Coming out of the closet?

Alright my girlfriend left me.. she stopped calling and blamed me for it..

So i started playing a game called second life.. i ment this guy and we are now online mates.. now i have never had a gay date etc and am worried.. but he makes me happy....i used to be straight so now i consider myself bi or somthing..but he makes me laugh and makes me feel all happy.. and i do the same for him.. he said he loved me every bit..i have known him for awhile and stuff..i just need some suggestions or ideas to improve this relation ship and prolly make it last..i am starting to get feelings for him..

Wow, opposite sex rejections equals homosexuality? Not trying to be funny but I've been looking for the answer :p.

Its not just the opposite sex rejection that changed it
There are more details but I really dont feel like going through them right now.
If your just going critisize me.. Dont say anything it all.

Go for happiness. Whether you love a man or woman, it's the combination of love and respect them that makes everything last. If this person makes you happy, make him happy.

Thank you Thcbongman very much.. that opend my eyes..i will then

if I remember right you're still young and that means a lot when it comes to things like sexuallity. Right now you may feel attracted to men but in 5 years you may not anymore. I'm not saying it's wrong or bad or anything though, you should do what makes you happy just be safe because its online and we all know how risky that can be. Good luck with it and keep us posted on how it goes

He does not know my age.. I tend to act mature on games..

God created adam and eve, not adam and steve

yeah but god also used to like animal sacrafices, and now doesn't... things change according to your book... or should we all be running around setting goats alight still?

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What YOU dont do that anymore?
weirdo

im not a homophobe, do whatever makes you happy man, dont woory about what other people think,as long as your happy and your not hurting anyone BE HAPPY :D

If it feels right, then go with it. Love is blind...there's no one specific gender that delivers happiness and love. I know! ;)

I'm curious... whats the age difference?

OK, I'm 59, female, straight and I don't even claim to understand being gay. But it seems to me that WHO the person you love IS, as a person, is far more important than what their plumbing is like. Male or female is just the "wrapping on the box"- what's important is what is inside the box. Just remember there is a big difference between love and lust. Love has very little to do with sex... really! If it is love, go for it! If it is just lust on the rebound, it's still OK to go for it, but go a bit slower. Keep your sex safe, no matter who you're with. They may be a sweetie, but you are "going to bed" with every partner that they had that didn't wear a condom. I wouldn't play the odds- STDs are nastier than when I was a kid. Until both of you get tested, use a condom! Sexual preference is a bell curve with 'prefers opposite sex" as the midline "norm" and "prefers males" and "prefers females" as the ends of the curve. If people are honest, most will admit to being attracted at some time in their life to someone of the same sex. Whether they act on it or not, is totally another story. ;) You're young, follow your heart, just be careful! OK?

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Originally Posted by GollyWog420

God created adam and eve, not adam and steve

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Please.
What are you, a parrot?
"rrawk!!!! adam and steve!!! rrawk!!!"
Just becuase some right-winger took the time to come up with a little 'cute' rhyming phrase for it doesn't make it right.
Jesus Christ.
You'd better not be having sex except to procreate, either!

Hey, loving another person and getting that love back is the best thing you can do in this life. Love of friends, love of family, or romantic love...
Sex doesn't have to enter into it, but when you feel comfortable, then of course!!
Just be SOOO careful.... internet romance is a minefield.

Don't mistake a good friendship for romance. When you see a good looking woman are you attracted to her sexually? What about when you see a good looking guy? If you don't get physically attracted to members of the same sex you're probably not gay. There are a couple of guys that I have been friends with for close to 20 years now. Yeah, getting together with them makes me happy, and I can honestly say I love them. But I'm 100% hetero.

Your girlfriend left you and it's a tough time, this other guy might just be filling a void. It's a new relationship and since it's the first since your girlfriend left you might just be assuming it's romantic when it isn't. Not saying that's the case, or that there is anything wrong with being gay or bi, just something to think about. In either case, THCbongman had the best advice.

as touching as all the above posts are... I mean, they really help a person believe in love, you know? Anyway, all that aside, maybe you can clarify one thing Sabron...

This is an online relationship? You've never actually met?

Love is a beautiful thing man, but considering the fact that the story seems be something along the lines of boy gets dumped, boy tries to step up relationship with online gaming friend, I'd tend to believe you're just confused as opposed to in love right now.

Very well said Storm Crow!!!

Ok meeting a guy who you met online, who doesn't even know your age is not coming out of the closet...Tell you friends and family your going on a date with a guy and then you can consider yourself "out".

If your attracted to men then consider yourself gay (call it Bi... whatever it's still being attracted to men, I consider myself bi)


To be honest dude I wouldn't even consider anything longterm before I met the guy in person...get him to put his cam on or somthing, just so he can prove he is who he says he is (if he hasn't already ;))

Go on a date (if your 100% sure you want to) even just for a drink or a walk.
Don't do anything you don't want to do, everyone has the right to say no if they are uncomfortable.
And be safe.

(Edit! Be honest!! don't give away too much personal info untill your sure you can trust him...but saying your someone your not is really not on...lying is the worst thing to do if you want to meet someone...once they found out you have lied to them (even online, which is almost completly annoymous) they will be put off...

HAHA sorry for the long post...I was extremely confused about this not so long ago...bit of a muddled post aswell...lol

Take Care

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Originally Posted by Sabron

Alright my girlfriend left me.. she stopped calling and blamed me for it..

So i started playing a game called second life.. i ment this guy and we are now online mates.. now i have never had a gay date etc and am worried.. but he makes me happy....i used to be straight so now i consider myself bi or somthing..but he makes me laugh and makes me feel all happy.. and i do the same for him.. he said he loved me every bit..i have known him for awhile and stuff..i just need some suggestions or ideas to improve this relation ship and prolly make it last..i am starting to get feelings for him..

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Wow, wow, WOOOWWW...this is pretty flashbacky for me....listen I feel for you, and I know exactly where you're coming from because there's nothing better than someone really special that makes you feel good. But I have to ask you Sabron, how old are you (don't answer that for me but only for you), and how old is this person that you're talking to online? Do you REALLY know them? I don't want to get all parental on you (I'm only 22), but you know where I'm going with this. I think it's so sweet that you've found someone that makes you feel good and makes you laugh, because nothing is better than that in this life, but PLEASE, for my sake and for your own, PLEASE be careful whom you talk to online, that's what happens to guys who get their hearts broken with online relationships....PLEASE know who you are talking to buddy, and know that there's nothing wrong with ANYONE helping you feel good but DO NOT let ANYONE exploit you just because you need that...you may not see it but it's easy to do that...take it from a pro if nobody else...please be careful out there...I and everyone else here love you and hope for the best for you. Make sure "he" loves you in THAT way. You're vulnerable, please do not be offended by that statement, and realize it yourself...and do something to change the vicious cycle for once...love a man, but make sure it's love and not something that's totally fucking wrong and bad for you and your morale....

MUCH LURVE ~n~ bee goode

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Originally Posted by GollyWog420

God created adam and eve, not adam and steve

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You sound like Nancy Regan.

One more thing. I've been good friends with this kid for a while who is openly gay and he is one of my best friends in the world (one of my only friends). But anyway, I was over at his house and we were just laughing and talking and there was a point where I felt like I could actually hook up with him. I was cmpletely sober BTW. I've always known I've had some bi feelings but I've never really acted on them but I'm scared that if I do anything I'll screw myself for life because I don't really life in the most gay friendly community. He asked me about it later if I liked him as more than a friend and I said I didn't know. What do you guys think, should I just lay off until I get older or just go for it now and try to be discreet? I know sooner or later I'm probably going to get drunk and hook up with him because that always happens to me with girls but what do you guys think. Should I be scared?

