everybody is full of it.

i was just talking to a friend and weed came up, naturally.
ive been talking to her about her startin to do it, not peer pressure or anything. her responses started from no.. to maybe.. to okay i'll try it (but never shows up because she makes excuses not to come) to i was busy to, i lost interest.
so i start to make fun of her so much because i can read her like a fucking book. she just totally avoids everytihng i say about her lies about wanting to try smoking and then says oh i have to go now and leaves.
it sucks to find out even a friend you've known for so long still has to stoop to the level where they cant be honest and has to hide behind lies and made up stories.

why are people so full of shit. they gotta put up fronts to hide who they really are.why why why!

sigh i just had to vent. i really enjoy being in friendships/relationships and giving myself to them but when i noticed these flaws i tend to focus on them so much it ruins brings the friendship down a notch. it sucks!

i know this probably means nothing to you all but its good to share the burden sometimes. so thanks for taking the trouble. :)

on a side note: i think im in love. :D

maybe your intimidating

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Originally Posted by 3rdEyeVision

maybe your intimidating

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*nods* sounds that way.

if she said no the first 2 times, why ask the third?

It happens. The day could possibly come she'll just be like. LETS SMOKE. If you guys are hangin out and your in a comftorable place whip out a joint and smoke that shit. If she is with you mayby she'll start along. If she leaves bring it up and say you thought she was cool with it and she how she really feels.

And makin fun of her doesnt help anything. If it gets down to it ask her why she is scared and you know she is makin excuses. If she doesnt wana try it dont force. My .02 hope it helped.

Mayby since she's a girl, its a girl thing?

Dude you are proving those "above the influence" assholes. If she doesn't want to smoke she doesn't have to. I have a friend that I will probobly be smoking it soon because he wants to try it. Just leave it alone if you actually are a good friend of hers.

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*nods* sounds that way.

if she said no the first 2 times, why ask the third?

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i asked her the same way every time, like
do you want to smoke?

perhaps her views on it changed. i dont know, she wasnt really firm with her answers anyway.

i usually just make fun of her anyway. its a thing we do. she doesnt take me seriously , i dont take her seriously. but we know when to draw the line when needed.

it cant possibly be a girl thing seeing as im a girl and have several girl smoking buddies..

but i didnt see it the way you guys did, i never thought id ever be intimidating..

are u inlove with the chick?

ps i know that ur a girl

no,shoi, im not in love with this girl. im glad you know im a girl thats one more member from these boards. from the millions! (i exagerate alot)
that was totally irrelevant to the whole message but thought it , somehow, appropriate to add it in the end.
you know when your in love and you want to share it with the world. :D

hooray for love

hooray boobs! :thumbsup:

maby your not that intimidating but you should just let her chill for a bit....she knows if she ever wants to try smoking she can come to you so you've done all you can really do.

What do you do, in the bath?

at first i thought you were a guy, until i read down the thread some more.

it changed my perspective on the situation completely. haha, funny how that happens

but yeah, if she don't wanna, don't push and talk to her.

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You can't make anyone smoke that doesn't want to. You just gotta let them know that if they want to the invitations there. Generally I find that smoking infront of them a few times usually ends with them smoking as they see what a great time your having!

Peace and good luck with that love thang!

Buddy

It's not being intimidating, its being nice and offfering.

I'd take you up on it anyday crudemood.

I would get a few friends and invite her to your house. When she gets there have two of your friends hold her while the other plugs her nose and sticks a lit joint in her mouth. She will have to smoke then! Obviously I'm just joking, but I had to say it. It's one of those mornings.

But really, if she wants to wait don't force her. If she wants to she will, if not she will eventually with or without your offer. I know it is nice to have friends experience the same as you but she has to make this decision herself. I'm sure she will come around.

TGT

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It's not being intimidating, its being nice and offfering.

I'd take you up on it anyday crudemood.

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thank you lip, some support, i knew i could count on you. :)

you all are making me sound like a pushy bitch. im really not, at lest

and maybe i do smoke weed to hide who i am but when im high i feel like i can communicate my feelings so much better than being sober but thats just me..

this time ive really just brought up the fact that she's being denying it and she didnt deny she was denying it. really its just a thing of figuring her real intentions out. it sucks to have a perfect picture of someone ruined.
maybe i expected too much too.

You ever on msn hun?

I added you but you never talk to me :(

I understand you want people to be straight with you. If she doesn't want to she should say so and not make other excuses. I wouldn't like that either, so I can see where your coming from.

TGT

same thing has happened to me babe. had one of my girly friends over on friday and persuaded her to have a smoke with me, shes a funny girl so i thought we'd have a laugh, but she had about 2-3 drags and started getting paranoid as f**k then had a whitey so the evening ended up with her a paranoid wreck in the corner not even able to speak and i felt like shit cos i was the one who made her feel like it. anyway moral of the story is your probably better off smoking on your own.
ps i dont think you sound like a bully x x

its not for everyone. just dont put her in sketchy environments (around dealers and such) that would make her feel uncomfortable and associate weed with negativity.

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I understand you want people to be straight with you. If she doesn't want to she should say so and not make other excuses. I wouldn't like that either, so I can see where your coming from.

TGT

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Thank you! Thats the point I really was trying to make here. After knowing her for so long she cant be straight with me? knowing i wont pass judgement because we've been friends for so long. there is an obvious trust problem.

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You ever on msn hun?

I added you but you never talk to me :(

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sorry lip! im never on im always getting these messages just not sure who they're from.. but that was in the past. i replied to your email. and i'll be talking to you more often i swear! :p

Woohooo. I should really do some work lol!