It's become a problem....

aight...it's seriously become a problem for me...i bust tooo f'ing fast...fast as in...within a minute of me entering her...it's quite f'ing embarassing and depressing and its eating me up inside

part of the reason is because i like this girl, and i wanna do anything and everything to please her, and also because its just not good for me, cause obviously, it kills your sexual self esteem or whatever

i use to no rubber since she's on the pill, and im thinking of using some next time...but it couldn't possibly make that big of a difference as far as sensitivity goes..

what should i do??...help me out here...i hope im not the only one with this problem...

condoms may help more than you're giving them credit for

Honestly, the easiest way to last longer is to just not think about busting. This might sound bad, but try keeping your mind on other things...

Think about music and books and school while you're piping her. And just keep having sex, youll get better with time.

Actually, try masturbating before hand to release some of that tension. That way when you fuck her you wont be so high strung.

Theres methods to help this.

You CAN train yourself to last longer, so don't worry lil buddy!

I suggest reading over this, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prematu...tion#Treatment

One method is to jerk it, and when your close to climax, STOP. Its painful...but it will help you train yourself to get used to having to wait longer to climax. Theres other methods too, and methods that she can help you with too. They should list them in there.

Oh, also you can get yourself hard, then leave it. once it goes soft get it hard again and get used to being harder longer, it helps with ejaculation control.

Hope I helped, good luck, and make it up to her!

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Originally Posted by Frivolous248

One method is to jerk it, and when your close to climax, STOP. Its painful...but it will help you train yourself to get used to having to wait longer to climax.

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NOOOOOOOooooooooo no no no no.

Tried that once and I ended up shooting my balls out of my ass and getting a runny nose. :sadcrying

Some things are just not meant to be stopped bro.

Just keep doing it. Maybe puff a little weed before it get it on.

look up something on sexdictionary.info

Im guessing your young, and this is your first time. I know a few people that had that problem when they first started having oral or sex. Like everyone else has said, jerk off more, and while your taking part in the fun try and think about anything besides whats going on at your waist. Personally I never had this problem my problem was getting hard and staying hard I was so nervous about what was getting ready to go down I just couldn't keep him up the first time.

Practice tantric...it's where you get close, and then back off. You keep going back and forth until you just can't anymore, and then bust it.

Feels 10x better than just going til' you're ready and finishing. Takes a while, but I can go a good 30 minutes to an hour (well..this is wanking only). Depends how much time I have on my hands. (no pun intended)

I have the exact opposite problem, I just can't go unless I'm very comfortable with the girl, so out of the 7 girls I've been with, I've only 'gone' with two of them, and I only got to that point because I was in a relationship with both of them (not at the same time, haha). I need to find a way to bust quicker. I think most of the reason is because of the condom, it's so hard to feel anything through that thing.

someuser is totally right about the whole masturbating first thing. other than using a condom to reduce sensitivity, thats really the only other thing u can do. and keep in mind that even though it sucks u cant last for long, the average male ejaculates 2 minutes after entry.

to hardcore newbie: the whole comfort thing is exactly whats allowing u to come. if u are nervous or uncomfortable or stressed out its definitely possible that u wont come at all- it's very common. but if u think that the condom is what is making it difficult, start using one when u masturbate- u will train urself to get used to that level of sensitivity.

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Originally Posted by dutch.lover

someuser is totally right about the whole masturbating first thing. other than using a condom to reduce sensitivity, thats really the only other thing u can do.

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there are lots of options, i post pictures of my grandmother around the bed, they help:D

hahahaha thats key too.

ok, awhile ago i bought this stuff called pro plus it was a penis enlargement pill( yes it was so worth the money), anyways when i knew i was going to have sex i would take like 4 of them, i would get hard as a rock and last longer but at the same time after i did cum, i could go again and again( i do that even without those pills) as long as you go again after you bust it...and make her happy, you know eat her out and make her cum a few times, all will be well...but if your a quick draw one hit wonder...she will kick you to the curb in no time

Game, I'm not a guy, but I'm interested in medical and physical matters. From what I've read, this is a fairly common problem, and it results from getting in the early--and not at all helpful--habit of rushing to reach climax when you're first experimenting sexually on your own. This makes sense to me as a mom because teenaged boys tend to be hasty anyway and because they often don't have enough privacy or time--or are worried about being caught--to take the necessary time to learn to control their sexual response.

So basically you've got to relearn that response, first on your own, and then incorporate those new techniques with your partner. Read this article that I'm linking below. Go over it slowly and carefully. Then read it again. It talks all about the phases of arousal and gives you some good tips on how to begin to overcome this problem (no pun intended there with "overcome"!). Good luck to you!
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/53/61404.htm

ya u have to please the chick for sure- have sex, come, finish her off orally or manually or whatever- and once she is done, u should be ready to go again. bonus for both of u!

wishmaster: i would be careful with those pills, i have never heard of those things working and they could be dangerous.

I have no idea if this works for anyone else, but I learned a trick a long time ago that boosts my stamina through the roof. You start off jacking it, and right as you're getting to climax you stop and let ejaculation occur on it's own. Ironically, this keeps me hard as a rock and makes it less sensative/over-stimulated by physical contact. I can go for a longer streatch of time when I do this. The only down-side is that the end orgasm is about 50% less intense than would be under normal circumstances for me. A small price to pay for a long endurance run and rocking your woman's world.

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I have no idea if this works for anyone else, but I learned a trick a long time ago that boosts my stamina through the roof. You start off jacking it, and right as you're getting to climax you stop and let ejaculation occur on it's own. Ironically, this keeps me hard as a rock and makes it less sensative/over-stimulated by physical contact. I can go for a longer streatch of time when I do this. The only down-side is that the end orgasm is about 50% less intense than would be under normal circumstances for me. A small price to pay for a long endurance run and rocking your woman's world.

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I support this method, most definately works. Im lucky enough to be one of the people that has trouble doin a quickie. But this has happened a few times, and its really like you never got off, you can just keep on truckin.

O yeah....... it really helps if theirs music or something playing that you can concentrate on instead of the naughty stuff

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

Game, I'm not a guy, but I'm interested in medical and physical matters. From what I've read, this is a fairly common problem, and it results from getting in the early--and not at all helpful--habit of rushing to reach climax when you're first experimenting sexually on your own. This makes sense to me as a mom because teenaged boys tend to be hasty anyway and because they often don't have enough privacy or time--or are worried about being caught--to take the necessary time to learn to control their sexual response.

So basically you've got to relearn that response, first on your own, and then incorporate those new techniques with your partner. Read this article that I'm linking below. Go over it slowly and carefully. Then read it again. It talks all about the phases of arousal and gives you some good tips on how to begin to overcome this problem (no pun intended there with "overcome"!). Good luck to you!
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/53/61404.htm

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ok...thank you for the read..but i have a question...i dont quiet understand "whole-body sensuality"...what do they mean by that...for me...its all in the head...i think about it too much..and it just happens...i hate that

something just poped into my head, thicker rubbers???