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Originally Posted by Storm Crow

OK, I'm 59, female, straight and I don't even claim to understand being gay. But it seems to me that WHO the person you love IS, as a person, is far more important than what their plumbing is like. Male or female is just the "wrapping on the box"- what's important is what is inside the box. Just remember there is a big difference between love and lust. Love has very little to do with sex... really! If it is love, go for it! If it is just lust on the rebound, it's still OK to go for it, but go a bit slower. Keep your sex safe, no matter who you're with. They may be a sweetie, but you are "going to bed" with every partner that they had that didn't wear a condom. I wouldn't play the odds- STDs are nastier than when I was a kid. Until both of you get tested, use a condom! Sexual preference is a bell curve with 'prefers opposite sex" as the midline "norm" and "prefers males" and "prefers females" as the ends of the curve. If people are honest, most will admit to being attracted at some time in their life to someone of the same sex. Whether they act on it or not, is totally another story. ;) You're young, follow your heart, just be careful! OK?

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Thank you so much, Storm Crow, for saying this, and I hope that this guy really listens to you...

I have HIV and i got it from my current boyfriend, whom I met on the internet...it does suck, I'll tell you all, boys, girls, gay, straight, it's gonna get you all if you don't BE CAREFUL. I've only had full blown sex with this one guy, and he's the one I got it from. It's like playing russian roulette if you don't do something to protect yourself, for real. (like, say, USE A CONDOM.) but I was so hardheaded and thought that i was so invincible that it would just NEVER happen to me, well hell, now look...one year into it...here I am back on the cannabis.com boards going from a little cocky pothead asshole to trying to say something positive (pun intended)...

listen I'm not trying to get pity or anything, this isn't about me, i'm just fine thankya, but I would rather gripe for a few minutes than young guys like this poster, and like me, to end up at the dead end rather than the loop to the rest of the world.

it happens every fucking day. and it makes me sicker than most of you could imagine. believe me. please guys, wear a damn condom, and be responsible with it and MAKE SURE IT STAYS ON YOUR DICK the whole time. then otherwise, there's not much else you can do, and therefore you can feel comfortable having sex and not worry about all this hype that i've ranted about...i'm in this situation because i elected to not use a condom, and it's just as much MY fault as it is HIS fault...and i'm also in this situation so that i can tell you all that are questioning things and experimenting that you really do need to be careful, and it's not just scare tactics.

BY THE WAY, a condom feels SO MUCH BETTER if you lube it up on the outside AND on the inside. just put a little dab of lube in that pocket at the end before you put it on, and press out the air from the pocket as you start to slide it on, and that's the proper way to wear the raincoat...and keep a check on it once in a while, just to keep it all the way on you...it's kinda good to look down once in a while anyways right... ;)

I will not post my age due to probable flaming etc..
But the age diffrence is 5 and a half years.. when he was 5 i was born and so on..But he has gotten on cam so i do know what he looks like and that what he said was indeed true..and he has seen me on cam etc.. we know what eachother look like.. i dont look my age i look older.. so thats that..But thanks for all the advice people..helped me out.. i think ill play it smooth untill i know everything is true

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Originally Posted by stinkyattic

Please.
What are you, a parrot?
"rrawk!!!! adam and steve!!! rrawk!!!"
Just becuase some right-winger took the time to come up with a little 'cute' rhyming phrase for it doesn't make it right.
Jesus Christ.
You'd better not be having sex except to procreate, either!

Hey, loving another person and getting that love back is the best thing you can do in this life. Love of friends, love of family, or romantic love...
Sex doesn't have to enter into it, but when you feel comfortable, then of course!!
Just be SOOO careful.... internet romance is a minefield.

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Twat
did you not read my other posts?

Ha Ha your gay(pointing finger @ u)J/K........Do as thou wilt.......

If you think you found a friend(or what not)try him before you do something that your not for sure of...For there is a friend for his own occasion, and he will not abide in the day of trouble...lessons learn the hard way are often not repeated....but as another member has said, love is blind---good luck

^^ and be aware of the occassional str8 "words of wisdom" because sometimes they're not so jokey if you're from where i'm from