SOME THINGS SHOULD STAY IN THE BEDROOM

MAN SOMTHIN S REALLY PISSIN ME OFF AT THE MOMENT AND ID LIKE SOME OPINIONS. my girl and I went to aparty where all our friends were ,anyway everything was goin fine ,the boys were in the shed drinkin and smokin and the girls gatherd in their little group as usual. I went to the toilet ,the window was open and i could hear the girls chattin so i thought id eavsdrop and see what they were talkin abt.This is when it gets wierd I hear one of my good mates girl starts tellin the other girls how my mate loves a dildo shoved up his ass while avin sex!!.Fuck dudes i nearly fell over i couldnt believe what i was hearing, my mate who i go shootin with campin with likes abit of the plastic fantastic,man i was embarressed for him.So i go back to the lads in the shed and there he is smokin and drinkin just like always but I cant look at him or even talk to him, everytime i look at him i picture him with a fkn dildo up his ass.So its been awhile now and every timt my mate rings me to go out or somthin ,I make excuses to avoid him. Why am I bein this way i dont know how to deal with this shit . I wish i never heard what i did it just made things...WIERD!!:confused:

My guess is you are homophobic = which means you are probably gay :)

But seriously - so what if he's a plastic butthole surfer? He's still your buddy? Right?

P.S: Make a note of any gay stuff you have done with your girlfriend 'cos it's gonna get around :)

Why does this bother you so much? It doesn't make him gay, or bi or anything (although I dont know his sexuality). It doesnt change the person he is, think about it this way; he liked a dildo in the ass before you found out about it and you didnt think anything weird of him so why should you now? I understand that it's a shocking thing to hear about your friend, I guess but it doesnt change who HE is. He's just kinky, you'll get over it.

[quote=Delta9 UK]My guess is you are homophobic = which means you are probably gay :) WRONG!! Thats why its pissin me off i dont even know any gays and in rural Australia it is really looked down upon bigtime .

Kenn I hear what your saying man, I wouldnt be able to look at the guy the same anymore.

Unfortunately we live in a day and age where if this type of thing offends you, you are automatically labeled as a homophobic(as our buddy delta has so clearly pointed out)close-minded blah blah etc etc. So your not going to really find the understanding that you are seeking here. Your going to find a lot of pro-gay claiming to bi etc etc types on here. I try to stay away from the sexuality forum as I do not agree with somethings that are said here.

Im on the same page with you though. To me that isnt normal at all, but to someone else it might be. Those 2 types of people have to respect each others opinions weither or not they can understand the reasoning behind it.

Personally my brown eye is a one way street, and the only thing that goes down that one way street is what I ate the day before. Thats it.....

I find it funny that nature doesnt let homosexuals reproduce, phew! Hopefully no further genetic mutations happen that lets gays reproduce asexually....

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ah goddamnit im high

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Originally Posted by Kenn

MAN SOMTHIN S REALLY PISSIN ME OFF AT THE MOMENT AND ID LIKE SOME OPINIONS. my girl and I went to aparty where all our friends were ,anyway everything was goin fine ,the boys were in the shed drinkin and smokin and the girls gatherd in their little group as usual. I went to the toilet ,the window was open and i could hear the girls chattin so i thought id eavsdrop and see what they were talkin abt.This is when it gets wierd I hear one of my good mates girl starts tellin the other girls how my mate loves a dildo shoved up his ass while avin sex!!.Fuck dudes i nearly fell over i couldnt believe what i was hearing, my mate who i go shootin with campin with likes abit of the plastic fantastic,man i was embarressed for him.So i go back to the lads in the shed and there he is smokin and drinkin just like always but I cant look at him or even talk to him, everytime i look at him i picture him with a fkn dildo up his ass.So its been awhile now and every timt my mate rings me to go out or somthin ,I make excuses to avoid him. Why am I bein this way i dont know how to deal with this shit . I wish i never heard what i did it just made things...WIERD!!:confused:

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i can understand man, i never become real close friends with bisexuals, then again, i never avoid them either, am allways nice...

the problem here is that you don't really know if he's bi or not, he could just like the increase of the orgasm (something in your but you press makes it more pleasurable i heard in class once)

don't treat him any different than you did before, and if you find out he is bi and can't ignore it and keep things the same, then at least don't make it obvious

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Originally Posted by WeedGremblin

ah goddamnit im high

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Im fkn high too man . cheers 4 the comments man nice to see theres someone who wld feel the same , my ass just for shittin thanks.:thumbsup:

That's gotta be one of the funniest things I've ever read. But you gotta chill man. She could have benn makin' it all up for whatever reason. but lmfao.

LOL thats hillarious. I dunno what to do, just deal with it..but dont touch his hands lol.

I don't necessarily think it has to do with your mate's potential bisexuality or your fear of it. I think you simply have some basic discomfort with the idea of a dildo up your own rear. And to think about it happening to someone you hadn't imagined in that way just makes it worse. This is about your discomfort with your own sexuality and perhaps your own attitude toward toys or anal stimulation, not your discomfort with him, really. Lots of straight guys like anal and/or prostate stimulation. And plenty are open-minded about playing with toys. Truly, shouldn't consenting adults be able to play in the manner they choose? And does someone else's idea of a turn-on have to be the same as yours? No. That was fairly private stuff you overheard, and what I wish made you far more uncomfortable was the idea that his lady friend was sharing tidbits about her partner's likes/dislikes in an indiscriminate manner.

You're clearly fairly young. As you mature, you'll get to where you're more comfortable with your own feelings and attitudes toward sex play and sexual experimentation of various kinds. And you'll come to recognize that other people will have a wide variety of interests, including toys, and that those interests, if you find yourself choosing to eavedrop again to find out about them, doesn't make those people perverted or stop them from being good mates, good friends.

It's just the prejudice of your culture.

Imagine how most people have been indoctrinated against drug use. Now imagine how they would feel about your use of cannabis.

This is prejudice, not based on anything logical. Just as some people may never look at you the same when they know you use drugs, so you look down on your friend.

If you are to resolve your prejudice, maybe the cannabis movement stands a chance. As we try to change people's prejudice and longstanding disdain for certain practices, so must you become more accepting of other people's actions/preferences.

Do you accept anal sex or anal foreplay with a girl as the receiver? A female anus is no more built for sex than a male anus.

Some people are black. Some people are white. Some people smoke weed, some people drink. Some people like having dildos shoved up their ass, some people think that you should judge someone differently because of something that doesn't affect them in any way.

In all reality, he's not hurting anyone, or himself or his girlfriend for that matter. Maybe the phobias in your area create a boundary where sexual taboo's can't be discussed. Male anal play is fairly common. Now, it's not my cup of tea, but if my best friend was into it, I wouldn't think of him any differently.

At the end of the day, so what? He's into something that doesn't hurt him or anyone around him, so why do you have a problem with it? In reality, you're the one with the problem, not him. Accept people for who they are, not what they shove up their ass.

Why bother avoiding him? Just because he happens to shove a dildo up his ass, it doesn't change who he is. So what if he likes doing that, to me thats not wierd at all, fuck it, whatever floats your bloat.

Your just going to have to accept that that is how he is. He's still the same person, your just going to have to accept that fact that he enjoys having a dildo up his ass.

You'll get over it, and you will feel normal around him again if you can just accept it.

Oh Snap!! this has got to win funniest thread of the year!

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Originally Posted by BabyFacedAbortion

Why does this bother you so much? It doesn't make him gay, or bi or anything (although I dont know his sexuality). It doesnt change the person he is, think about it this way; he liked a dildo in the ass before you found out about it and you didnt think anything weird of him so why should you now? I understand that it's a shocking thing to hear about your friend, I guess but it doesnt change who HE is. He's just kinky, you'll get over it.

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i really couldnt have said it better myself...

Maybe he doesnt even like a dildo up his ass and hes just telling this chick that he does so shell do kinky stuff too...

ok...the prostate is easily found through the anus...thus if something went up your ass and hit your prostate over and over again...it would make you have the best orgasm that you ever had...its very simple actually...you dont even need a dildo...you can have your girl do it to you....with her finger...actually it is found that many men like this...havent you ever watched the movie ROAD TRIP where stiffler gets fingered up the ass when he is donating cum????? geezz...before you become too judgemental over your friend look into the facts...and quit being a lame ass...he likes freaky shit...ever thought your girl would like it if you were a little less tense about some stuff in bed????? give it a thought and ask her about it toooooooo...stop being a typical male and open yourself up

duude, just tell him u overheard them saying shit like that, and tell him u swear that u wont tell anyone, and maybe it was a lie

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Originally Posted by zero2104

duude, just tell him u overheard them saying shit like that, and tell him u swear that u wont tell anyone, and maybe it was a lie

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u know mate that sounds like a good idea .I think ive gotta just get over it like many av said ,but yeah just sayin i overheard.... could be the way to go.

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Originally Posted by zero2104

duude, just tell him u overheard them saying shit like that, and tell him u swear that u wont tell anyone, and maybe it was a lie

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Are you serious? Do you know how embarrassed his friend is going to feel? Maybe even pissed? Betrayed?

I would definitely tell your friend that "so and so is talking shit about you" (depending on how close you and your friend are) but I wouldn't tell him what you heard in details. If anything, I would let the girl with the big mouth know that you wouldn't trust her with any secrets. Like someone said, it may all be a lie.

fuck yeah the slut shouldnt be mouthin off like this anyway ,if she shut the fuck up in the first place there wouldnt be an issue. The main reason its pissin me is my mate has no shame payin out on gays when hes drunk with the lads and then he goes home and shoves a fkn dildo up his ass!. THATS WRONG!.

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Originally Posted by Kenn

fuck yeah the slut shouldnt be mouthin off like this anyway ,if she shut the fuck up in the first place there wouldnt be an issue. The main reason its pissin me is my mate has no shame payin out on gays when hes drunk with the lads and then he goes home and shoves a fkn dildo up his ass!. THATS WRONG!.

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Actually that sounds like it goes together. He's insecure. Which means if he knows you know, or that his significant other is telling people he likes to have a sexual act done to him thats usually considering homosexual, he's going to be extremely sensitive.

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Originally Posted by Shannon

Maybe he doesnt even like a dildo up his ass and hes just telling this chick that he does so shell do kinky stuff too...

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good point, he may be testing her freakiness. If shes into this then maybe she into geting things stuck up her a** and thats what hes trying to find out.

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Originally Posted by graph

Some people are black. Some people are white. Some people smoke weed, some people drink. Some people like having dildos shoved up their ass, some people think that you should judge someone differently because of something that doesn't affect them in any way.

In all reality, he's not hurting anyone, or himself or his girlfriend for that matter. Maybe the phobias in your area create a boundary where sexual taboo's can't be discussed. Male anal play is fairly common. Now, it's not my cup of tea, but if my best friend was into it, I wouldn't think of him any differently.

At the end of the day, so what? He's into something that doesn't hurt him or anyone around him, so why do you have a problem with it? In reality, you're the one with the problem, not him. Accept people for who they are, not what they shove up their ass.

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First of all there is a big diference between your race and your sexual actions. The diference is choice. People do not choose to be what race they are, they DO choose their sexual actions. I don't like it when people try to group race with sexual preferance. A Homophobe is not the same as a racist by any means. (I know you never claimed this, I just threw it out there sense we are talking along these lines.)


The reason people have a problem with the idea of a man getting a dildo shoved up his ass is because it SIMULATES a gay sexual encounter with a cock. Some people are disgusted by the idea of male on male sexual activity. I for one, am one of these people. I grew up very liberaly, never was there a cultural boundry put on bi/homosexuality in my life.

I knew I didn't like male on male when I saw it on TV for the first time. I felt literaly sick to my stomache when I saw it. I was uncomfortable and I knew that this type of thing is not only not my cup of tea, but I was actualy quite angered by it.

Like I said, I have no cultural biases. I wasn't around people calling each other fags, my parents were not religious, I am not religious. I just think a male getting a dick, or anything shaped like one, up his ass is fucking gross and wrong.

You can tell me all you want not to rag on people for being who they are, but before you do, I ask you to think about what you are going say. You are about to rag on someone for being who they are ( I dont like gays, thats part of who I am) If you rag on me for that, than you are being a hypocrite in every sense of the word

I say rag on who you want to. If you get offended because people find your sexual preferences to be disgusting and offensive, than good.... you cancel each other out..,. you offend one another... leave it at that.

Stop trying to convert people to the liberal bullshit kids are growing up on tese days.

If your ok with fags and bis... be ok with them... dont try to change other people who aren't ok with them, or explain to them why they are wrong for having their own view on the matter. No matter how negative it may be

Ummm hello? Don't ever say anything to him, that is the WORST advice!!! OMFG! Not only is it none of your business, but you are going to totally interfere with HIS RELATAIONSHIP, he will probably dump that girl for telling. It is SOOOO not your place to mention this to him, Jesus it could rebound and affect more people than you can imagine!

But back to the issue at hand, I have to say this, no one else has that I read, and I did skim through, so sorry if this has been mentioned... that was fucked up of you to listen in on the girls. Girls talk about their sex lives, ever seen Sex in the City? Not sure, you are not in America, anyway, it is IN OUR NATURE as girls... we always talk about our sex lives, our boyrfiends, our periods, everything...this will never ever change. I think it was wrong of you to listen in when you were not suposed to be... so now you just have to suck it up, not litereally, lol, but be a man, and just forget it. Does not change who he is. Don't be shallow, some guys like that shit and they would never dream of being gay, he just likes some kink.

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Originally Posted by Smokeychik

Ummm hello? Don't ever say anything to him, that is the WORST advice!!! OMFG! Not only is it none of your business, but you are going to totally interfere with HIS RELATAIONSHIP, he will probably dump that girl for telling. It is SOOOO not your place to mention this to him, Jesus it could rebound and affect more people than you can imagine!

But back to the issue at hand, I have to say this, no one else has that I read, and I did skim through, so sorry if this has been mentioned... that was fucked up of you to listen in on the girls. Girls talk about their sex lives, ever seen Sex in the City? Not sure, you are not in America, anyway, it is IN OUR NATURE as girls... we always talk about our sex lives, our boyrfiends, our periods, everything...this will never ever change. I think it was wrong of you to listen in when you were not suposed to be... so now you just have to suck it up, not litereally, lol, but be a man, and just forget it. Does not change who he is. Don't be shallow, some guys like that shit and they would never dream of being gay, he just likes some kink.

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Why is he so wrong to be preturbed by the fact that his friend likes simulated gay sex?

I think it's wrong to tell him he is wrong for feeling the way he is. He has the right to be disturbed if he wants to be.

Also its wrong for chics to be talking about it, and no not every girl does. If they feel its OK for a guy to talk about evey nook and cranny of the girls body then girls can talk about guys too. But I bet most girls would expect or hope for privacy like guys do. But if a partner decide to goship out their ass thats just the breaks, but it not a given that girl talk is about all they do just like its not a given about guy talk that all details be offered. Sure its OK to say yea they were hot or he/she is a nymph but details should be private both ways. The truth may have been that the girl really got into puting something up his butt and he just said what ever and went with the flow as hes not a homophobe but he may not have really liked it and FAKED it like girls do. Then she told her friend HELL YEA he loved it when in reality he might have though it kinda of lame, but did it anyhow. He may say yea I let her but it was boring and lame and I didn't kill the vibe because I wanted to Fu**. Her saying he liked it may mean nothing, how many times have you heard a guy saying yea she loved it but if you were to ask her she'd say it wasn't that special. The brager is typicaly the one trying to convince others that they are skilled when infact its probably the oppisit.

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Originally Posted by FeastonThisSHITT

Why is he so wrong to be preturbed by the fact that his friend likes simulated gay sex?

I think it's wrong to tell him he is wrong for feeling the way he is. He has the right to be disturbed if he wants to be.

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Hey, I hear ya, I said it was wrong of him to listen in, girl talk is private, LOL. He can feel how he wants to feel, and it is different for guys. I never said he was wrong to feel the way he feels, it was my advice not to be shallow, that's all.

And yes, to the other poster, I forgot your username, 99.9% of girls talk about their sex lives with their girl friends. Just because they tell you they don't, does not mean they don't. Sorry. But it is true, and it is just because girls talk about everything, period, especially sex,:D , that is where we learn new things to try, get advice on stuff and just talk, it is our nature. Granted there are some that might not, but I have never, ever met any that did not like to talk about their sexual experiences with eachother. ;)

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Originally Posted by Smokeychik

Ummm hello? Don't ever say anything to him, that is the WORST advice!!! OMFG! Not only is it none of your business, but you are going to totally interfere with HIS RELATAIONSHIP, he will probably dump that girl for telling. It is SOOOO not your place to mention this to him, Jesus it could rebound and affect more people than you can imagine!

But back to the issue at hand, I have to say this, no one else has that I read, and I did skim through, so sorry if this has been mentioned... that was fucked up of you to listen in on the girls. Girls talk about their sex lives, ever seen Sex in the City? Not sure, you are not in America, anyway, it is IN OUR NATURE as girls... we always talk about our sex lives, our boyrfiends, our periods, everything...this will never ever change. I think it was wrong of you to listen in when you were not suposed to be... so now you just have to suck it up, not litereally, lol, but be a man, and just forget it. Does not change who he is. Don't be shallow, some guys like that shit and they would never dream of being gay, he just likes some kink.

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Technicaly, it's not anyone's business if the guy likes a dildo up his ass.

If a guy likes a dildo up his ass that is his business, not his girlfriend's friends business.

It's in a chicks nature to talk about her sexual relations with her boyfriend? Well it's human nature to kill other humans. Nature doesn't make shit anymore ok in the mind of an embarrasssed individual.

From that logic you could say, "People kill, so why are you against murder?"

Why is it not ok for the guy to listen in to a private conversation between chicks, but it is ok for chicks to talk about something private about their boyfriends to the other chicks? Doesn't make sense.

If he dumps the chick for telling it means he didn't want her to tell anybody else and she violated his privacy.

And as for your reply for my previous message. I was trying to tell you he is not necessarily shallow for looking at his friend diferently because he likes the dildo. Like I said, it is preturbing for some guys to hear that your mate likes simulated gay sex. He simply finds simulated gay sex to be disturbing. That is not being shallow whatsoever.

Personaly, I think it's fucked up for girls to have to be so interested in their other girlfriend's boyfriend's private affairs. But that is just me.

I must be in that .1% (so I've been told)

I would never gossip about my partner behind his back.
That's a deal breaker for me... right up there with cheating.

There's a difference between talking about sex and talking about your partners sexuality.

When you go thru relationships, marriages, ect....
And have respect for your partner...
You talk about sex with your partner.

Secrets between lovers last forever.

your only problem is like you said you live where gay's and Bi's are seldom and look down upon. See were I live its like a mini San Fransico everyone in the city is Pro-gay and they never see a problem with it. I'm not like most folks in my city though. I dont have a problem with gays or BI's but be honest. You see your friend as a freak because you have known him for a while and you don't suspect shit like that. For me if I found out my friend shoved a dildo up his ass I would be ok with it and stuff. I would talk and hangout with him but I would really have to think about having him stay at my place for a night. You won't see your friend the same until you forget this but don't just ignore him just act the same and shit. Oh and if you feel like pulling one of those "confront and talk about it with him" shenanagins DONT!!! Your friend will hate you for even mentioning and dont try to understand what he likes about it ( don't shove something up your ass ) Just chill with him and forget about it.

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Originally Posted by RainyDayWoman

I must be in that .1% (so I've been told)

I would never gossip about my partner behind his back.
That's a deal breaker for me... right up there with cheating.

There's a difference between talking about sex and talking about your partners sexuality.

When you go thru relationships, marriages, ect....
And have respect for your partner...
You talk about sex with your partner.

Secrets between lovers last forever.

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A-fucking-men.

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Originally Posted by RainyDayWoman

I must be in that .1% (so I've been told)

I would never gossip about my partner behind his back.
That's a deal breaker for me... right up there with cheating.

There's a difference between talking about sex and talking about your partners sexuality.

When you go thru relationships, marriages, ect....
And have respect for your partner...
You talk about sex with your partner.

Secrets between lovers last forever.

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Thank you.

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Originally Posted by graph

Some people are black. Some people are white. Some people smoke weed, some people drink. Some people like having dildos shoved up their ass, some people think that you should judge someone differently because of something that doesn't affect them in any way.

In all reality, he's not hurting anyone, or himself or his girlfriend for that matter. Maybe the phobias in your area create a boundary where sexual taboo's can't be discussed. Male anal play is fairly common. Now, it's not my cup of tea, but if my best friend was into it, I wouldn't think of him any differently.

At the end of the day, so what? He's into something that doesn't hurt him or anyone around him, so why do you have a problem with it? In reality, you're the one with the problem, not him. Accept people for who they are, what they shove up their ass.

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ahahahahha fuckin sigged

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Originally Posted by FeastonThisSHITT

Technicaly, it's not anyone's business if the guy likes a dildo up his ass.

If a guy likes a dildo up his ass that is his business, not his girlfriend's friends business.

It's in a chicks nature to talk about her sexual relations with her boyfriend? Well it's human nature to kill other humans. Nature doesn't make shit anymore ok in the mind of an embarrasssed individual.

From that logic you could say, "People kill, so why are you against murder?"

Why is it not ok for the guy to listen in to a private conversation between chicks, but it is ok for chicks to talk about something private about their boyfriends to the other chicks? Doesn't make sense.

If he dumps the chick for telling it means he didn't want her to tell anybody else and she violated his privacy.

And as for your reply for my previous message. I was trying to tell you he is not necessarily shallow for looking at his friend diferently because he likes the dildo. Like I said, it is preturbing for some guys to hear that your mate likes simulated gay sex. He simply finds simulated gay sex to be disturbing. That is not being shallow whatsoever.

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Ok, I get it, I was just trying to stress a point about girls, especially younger ones. Now you are comparing GIRL TALK to MURDER, lol, I am backing out of this one, I have tried to be fair and honest in what I say, but it is obvious we have to agree to disagree on this because that comparison is WAY extreme if you ask me, good lord, girl talk and murder?? Seriously? :p

However I am mature enough to get your point, but I was just being honest. Now that I am married, I keep our bedroom private of course, and I never said that girl that was talking about her guy liking it up the ass was right, I was just making a point that IS WHAT GIRLS DO! PERIOD, hahahaha... And it is with good intentions usually, see when I was a teen, and early twenties, that is how I learned some of the fun and awesome things I still use to this day,(My husband has no comaplaints, heehee). Now of course, pratice was great, but at that young age, girls feel more comfy asking other girls for advice.

And any girl that says she has never had sexy girl talk with her friends, well, if you beleive it, great, but I know better. Take care! ;) :D :smokin: