rasta:

I crashed my parents car in High School, totalled. Coming home sucked but I had a great guy for a step dad. I was wrong for fucking up but I learned. Never put you or your friends in a position that your not already willing to accept the consequences for. Life happens. Now I am responsible for my own children, just try to listen and be patient youll get through it.

Oh and here is the hard part, be humble.

I'm real sorry things turned out this way, NightProwler. Next time, I'm sure you'll do things differently, and I know you well enough to know you learned some valuable lessons from this experience.

One tip about your mom, and this was one I learned when dealing with my own mom, actually, who had a bit of a theatrical streak when we made mistakes. If you can pre-empt her coming to you, that is, go meet her at the door when she comes in and start talking before she even gets a chance to light into you, you may be ahead of the game. Don't hide and wait for the axe to fall. Face it head-on. Just say, "Mom, you probably already know about this and I know I'll face some consequences, but here's what happened." Then just give her the low-down. The thing is if you deal with it up front like an adult, she'll be more likely to respond to you that way, too. You can also pre-empt her tendency to punish when she's in a temper and say, "I know you're really angry about this and I request that you not take any action until you calm down and have had a chance to think about this for a bit." That'll help her remember to step back and take a few breaths--and ideally take a night to sleep on it--before she metes out any punishment.

I was always in a lot better shape if my dad found about the dumb stuff I did before my mom because he was much calmer and more level-headed. She tended to ground me and withdraw every privilege she could think of when she was angry and then have to back-track later when my dad helped her realize she'd overdone it.

Let us know how it turns out, OK?

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Sorry but I gotta say it...

The whole situation, you brought it on yourself. As long as you realize that, and make your parents realize that, then you're good to go. This was a mistake. The laws, however unfair they may be, are still the law. Taking pot to school is silly.

Things will go as they should go.

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i really am sorry bout what happined
but i have 2 agree with billionfold
good luck

I respect the fact that you're not complaining about the consequences you're going to face. It really says something about your character. Good luck

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Then 2 is take a stand and tell them you aren't gonna quit. And that it is something that you rather enjoy. And if they can't except that then that is there problem. I took way 2. I hardly talk to my parents now but hey I stood my ground about my beleifs. If you aren't into the whole arguing with a lot of ppl thing then go with way 1. Other than that enjoy your next 6 months of hell. But you are smarter now so it's not a complete waste.

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The first rule of living in someone elses house is "Live by their RULES, get your own gaff if you want to start setting rules", it's that simple.
All the kids on here sayin you don't need to take that shit don't seem to realise that respect is earned , your parents earn respect for feeding you and looking after your stupid arse (going to school with a weapon is stupid , getting caught was just plain careless) and clothing you and giving you a home.The first time you fucked up they could've kicked you out.
You fuck up and act like a bitch you'll get treat like one , respect for others will earn you respect .

Don't forget that !

in a year none of that will really matter. unless they get the police involved. then youre fucked

yea the fines im worried about... ive got 1300 dollars of my own cash that ive been saving since i was 7. im probly going to have to spend ALL of it on THIS.

too late to edit my last post but yea the talk with my mom wasnt as heated as i expected. of course shes still obviousley incredibly upset about it.

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in a year none of that will really matter. unless they get the police involved. then youre fucked

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the police are completley involved.. the fact that i had a knive on me has COMPLETLEY FUCKED ME OVER. this will make it harder for me to find jobs, and get into colleges.. fuckk

damn that sucks.

my friend got busted with 2 grams on him, and he got a 3 day suspension. and he had to flush the weed in the toilet with the principal watching. while he was doing this, the principal said that young people make mistakes, but you learn from mistakes and that was it.