Uh, Kinda screwed...

Ok, here's the deal: Tonight my gf and me went back to her house to get her listerine stuff for her tongue (she has it pierced and needs to keep it clean) and well, She has a neice (SP?) that is like 3 years old and her neice is actually really smart. So well, me and my gf smoked while she was in the car once and didn't think twice about it. Well, tonight her neice told my gf's whole family during their dinner (me and my gf were not there at the moment) that me and her smoked. Well, her mom just about had a cow. Basically, her mom said the rest of dinner was spent in silence. They said that they expected more from my gf and all this stuff and they thought she was a totally good girl. Now, her mom liked me and all, but now, i think she hates me. Her mom told her that i got marks knocked down on me now because she knows i smoke. This is totally stupid. I mean, my gf is 18 and she can do whatever the hell she wants. I just don't know.. now i feel awkward around her mom. I wish her neice didn't have such a big ass mouth.. stuff like this pisses me off.

but props to the neice for knowin whats up

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Originally Posted by lagstronaut

but props to the neice for knowin whats up

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hahahaha thats what you got from the story lol...
so the neice was there? In the car? Were you hotboxing your neice?

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Originally Posted by Inferius

hahahaha thats what you got from the story lol...
so the neice was there? In the car? Were you hotboxing your neice?

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No, she isn't my neice, she is my gf's neice. The windows were rolled down all the way. She is too smart.. i hate it. It's cause her dad does it a lot and knows what it is. Man, shit sucks.

I hotbox my hamster all the time.

Oh, by the way, you should've told her it was puppies you were smoking. Maybe she would've shook it off. Or she would've been too horrified to speak of it again.

Yeah that is screwed up how annoying is that?Yeah well just try and be cool and hopefully she will get use to it all.Is she relgious?Sounds like it.Just chill out and I hope things settle down for you.:thumbsup: :stoned:

If shes seen her dad do it, they shouldnt b so down on u about it.

just kidnap her dolls and make her say a public confession that it was all a nasty web of lies!! she framed you! go wiv that

Well it is your life so take controll of it. If her mom has a problem with your smoking then that's infact her problem not yours. I really don't see why it's worrying you.

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Originally Posted by rekoms htlaets

Well it is your life so take controll of it. If her mom has a problem with your smoking then that's infact her problem not yours. I really don't see why it's worrying you.

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That is a totally selfish statement and arrogant beyond belief, respect those that don't as much as you do those who do.

Smoking is bad for your health and I can understand her parents reaction since there are more than enough "stupid" stoners out there to make us all look bad,it's kinda like the way people think that all bikers are greasy dirty drug hounds.

The simple truth is that we must accept that for everyone of us who is pro cannabis there is someone who believes (thats their right) that it is a bad thing and we must respect their opinion.Your gf's mom is simply trying to protect her daughter and the only way you are going to convince her that you aren't leading her daughter astray is to be a polite and respectful person, and of course you could always try being a little more discrete.

Just because we choose to do something that if we are honest is not very good for us that doesn't mean that others have to accept it.

Live and let live and when in someones home respect their rules just as you would expect them to respect yours if they were in your home.

If you can show that you also want only good for this womans daughter and be respectful then you have a better chance than if you start being the big man and preaching and telling them "I'm gonna do whatever I want regardless of how you feel".

It's all about RESPECT!

Kids are growing up fast these days...

did she say you were smoking cigarettes or weed or just smoking period..if anythign just say it was a cigarette..kids these days..

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Originally Posted by zeebo phillips

I hotbox my hamster all the time.

Oh, by the way, you should've told her it was puppies you were smoking. Maybe she would've shook it off. Or she would've been too horrified to speak of it again.

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that's just terrible..

Yeah, I got some nieces and nephews around 4-7 years old and I never let them see any of my shit cuz they're pretty damn observant.

Even if they told on me I'd hope that my word (that of a 19 year old) weighs greater with them than that of a 6 year old and just say they were cigs or something.

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Originally Posted by kingdalg

just kidnap her dolls and make her say a public confession that it was all a nasty web of lies!! she framed you! go wiv that

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That too.

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Originally Posted by rekoms htlaets

Well it is your life so take controll of it. If her mom has a problem with your smoking then that's infact her problem not yours. I really don't see why it's worrying you.

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Let's not be too hypocritical. You said "It's your life so take control of it," then in the very next sentence, you tell him that it's not his problem (which it is for smoking in front of someone else that he didn't know wasn't cool with it) and that it's his girlfriend's mom's problem.. where it isn't.. at all.

But anyways, not much that you can do except have your girlfriend talk to her niece about it.

dude sorry to hear that.

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Originally Posted by psychocat

That is a totally selfish statement and arrogant beyond belief, respect those that don't as much as you do those who do.

Smoking is bad for your health and I can understand her parents reaction since there are more than enough "stupid" stoners out there to make us all look bad,it's kinda like the way people think that all bikers are greasy dirty drug hounds.

