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Why do guys still look at porn when they have a girlfriend? I was just looking at my browser history on MY laptop and I found about 30 porn sites, which my possibly-soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend told me he viewed while i was at work, or asleep, or upstairs. Is this normal or what? I'm freaking out, someone please tell me what to do.:confused:
I truly believe it's just a completely normal guy thing. Doesn't take away from his feelings about you. They have a lot more sexual urges and impulses than we typically do, and for many many guys, porn is a routine part of their solo sexual time.
Most men are visual, highly sexual creatures. I wouldn't worry about it or feel threatened by it unless you notice that he's spending an obsessively heavy amount of time surfing porn sites and no time at all interacting sexually with you. If he's still hot for you and your intimate relationship is good, just think of the porn as a harmless masturbatory hobby.
Exactly. Imagine every single time you had a romantic thought. Now imagine having those anywhere between ten and three thousand times a day. So he looks at porn. That's the least of your worries. I hate to say this, but if you're considering breaking up with your boyfriend over this, you guys are already through.Quote:
Originally Posted by birdgirl73
Yes, it's normal as long as it's not some sick stuff or he's not JUST watching porn and not meeting your sexual needs. I watch porn all the time with or without my boyfriend. Why don't you watch it with him?
maybe shes not into chicksQuote:
Originally Posted by Cheery Cherry
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Originally Posted by Captain Hanks
dont have to be imo its abt the sex
I am a guy and i watch porn because it's just something sexual i do when i'm not with my gf and i am horny. I don't think less of my gf just because i watch porn. She knows and she doesn't care for porn so we never watch it together. It's harmless. If you do break up with him because of this then that is a bad decision. All guys watch porn.. fact of life. (for most guys atleast.)
Yeah... you're probably all right. I'm just too jealous. It just seemed like the last straw as our relationship has been in trouble for awhile, were actually on a break now and I found the porn today so I think I over-reacted. Thanks for the advice :smokin:
Watch it with the man. It'll titillate and perhaps goes a way to resolving things ;)
wouldnt you prefer him watching porn than going out and meeting up and doing stuff with girls? think so :)
I agree that it can be normal ... and actually helps sometimes ..... a guy can explore/satisfy his fantasies without technically straying outside the relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by Shy Sarah
Sarah, it's also normal for a woman to be upset/concerned. Most women don't get off on porn and don't understand why their guys are doing it. Women interpret it as "he wants somebody else" ....which may not be the case.
The communication level wrt sex, early in relationships, is usually low, and sexual fantasy, even in good relationships, is very complex. This is something that tends to work itself out in mature relationships, if the couple makes it that long.
It's normal. You need to worry if he stops looking at pics and starts chasing the real thing.
Well I dont watch porn that much anymore because the porn industry has died to me. They used to have attractive women but now every xxx model I see looks like a damn crack whore. But I guess it's a habit :p. Probably because I was taught right about sex. See my parents are some of those "omg I dont think I can do this" type of parents but my grandma didnt mind. She came from the times when it was rough and nothing was held back so she taught me basically the way she learned. Basically I was raised by my grandma, my parents never really did shit (seriously). By the time I found out the right way or the way I believe is the right way it was too late so I just continue to do what I already did. It's just a habit man lol.
your grandma taught you how to masturbate?Quote:
Originally Posted by orangeman
You'd be surprised what my grandmother exposed to me :p.Quote:
Originally Posted by yoda
ewww.....fucking EWWWW...thats going in my sig thoughQuote:
Originally Posted by orangeman
ROFL! That was a joke but it was kinda funny xD. But she did give me porn mags hahaha.Quote:
Originally Posted by yoda
When I was growing up, we didn't have adults telling us about sex. We learned about it the traditional way, which was more fun: in the gutter. :thumbsup:
LMFAO! @ orangeman and yoda!
When I was growing up .... there was no internet, DVDs or VCRs .... Porn was played in a dark, smelly movie theater, with a bunch of other guys wearing overcoats in July.Quote:
Originally Posted by Breukelen advocaat
I must admit i enjoy porn much, but i enjoy it most when i watch it with my wife, she is not a lesbian and says she could never imagine being with another female, but i think she does appreciate the beauty of the female body, as do i.
Although Sarah, 30 websites is a bit excessive, i think. i could understand 1 to at MOST 10. But 30? Are you guys sexually active?
only 30 sites!? wtf.
Yeah for real though, Im engaged and my girl knows I look at porn. Shit, sometimes she watches it with me. Kinda wierd at first, but its pretty cool man! :)
well you cant always have ur girl around you and im sure most girls dont wanna have sex 5 times a day. so you should have sex twice a day, and wack it the other 3 times. but if the girl wants to do it 5 times then fuck the wacking
just to let you know, while masturbating, some guys can go through anywhere from 30-100 porn sites in one sitting. so he obviously aint doing it TOO mutch. nothign to break up with him over.
yeah but let's be honest....do we ever think of our gals when we're wanking off?? I love my gal, but I think of porn chicks when im playing wit myself yo. so I think sumtimes gals feels imtimidated coz they know we aint thinking of them....okay sumtimes I do, but it's mostly fantasies we have right?
BLECH! I had a huge long post typed up and everything but now I'm going to shorten it.
Basically, don't worry about porn. He's coming home (or was) to you at night and porn is something that ANYONE can view, it's not personal or intimate, it's basically the same as googling "bewbies". Would you be mad at him for doing that? I wouldn't worry only because of how distant of a sexual act porn is.
Masturbation is "you time" I think, which means you're letting yourself go. I think you don't think of your girly at the time of wanking because you're so lost in fantasies and crazy thoughts that reality is too far gone. Porn stars just happen to be reliable to fulfill your dreams while your chick may not be too down with it. (Some of you boys have some funky fetishes, I will say!)
Make sense? Hopefully
Totally normal.
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Originally Posted by birdgirl73
its all cool unless you find out hes looking at beastiality or gay shit like guys fisting other guys or shit fetishes, lol, i just made myself laugh
i'd only end it over porn if it was kid porn. then you would know the guy just has problems. if its normal porn i wouldnt give it a second thought.
ive been going out wit this girl for like 2 years and i basically get sex on demand..but i still love looking at porn cuz it introduces something different to me and sometimes me and my girlfriend watch it together to get ideas..its totally normal
I watch porn all the time and my g/f...
wait i dont have a g/f
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Originally Posted by Shy Sarah
If you break up with the guy for having a wank, get ready to dump every man you ever have in your life. EVERY man masturbates unless something is wrong. In my experience, EVERY woman i've ever known masturbated as well--just not with pornography.
Personally, I'd be more worried about him if you DIDN'T find porn with him once in a while.
And take it easy on him. This is going to be incredibly embarassing to him.
DONT KNOCK MASTURBATION!!! ITS SEX WITH A PERSON I LOVE!
It's probably important to give credit to the writer of that line, Mr. Woody Allen. . . .Quote:
Originally Posted by KNVB
Very normal. infact u should watch with him
Yes yes...its awfully awfully important to credit that odd little man with coining an inaccurate phrase.Quote:
Originally Posted by birdgirl73
Masturbation is not sex.
Hey avianfemale...while you were at it...did it occur to you to credit the origins of the words in the phrase?
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Don't
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Mmmm...isn't nitpicking fun? :cool: