The one from work.

im high as a kite right now so bear with my long story...

The past 2 weeks have been kind of weird for me cause i am working at my old job again and i have eventually developed a crush for this one girl at work. she's so impressive in my opinion... she is like 3 years older than me, just broke up with a mean psycho ex boyfriend..has 2 associate degrees and is going for a PhD. which is so cool in my opinion because i want to be a psychiatrist, and she is very goal-oriented, meaning her future looks very bright. um she has an awesome personality and is down to earth , and to top it all off she is really beautiful with the cutest face, body , hair...

and i just can't help but feel that i'm melting with happyness when we start laughing together, which has happened quite a few times in the past 2 weeks...the warm gaze.. eye contact, the smiles, the laughter---and all that other crap that comes with feeling a burning attraction for someone. i'd say she is everything i look for in a woman--confidant, open-minded, strong-willed and damned sexy.

So I met her 2 weeks ago and she has slowly grown on me... but the problem is that our schedules will soon be changing and i wont be seeing her much anymore. i think there have been a few minutes of mindless flirting between us, but i mean... i haven't been able to talk to her much. so basically we dont actually know eachother perfectly well, but when we sit and talk at work we get along really really good.

i'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions. I dont want to create an uncomfortable sitaution with her at work because its a place of employment... but at the same time my heart keeps telling myself to get to know her better.. and i really want to tell her how highly i think of her but i'm not sure if she'd take it as weird.

i dont know.

ahhhh love is crappy and confusing.:confused:

"Listen to your heart"

And sadly, I must confess I've listened that that song on more than one occassion. Only like . . . a few more though. lol. ~

imo the schedual chaning can work in ur favor... just ask her if she wants do somthing like coffee, lunch ect... then if it doesnt work u wont have the akwardness due to work... because of the schedual

u need to take it out of work

Ian, girls don't tend to take it as weird when guys tell us they think of us highly. We like it, in fact.

Now is the time to act. Keep talking to her and flirting. Tell her you think the world of her and would like to continue to get to know her. Make sure you have her personal email and phone, too, before your schedules take you in different directions, or at least make sure you have some way of continuing contact once that happens. Wasn't it you who once upon a time told me you didn't really feel like you knew how to "court" a girl? Now's the time to learn. Flowers. A note. A little special gift. These don't have to be expensive. But this is the kind of stuff that tells girls you will expend effort and thought on them, that they're important enough for you to do that. These are the sorts of things that differentiate you from the competition, too, and help you stand out as good boyfriend material--especially when thought of in comparison to mean, psycho ex-boyfriends.

Once you've sort of laid the groundwork, ask her out on a date. Then just make sure you have fun and let whatever's destined to happen happen.

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Ian, girls don't tend to take it as weird when guys tell us they think of us highly. We like it, in fact.

Now is the time to act. Keep talking to her and flirting. Tell her you think the world of her and would like to continue to get to know her. Make sure you have her personal email and phone, too, before your schedules take you in different directions, or at least make sure you have some way of continuing contact once that happens. Wasn't it you who once upon a time told me you didn't really feel like you knew how to "court" a girl? Now's the time to learn. Flowers. A note. A little special gift. These don't have to be expensive. But this is the kind of stuff that tells girls you will expend effort and thought on them, that they're important enough for you to do that. These are the sorts of things that differentiate you from the competition, too, and help you stand out as good boyfriend material--especially when thought of in comparison to mean, psycho ex-boyfriends.

Once you've sort of laid the groundwork, ask her out on a date. Then just make sure you have fun and let whatever's destined to happen happen.
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I see the point and take it with pleasure :] Yeah I said that about not being able to court a girl a while ago. So I'm going to go with my gut on this and get her info and maybe see if she wants to go to lunch this week.

I don't like the fact that it's at work and I really want to get this away from work... it's hard to get to know someone at work because there's other things to concentrate on.

Well anyways I hope this goes well.

sounds like a situation I was in...I missed my chance. I used to try to resurrect my chances all the time once the time came when we wouldnt be able to see each other as much [which I knew was coming..], but I've pretty much now accepted that I am out of luck unless some magical event presents itself where we get to spend alot of time together again, but magic like that can't be counted on

Trust me, act on your instinct and move in, it'll be your biggest regret if you don't

i guess now would be a good time to update ya'll.

she gave me her email address (i didn't even have to ask) and she talks with me quite a bit when she sees me. At this time she's going through a breakup with her psycho ex who is possessive and paranoid, and i guess this guy's accusing her of fucking me already. she came up to me at work and brought this to my attention.

she told me im funny and she laughs at most "humerous" (i.e. lame) things i say to her. infact i find it really easy to get her laughing and keep her laughing. and she takes it upon herself to talk with me... and she opens up to me about her personal life (i assume it's because i treat her like a lady and actually listen to what she says)... and she talks to me about her children... I try to show her im interested in her opinions and gaze in her eyes when she talks to me . i try to be really nice to her but at the same time its all too easy to keep her laughing.

so the other day at work i asked her what her plans were , and she was liek "uh what , do you mean for lunch?" a freudian slip perhaps? hmm. perhaps! maybe she wanted to go to lunch or something. i dont know but im taking it slow and im trying to plant the seeds of love with hopes it'll blossom into something fruitful and nice. now isn't that sweet.

im going to go for it eventually, but im going to take it very slow. i think i'll invite her to coffee or lunch this week and try to get her to open up more, since she loves to talk about herself and her life. that's good because i love to listen about it all too..

so i think she might be kind of interested because she's really friendly with me.

how should i go about telling her i think she's wonderful ?

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Just a small peice of advice
Unless she's a total ditz (doesn't sound like one)
Don't diss the laughing thing.
The ability to laugh on a daily basis
can be an incredible blessing for both her,
and you.

im not dissing anything. im really happy about it actually :)

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Originally Posted by IanCurtisWishlist

im not dissing anything. im really happy about it actually :)

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Did you tell her she's wonderful yet?
I'd give her flowers anonymously at work. Have her wondering.
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im not dissing anything. im really happy about it actually :)

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dude, the asking about lunch thing, should have been the sure sign. go for it. good luck and have fun.

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Did you tell her she's wonderful yet?
I'd give her flowers anonymously at work. Have her wondering.
:o

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Inferius, your ideas impress me that you have a great ability to charm women and make them fall in love with you. I think you're going to go very far with that talent.

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Originally Posted by birdgirl73

Inferius, your ideas impress me that you have a great ability to charm women and make them fall in love with you. I think you're going to go very far with that talent.

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I made one suggestion?? :p

ok dude...just got out of one of those...she used me for sex...(which is not a bad thing til she realizes it was just sex...then your heart feels like its bleeding out your eyes..and the whole world just left your hands and emptiness surrounds your life...consuming every bit of hope and love that you have)...but anyways...if you like the girl...then good...but...it does sound as if the boyfriend saying " that she had already fucked you" is a sign that she has thought about it becuase she hadnt told you untill she knew what your intentions are for her...give her some time...away from the dick she just left...tell her that you do like her and would eventually have it where the two of you can see each other outside of work..BUT dont wear your heart on your sleeve..cuz it may get ripped out of your chest..and it will scare you dude...trust me...i got over my break up with the heart killing woman...but it still hurts...her reason for breaking my heart?....i was an outlet for her...i helped her through bad times...and helped her with her children so that she could heal what had been cut...BULLSHIT...but anyways...good luck with her...and besides...im not a HITCH...just a regular guy..

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I made one suggestion?? :p

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I saw two suggestions:
1. Telling her she's wonderful
2. Sending her flowers
They just happened to be two very effective suggestions, at least from a female standpoint. Those two always work on me!

Make her a mix-tape yo', with songs that describe your feelings for her. Chicks still dig that stuff, right?