The simple truth is that we must accept that for everyone of us who is pro cannabis there is someone who believes (thats their right) that it is a bad thing and we must respect their opinion.Your gf's mom is simply trying to protect her daughter and the only way you are going to convince her that you aren't leading her daughter astray is to be a polite and respectful person, and of course you could always try being a little more discrete.

Just because we choose to do something that if we are honest is not very good for us that doesn't mean that others have to accept it.

Live and let live and when in someones home respect their rules just as you would expect them to respect yours if they were in your home.

If you can show that you also want only good for this womans daughter and be respectful then you have a better chance than if you start being the big man and preaching and telling them "I'm gonna do whatever I want regardless of how you feel".

It's all about RESPECT!

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I understand why what I said could be percieved as arrogant. However all I'm saying is that he shouldn't let it worry him so much . Nowhere did i say he should be disrespectful. By no means would I recommend that. But with that in mind he must realize it is in fact his life and respectfully put that across to his girlfriends mother. It's alot better than worrying about the situation and in the process avoiding the mother. Never the less its only a suggestion.

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Originally Posted by SmokingPlatypus

Let's not be too hypocritical. You said "It's your life so take control of it," then in the very next sentence, you tell him that it's not his problem (which it is for smoking in front of someone else that he didn't know wasn't cool with it) and that it's his girlfriend's mom's problem.. where it isn't.. at all.

But anyways, not much that you can do except have your girlfriend talk to her niece about it.

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I may not have expressed myself clearly. What I was refering to when i stated that its not his problem was the fact that his girlfriends mother was presumably angry. All i was trying to get across is that he should stop worrying. I would go on further to state that if its worrying him so much he should in fact find a way to rectify the situation.

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Originally Posted by rekoms htlaets

I understand why what I said could be percieved as arrogant. However all I'm saying is that he shouldn't let it worry him so much.

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Ok I agree and have taken note.

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Originally Posted by rekoms htlaets

Nowhere did i say he should be disrespectful. By no means would I recommend that. But with that in mind he must realize it is in fact his life and respectfully put that across to his girlfriends mother. It's alot better than worrying about the situation and in the process avoiding the mother. Never the less its only a suggestion.

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Things are better if people can discuss opinions openly.

Alright guys, thanks for all the advice! Things have settled down a bit with her mom and all. Me and her mom are cool again and me and her dad have always been cool with eachother. I treat their whole family with tons of respect unless one of her sisters mouth off to me then i tell them a piece of my mind without getting X-rated. But yeah, her neice is very smart.. scares me sometimes. Also, the reason why they don't like it since her neice's dad does it is the fact that the dad of the neice isn't a very good dad. He is always high or drunk and treats his wife with little respect. It's a shame.. hopefully she grows up to be a good girl and not a horrible person. The way she talks though, idk. That neice is surely something out of this world.

how does she talk?

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Originally Posted by lagstronaut

how does she talk?

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Well, she hears the "F" word and basically every other bad word out there from her parents. She sometimes randomly says stuff like, "fuck you bitch" and stuff like that. Today she called my gf a "bad bitch". But yeah.. that neice better go down the right path in life..

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Originally Posted by Mr. TBAGU 420

Well, she hears the "F" word and basically every other bad word out there from her parents. She sometimes randomly says stuff like, "fuck you bitch" and stuff like that. Today she called my gf a "bad bitch". But yeah.. that neice better go down the right path in life..

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dude you should tell her not to say that stuff or she'll get in shit in like junior kindergarten

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Originally Posted by lagstronaut

dude you should tell her not to say that stuff or she'll get in shit in like junior kindergarten

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Oh, i do. Me and my girl friend tell her every day that she says that stuff to not say it and that those words are not accepted (at her age it surely isn't). Her mom doesn't do shit about it from what i have seen. Her grandparents do though, they hit her and tell her that those words are bad and that she can't say them.

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Originally Posted by Mr. TBAGU 420

She has a neice (SP?) that is like 3 years old and her neice is actually really smart. So well, me and my gf smoked while she was in the car once and didn't think twice about it.

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That's where you messed up at and that's why it's a big deal. What you and your GF want to do is fine but you shouldn't involve someone who has no choice in the matter. You're lucky the kids father didn't hand you your hide cause that's what I would have done in a scenario like that.

The best thing you can do to make ammends is own up to your mistake, recognize why it was bad, and don't repeat it.

If I were grown and my gf was grown I wouldnt give a shit if they knew I smoked. The only reason I dont like for people to know I smoke as of now is because I know my dad wont like it. But when I get older I dont give a fuck, no one can stop me from smoking this natural herbal God put on this Earth for me and you :).

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Originally Posted by orangeman

If I were grown and my gf was grown I wouldnt give a shit if they knew I smoked. The only reason I dont like for people to know I smoke as of now is because I know my dad wont like it. But when I get older I dont give a fuck, no one can stop me from smoking this natural herbal God put on this Earth for me and you :).

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I don't really give a shit that they know that i smoke. It's not their life it's mine. Also, I would never quit just cause they don't like it. But yeah, mary jane is one sweet lady. :smokin: