Originally Posted by GHoSToKeR
Res, I know how you feel.. As i've been getting older, I've found myself feeling guilty for thing's that have nothing do with me, or things I have no control over. I feel guilty because my dad's an alcoholic, even though he's been an alcoholic all his life. I feel guilty that my mom is stressed out with work and smokes 30 ciggies a day and may get cancer, and I feel I should be able to make her quit, but I cant. I know I shouldn't feel guilty but I do. I feel guilty that so many people devote their lives to things which are trivial and irrelevant, but I can't help it. It feels, to me, like I should be able to do something about it but I can't.
This guilt is swiftly turning into anxiety, and if I don't do something about it I assume it'll turn into depressions. The only thing I can think of to stop feeling like this is to ignore everything that makes me feel guilty. If I feel guilty about other people's problems, then I should ignore it and just say "shit, it's their problem, not mine". I know that sounds utterly selfish and self-centered, but if everyone else lives their life in perpetual blindness then why shouldn't I? Grrr, here I go again, rant rant rant lol
Anyway, like Lulu said, a feeling of guilt is common after a divorce or the ending of a relationship. It's the same feeling of guilt as when a loved one dies - you feel responsible, even though you know you're not. The only way that I can see to get out of this guilt cycle, is to tell yourself "You're being stupid". I know it may not always work, but no one else can do it for you. You have to physically make yourself snap out of these mood swings. If something is depressing you or making you feel guilty, then you need to either rectify that problem, or tell yourself it's not your problem. Otherwise, this downward spiral will never end, your guilt and depression will increase exponentially, and unfortunately, you may never get out of it. I may sound like I don't know what i'm talking about, but I think (I hope) I do.
Focus on the good things in your life, not on the bad things you see in the world around you. Sure, the world's is a depressing place, but neither you or me are gonna change a damn thing by getting worked up over it. Don't let it get you down, concentrate on the good things in your life - your health, your ability to make people laugh, and most importantly your children - and block everything else out until you're ready to face it again.
Anyway, that's just the advice of a teenager, so maybe you shouldn't take too much notice of it.. I dunno.. Peace